Violent temper tantrums

Kelsey - posted on 03/22/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter has severe, violent temper tantrums. She's 18 months old and this has been going on for about 4 or 5 months. Just about anything will trigger them. She is one of the sweetest little girls you will meet, but when she doesn't get her way or is tired she will have a huge fit. I've tried everything I can think of and just can't get them to stop. She bangs her head on the floor. If I don't get to her in time or walk away during the tantrum she will bang her head hard enough to the point it will start bleeding. She often gives herself bruises and scars on her forehead. It's so bad that the same spot that gets hit on never gets a chance to fully heal. She will also scratch, pinch, hit, and bite me. She's moved to biting herself and often leaves marks. I can't just walk away as she will just continue her fit and cause herself serious harm. I have to pin her down, keep tossing her back on my bed, or just wrap my arms around her and swaddle her with my body. Her fits last anywhere between 30mins and 3hrs. Any ideas for my daughter?

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Dove - posted on 03/22/2016

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If the doctor refuses to take you seriously... seek a second opinion or demand a referral to a child psychologist or you can try contacting Easter Seals directly (in the US) and see if they can help you or point you in the direction for help.

Dove - posted on 03/22/2016

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Please take her to her doctor and tell them about this... and ask to have her evaluated. Yes, tantrums (even wicked ones) are perfectly normal for this age, but if she is hurting herself repeatedly and NOT stopping when she starts to feel pain... it is highly possible that there are special circumstances to your child that require a higher level of professional intervention to handle.

Kelsey - posted on 03/22/2016

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Distracting her doesn't help either. She will just throw anything I hand her. I almost completely stopped trying that after she broke my lip open throwing her cup at me. Of course I still try with soft toys or something but same outcome every time. Every she throws it she will just cry even more and scream mine just to throw it again. And she is on a pretty regular schedule, of course with my work schedule and depending on the sitter it differs occasionally, but I have talked with sitters to try keeping her set schedule. That doesn't make much of a difference. Any other ideas? I don't mean to sound like I'm pushing off your suggestion, just I don't know what else to try.

Katherine - posted on 03/22/2016

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I have seen many mother struggling with such tantrums. You must talk to your doc about it
Though I would not suggest leaving her alone since she is hurting herself. Make sure she follows a routine eg eats on the, and sleep schedule etc. A hungry and cranky child is tougher to manage than just a cranky child. Try to remain calm I know it's easier said than done but when we get upset they sense it even before we know it.
Try music like calming lullaby.. I saw a couple of them on YouTube which have soft music and just colored bubbles or stars. These can grab ur little ones attention for a while. Distraction does help. Hide a few toys and give them when she get s upset. And talk her though the days schedule so she is kinda prepared what's coming next. toddlers love routine. Hope this helps. I hope this phase passes smoothly for you and ur little one.

Kelsey - posted on 03/22/2016

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She will just rip off socks. She gets pissed off if I put anything on her during a temper tantrum. And she likes wearing socks and mittens, but it's a game she takes them off, puts them on, and so on. Family doctor states she's probably just hitting terrible two's early

Trish - posted on 03/22/2016

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socks used as mittens can help. The age is full of tantrums. What has the ped said?

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