Micki - posted on 02/09/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have two sons: one is a 30 yr old with Aspergers Syndrome; a very happy, confident, intelligent man. I also have a younger son who has cut our whole family out of his life after finding his love. We have no idea why, only that we gave him love, supported him through his whole life so he could follow his dreams, and thought we would always be very close even when he found his love. Our sincerest hope was to have a daughter to love as much as we love our sons.. All our hopes vanished when he met and married a girl who we tried with all of our heart to bring into our family. I think she came into the relationship knowing that she would not love, not even like her in-laws, but I don't know this for sure. As things progressed, our relationship with our son has deteriorated to nothing. He has cut us all off; parents, brother and even grandparents. I, being mom am devastated to the core as I am blocked from email, phone, Facebook and even LinkedIn. Feels like someone has stuck a burning knife into my heart and keeps twisting it over and over. I haven't seen my son for coming on three years and last I heard his voice was a very short conversation with him on Mother's Day. I mistakenly kept telling him how much he was hurting us not knowing it would drive him away. Both of them have written to me that I was, rude, trying to break up their marriage, and my son told my husband that I was a bad mother. I live a thousand miles away and have only seen my DIL a few times and we don't even know each other. My son has a Doctorate and my DIL is almost finished with divinity school. Why did they send me to hell before I even died? Therapy, ant-depressants, even hospitalization doesn't touch my agony. Try to keep busy with life, family and friends but all i want is to give my son a hug. I love and miss him so much. Happy Birthday, dear one and know that my love is always here for you. Thanks for listening to my long, sad story...sometimes all that is left is HOPE.