Very rude and disrespectful 7 year old!

Kristine - posted on 08/15/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi ladies!
I look after a child nearly 7 and she had always been quite stubborn and had a bit of a mean and selfish streak. This past month though she will do anything and everything to be rude, spiteful, disrespectful - she gets to my home by 6:15am and my own kid is still asleep. I provide quiet activities tv, books, coloring, toys and interact with her as well of course, however she will yell, jump on the bed, kick the wall, do things to her other siblings to try to get them to cry or join in her behavior. She quits this once my own child wakes up though. When I tell her to stop it escalates or she simply says, 'I don't need to listen to anyone because I do what is fun'. This behavior continues throughout the day ie. jumping on furniture, grabbing from the other kids, scaring the younger kids, it goes on and on. I physically need to put this child in timeout and then she keeps leaving or bawls like a baby. I make her stay but feel this is ridiculous. Her 2 other siblings behave just fine and I don't expect perfection(kids will be kids) I find this 100% unacceptable. This behavior is also only directed towards women. She will listen to dad most of the time. I want to try to help be a part of the solution if I can, but i csn only go so far. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? Any suggestions welcome!
Ps I also get the impression that this child enjoys behaving like this. I am also consistent with discipline and never let big things 'slide'.


Susan - posted on 08/15/2011




Hello Kristine, I am the mother of six children ages 25 to 15. I can relate to your problem as my oldest child was very difficult to manage. Three points of advise may help. Number one, stay calm. The adult should be strict but calm. Never get pulled into having your own temper tantrum. Number two, the best solution is to teach self discipline, which is trickier than punishing. You want this child to learn to control her own body and by putting her back into the time out chair again and again, you will eventually win this battle of wills. Lastly, pray for God to help you see the good in this child. Remember that those that are hardest to love usually need love the most. God listens...of this I am sure.

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