Alicia - posted on 02/18/2013
It was affecting his grades and I had taken it away. He is doing much better at school now. I also think that he falls back to the Xbox because he plays with his friends from middle school. Now that he is a freshman I don't think he has many friends. He doesn't have any chores to do at home even though he knows he should keep his room clean (which it is not). He does his own laundry though. His birthday is coming up and he wants better Internet or a better controller for the Xbox .. But I think I will take your advise and reenforce what is expected of him. I thank you so very much.
Liz - posted on 02/18/2013
Up to a point it's normal; most kids go through a moody and uncooperative phase at his age. However, it needs to be addressed.
How much does he play the Xbox? Does he have unfettered access to it in his room and thus sit up half the night? Is it affecting his school grades? Is he otherwise a sociable kid or only through the Xbox medium? I'm a games player myself, incidentally, and my household has 4 computers and an Xbox, plus my 3 year old has a Leap Pad 2, but I believe in boundaries and limits for those who are under 18. Addictive patterns of behavior cannot go unchallenged.
If he's always moody and doesn't want to be polite, pleasant and helpful around the house, I personally would have a talk with him and point out what is actually expected of him as a functioning, almost-adult in the household. Make it clear what you want from him. Be reasonable. Set boundaries. Do you want him to do a daily chore? A weekly one? Do you want a maximum amount of time spent on the Xbox in a night? Does he have to ensure that his schoolwork and chores are done first? Turn it off by a certain time of night? Etc etc.
Also make it clear that these things need to happen or X-box privileges will be curtailed.
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