visiting jail

Alina - posted on 10/22/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is special needs he is 17 his dad is in jail and has been pressuring me to bring him, we are separated. My son wants to see him i'm terrified that he will realize where his dad is. I made up a story about him working and not being able to visit him. Should I bring my son I don't know how he will react if he realizes I lied to him.


Chet - posted on 10/22/2014




I think you need to tell your son the truth. Special needs or not. He should see his father, and he should know the truth about where he is. It's better for you to tell him than for him to figure it out on his own.

It's okay for kids to know that everyone makes mistakes - even parents. You can tell him that his father made mistakes that landed him in prison. You made a mistake in lying about where his dad was. You can explain that sometimes people make mistakes with good intentions. I'm sure that you hoped to protect your son.

For some kids, it would be more comforting to know that prison was the reason for an absentee parent. A parent in prison really can't come to see you. A parent who goes away to work could get a new job or take vacation.

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