Jane - posted on 06/20/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My husband and I have a foster son (who has been ours since he was 3 months old). We found out that he was addicted to crack at birth. The first year was hell. By the time he was 2 years old he was in an attach program for kids with behavior problems. He began showing signs of depression at age 4 and started talking about suicide at age 6. We had him enrolled in a Private school for Kindergarten through Second grade, but he was kicked out after 2nd grade for defiance. Since then he has been on Resperidone for psyschosis. He is now 15 years old and has been in counseling sine the attach program. The past 2 years have been worse than anything. He verbally abuses me (when my husband isn't around), he blames everything bad on me (or his sister, or birth mom). He knows he has psychosis and blames his behavior on that. We can't ask him to lift a finger for help around the house. He either gets mad or refuses to do it, saying it's not his job. I am an elementary teacher who has been able to handle many difficult situations before, but am at a loss as to how to handle him. I've been through an intensive year-long parenting class that comes into our house and watches the interaction between the child and parent. The instructor tells me that I'm doing a great job and that he is just a difficult child. Last night my child was listening to music on my computer and had my earbuds in and I asked if he was finished. He said yes, and I put the earbuds in to listen to something and it about busted my eardrums (I have asked him not to use mine because he blows out a pair every week). When I told him not to turn up the speakers so loud, he began yelling at me that I always blame him for everything and that he hates us. He called me a "dick" and and began telling me all the horrible things he "believes I do". I ignored him but he just kept yelling at me. When I tell my husband the words he has called me, he just says "sorry" and doesn't do anything. He says that we have to treat him differently because of his illness. He has been hospitalized once for mental illness, and anytime I talk about having him hospitalized he is on good behavior for a day or two. I feel like I'm forced to put up with this abuse and just let the time pass, but not sure I can continue.