Visits advice

Amy - posted on 01/09/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I just found out that my daughters father is dating a 15 yr old girl and he is over the age of 18. I do not feel comfortable with my daughter around that. What can I do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/10/2014

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Toni, that's not the point here though. First of all, the laws depend on the state, and the age of consent. Some states, it's 14. Some states it's 16, but if the parents agree with the relationship, it's not illegal.

The question was what can teh OP do to keep her kid away from the gf. The answer is, unless the person is proven a danger to the child, there's not a lot she can do about who her ex associates with, and who is around when the ex has the child.

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Dove - posted on 01/11/2014

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Age of consent where I am in 16, so after November you wouldn't be able to do anything about it legally (if you were here) anyway.....

A 5 year age difference at this stage in life is a pretty big thing, but if her mother doesn't care... It's probably not worth you making an issue out of it. Do you have any concerns about the girl OTHER than her age? Cuz generally speaking... 15 year old girls are pretty adoring of little kids.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2014

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Toni, I agree with Shawnn, no matter the relationship he has with the 15 year old, she still can't keep the father from seeing the child. If it is an illegal relationship, she can certainly report it, but if it isn't, well, not much can be done.

Toni-Lynn - posted on 01/10/2014

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if the mother is "ok" with it then she is just as guilty! He is breaking the law, just like Jodi above said, IT IS NOT OK! would you be ok with your 15 yr old daughter dating a 21 yr old man? whether its consentual or not, it's against the law

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/09/2014

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Unless he's proven to be a danger to the child, or its proven that when he's with gf he is endangering the child, there is nothing you can do about visits.

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2014

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Well, if he is breaking the law, he will not be allowed near her anyway. With regard to visits, is this the only reason you have an issue with visits? Just remember your daughter has a right to a relationship with her dad. If this situation is legal, then there is not much you can do about that.

Amy - posted on 01/09/2014

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I am looking up the laws right now. Am I able to do anything as far as visits go?

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2014

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That's just wrong. And her parents are ok with that??? Wow. But I would definitely look into it.

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2014

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Hmmm, not sure about that. I wouldn't think so. It's worth a try. How old is he?

Amy - posted on 01/09/2014

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that's what I was goig to do but I was told that as long as her (the 15 yr old) mother was ok with it that it is legal.

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