Karla - posted on 10/26/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hello moms out their i need some advice or just anyone that will listen so i am 23 and my husband is 25 we have a beautiful amazing 4 year old son, we have been married for 5 years this december and we have been talking a lot about having or not having another baby our finances are not in the best place right now i got laid of we had some emergencies that made us use all of our savings and ended back up at the in laws home we have a lot of debt schools loans and other stuff he has a good job but we can not afford another baby and now we dont know if we should even consider having Another baby ever. i want one more but he doesn't want another i completely understand because is though for us with only 1 and with no help from any one we have also done everything on our own since the beginning we havent even had a date in 4 years because of the same reason. and my husband wants to get a vasectomy im so heart broken but then again i say to my self im lucky i even had 1 child which a lot of women cant even have that opportunity but i cant help but to get sad i dont want to force my husband to have another baby i already have the mirena IUD and next year is my last year what should i do? will our marriage be the same? will i be the same? will my son feel lonely? i need advice from moms who have an only child or are a only child im going crazy i know im still young i want to finish medical school and be able to give my son what he needs and help us out but i dont want to wait 7 more years for another to start all over i want another baby HELP.