Kay - posted on 08/31/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I'm taking my sons dad to court for a paternity test (he's out of state). Some people say if he's a dead beat then who cares. I'm doing it for my son because his fathers family is spreading rumors it's not his. Culturally it's going to be bad for my son because people will look down on him and say things about me being a whore and how he doesn't have a dad. So in all honesty I'm doing it to prove his family wrong but to protect my son as he grows up.
So with establishing paternity he will have visitation rights and possibly as my son gets older he'll get him for holidays and ect. The thing is I'm looking for full custody. If his dad wants to see him then him and only him (no family) can come to my state to see his son. His family kicked me out because of 1 confrontation and then his parents said if I loved their son that I would live in their machine shop where there is no shower or place to sleep to prove my love ect. I was 5 months pregnant and had my 9yr old daughter. He was at a lost and couldn't choose. So I had to return back home to my state because I was homeless (I couldn't put my daughter through that). He was very lost.
But now he's cut off all communication for a month now. He would never call me knowing I was in the hospital. He has not provided for our child. And when I messaged him to be civil about things so I don't have to take him to court he won't respond. Will the court favor my parenting plan because of his actions? He abandoned us because his relatives and parents refused him to marry me. He put me and my daughter in danger by not being able to provide a home but to only live in a machine shop. And now he's cut off all communication even when I tried being civil. I'm confident I have a strong case in court but in a way I'm worried. I just don't want his family to go near my son. I don't want my son growing up in an enmeshed environment thinking it's okay to treat others the way his family treated me. The father thinks that his family is capable of loving his son even though they kicked me out and tried to force me to live like that while I was pregnant with him. And they only gave me 2 hours to pack up whatever I could.