Walking to school

Girlio - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 95 moms have responded )

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I live in a city (Calgary, Alberta, Canada) with my man. There is a possibility that by the end of the summer we will have his 2 kids living with us. That means going to school in September. I have no children of my own and grew up in a small town where all the kids on the block walked to school together without a parent as young as grade 1. Now times have definitely changed (I mean back then we didn't even lock the house door!) The oldest is 8 and in grade 3. The youngest is 5 and will be starting kindergarten. Both of us work at 7am.

There is before/after school care that we are looking into etc. But I am exploring all options, ideas in case we are faced with this scenario sooner or later.

What age is it appropriate for children to walk to/from school alone without an adult? When I say alone, I don't be by one's self as that is totally inappropriate for any age of school kid, I mean with other children but no adult. An example would be the 8 yr old and 5 year old walk together TO school from a sitters and I would be able to pick them (preferably with other children from the neighbourhood if possible, not just the 2 of them).

I am not saying that this is what will happen, I am asking for opinions or advice as to what other mothers see as appropriate/acceptable.

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User - posted on 08/16/2009

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Some of the replies that have been posted are shocking and disturbing. Mums please, think logically, firstly things are no different now than they ever have been safety wise, its just now we have mass media that thrives on public interest in crimes against children, we are constantly being bombarded with info about horrific incidents, which are actually very rare. We can not live our lives in constant fear every time we leave our homes. Secondly, and very importantly, we should never bombard our children with our worries about their safety, they will grow to believe the world is dangerous place and imminent danger is around every corner. Anxiety disorders are guaranteed to follow when they become adults. A ten year old child is perfectly capable of walking to school alone, if you have given them all the necessary road-safety guidelines, don't talk to strangers lectures, etc. They have to learn to trust the world, or what kind of life are we setting them up for?

Heather - posted on 08/09/2009

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I live in the country, always have so walking to school is really not an option, too far to walk. However, if we lived in town (walking distance away) I would feel more comfortable with our child walking to school (he is only 5 months now, may feel different later) And only if he was walking when many other children were in a neighborhood and we had discussed many aspects of how to do this safely. I think it depends on the location, age of the child and maturity too.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Carol, your fears are reasonable. I was scared stiff when I started allowing my son to walk to school (he was also 8). We live in a city (not a large one, but population about 350,000). I think your feelings are perfectly normal. I used to watch the clock, because I knew exactly how long it should take for him to get home. But despite my fears, I knew I had to allow him to develop his own indpendence. Believe me, a couple of times he was late, and I started walking to school to find him in a panic!! It was just that he was dawdling with some friends after school. He is now 12, and I still worry when he is off on his own (or even with friends). I don't think we ever stop worrying something might happen to our children. But I just know I can't let my fears stifle his need to grow.

Having said that, however, my son is actually quite mature for his age, and incredibly conscienscious (sp?). My step-son is 10, and if he had lived with us, I wouldn't have let him do the same thing at the same age because he is very immature for his age. It is only in the last 6 months that we have started giving him the same level of independence, and even then, only if he is with my son. He is just very scatterbrained, LOL. It's just part of his very sweet personality. But he is the type of kid who never looks before he crosses a road because he "forgets", whereas my son is very structured in his approach to things.

So really, it is absolutely normal to fear for them and panic at times, but as parents, we all know our kids personailities best, and we need to make our decisions based on what we believe our kids are capable of individually, and not make our decisions based on our own fears.

Cindy - posted on 08/06/2009

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Ok I live in Edmonton. Not Far from Calgary. In my day kids didn't kill each other, kids didn't get into drugs, you know, the good old days.
I just quit my job to raise the kids, it was a good decision here. I will go back to work when the kids go to school.
Now, your sitch is different. And you have a good question. You can't let the kids walk themselves. Even in pairs they can be taken away. You need to get to know your neighbors and make friends near by. You need a trustworthy friend to walk the kids for you while you go to work and before you get home.
It's my understanding that a home with before/after care works with a specific school. In Edmonton we have schools that run the before/after care. You don't drop Jr at a house, but at the school they attend. However, if you are lucky the home you are looking into should deliver your kids to the school for you. Just do your homework.

Until the kids are in highschool I would not let them walk with out an escort. That's just me.
Out here, their school is 3 blocks away from our home, they take Playschool to grade 12. I don't have to worry about busses, lucky me.

