visits after 9 yrs

Torie - posted on 02/13/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i have a question my son is gonna be nine and i just got a email stating he want to see his son the last time he saw him was when he was four months old my husband has been his father and takin care of him i need some input the man pays childsupport but all of a sudden wants to see him do you think the court will grant him visits

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Torie - posted on 02/13/2012

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but thanks for your input and thereasoning is he live a better life now to me that is no excuse for leaving your blood behind

Torie - posted on 02/13/2012

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yeah but my son doesnt even no this guy that would be traumatising to a nine yr old thats my veiw anyway

Erin - posted on 02/13/2012

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From what I've seen happen before, yes, the courts will probably grant him some visitation. Unless your son's "sperm donor" would be abusive or would be dangerous to be around, I wouldn't make a huge fuss about it. Find out why after all this time he wants to visit. Maybe he's turned over a new leaf and is honestly trying to correct past mistakes. Maybe it's sadder than that and he's been told he only has so long to live and wants to know the son he carelessly tossed aside. Once you understand the reasoning, tell your son about it in a positive light: he gets to have two fathers. At nine, your son is old enough to have you explain things to him and understand if this doesn't work out with his biological father that it is not his fault. Good luck.

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