Anonymous - posted on 11/27/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )
My sons dad and I split up in 2008. This was a year after my son was born. We went to establish custody and we both agreed with I being the primary caretaker, him get 12 days a month for visits. After this was established in the court, and everything was settled, my sons father denied his visits for a full year after it was over. I took him back to court and lessened his visits to 8 days a months instead. After this he continued to not take his son. He got a girlfriend, they got married and had a child together and for once he kept up with his visitation for a year. Once they broke up he stopped taking him again. I told him I understood what he was going through and if he needed some time to collect his thoughts then I understood. (Not that parenting should be put on hold when situations like these happen.) Three months pass and he comes over with his daughter to see my son. Leaves and it was a continuous thing 7 times total out of a total year that he came to see his other child. Never took him whatsoever. I messaged him telling him that I didn't feel it was right that he took one child and not the other. I told him that our child was feeling left out that he seen his dad leave with his half sister and his father refuses to take him with every time. He constantly bashes me with "he's not my child."... "hes a bastard" and all these harmful things to hurt me and hurt my son. Luckily our son hasn't heard him say such things. True dead beat at that. He manipulates me in using our child as a tool to upset me just because he knows that he can. He knows that he don't have to take his son and there is nothing that will be done about it.... He don't care about our son and he obviously is using him to as means to have a sense of authority. Wouldn't this be child endangerment or child neglect? Also I have him blocked on facebook so he can't harass me anymore, but he has my phone number and house number to keep if he so chooses to take his son. I feel stuck and in a catch 22. I know there is nothing I can do to stop him from taking my son with the current order, I don't know whether I should take him back to court or just leave it as is, and with having him blocked on facebook, I feel he could or would use this against me in court even though he has other means of getting in contact VIA phone and in person being we live around the corner from each other... Help?