Isobel - posted on 08/06/2009

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I think the difference between letting them walk together and not stay home together, is that the walk is amongst hundreds of neighbours and friends, it only takes a few minutes, and the children (provided they are properly trained) are on a direct path.

I think that our generation is robbing our children of the opportunity to grow and learn independence.

sorry, just my thoughts

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Sarah - posted on 08/31/2016

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Kimberly- this is quite an old thread. You may want to start a new post if you want any feedback to your comment.

Kimberly Ann Marie - posted on 08/31/2016

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I see nothing wrong with it. My neice is 6 and i let her walk to school alone for the 1st time today, she was on her way when someone called the police and said that there was a lost child, she is a very smart very intelligent girl and knew exactly where she was going, as i had walked her to the street the school was on, it was about 3 blocks away. Not only did they say she was a lost child but they said i never walked her down to the street the school is on. So be very careful of how the police are in your area, they called DCFS on us, and i now have to talk to the police officer and explain the situation. We will never let her walk agin because even though she is very smart and has the maturity of a 10 year old, they treat her like she is a baby. She looks younger then she is so they targeted her.

Kathy - posted on 10/24/2009

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I live in Glasgow in Scotland. I have two boys at school, one aged nearly 7 in primary3 and one aged nearly 5 who has just started school. I have let the older one wak to school - although he tends to go on his bike. it takes about 10 minutes and there is a lollipop lady at the main road. (I always check she is there and would wait in car to cross him if not) The rest of the way he meets his friends and stays on the footpath. I've told him what to do if someone asks him to get in their car.
i think at some point you have to give your children the responsibility to make their own decisions. I also worry more about traffic than about somebody taking them.

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Quoting Sharon:

Look even if the world isn't any more dangerous now than it was when we were kids - knowing how violent and scary people can be towards children - is it appropriate for children to be left alone ever?

Until my kids have mass similar to an adult and a black belt in martial arts - i'm not letting them out of my sight or a trusted adults sight.

Why would someone gamble with their childrens lives? Thats so sick.


many many of the hurt children are hurt by people they know and trust.  Those trusted adults can't always be trusted. No, children shouldn't be left alone, but a group of children isn't "alone".



I'm a mom in a wheelchair who couldn't defend her children physically to save her life - by your standards I shouldn't take them into public.  I believe children can be taught to be safe in certain situations tho, while we exercise great caution. 



Only the parents will know if the children are ready for this step. Talk to your husband and to the kids mom - and listen to your heart.  There have been many great suggestions on here as well.  Sometimes we are in situations where we have to do what we do not like - but sometimes there are answers we never knew existed. 



I hope at the end of these messages to find out how it's going. :)

Val - posted on 10/16/2009

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To me if your child was 10 and 5yrs yip they can walk with each other..I don't really know what Canada is like. I can't see why not with other children with out Adult around but i would have an adult with the children because they are young ones..Well thats my opinion..Good luck from New Zealand

Alisa - posted on 10/16/2009

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First of all I don't know how big your city is, that is definately a big factor. I just recently let my ten year old walk to school on nice days, we live in a very small town, but we are incorperated. We live about 5 blocks from the school, but the trek there is very busy with other kids and teachers on their way to school too, and most people know each other around here, so that's a plus. The biggest thing is to prepare both children about Stranger Danger, and to give them some plans if that were to ever become a situation.

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I remember walking to school with my sister and no adult and always had in my mind that my kids would do the same - but apparently I no longer feel the same way. I too dont believe that the world is necessarily more dangerous - but I do think that the nature of crime has changed and there is no way I would risk having my kids taken and/or abused by walking anywhere unaccompanied. Just my opinion. My first thought would be to try and befriend another mother in the area who can escort your kids when they are also walking their own to school

Rhonda - posted on 10/16/2009

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im sorry but i think they are too young to be walking to school by themselves.when the get to be 16 then yea they will be mature enough.some kids mature faster than others but if you wait till they are 16 then you know they will be old enough.so many children get kidnapped these days.they need to be old enough and big enough to defend themselves if they ever get into a predicument.

Val - posted on 10/04/2009

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When mine were young i use to walk with them until they got confident to do it themselves.I loved walking with them it was fill of laughter on the way to school..My step son Ben 10yrs he walks by his self the school isn't far from home plus he don't like me walking with him it's a boy thing lol.

Carolyn - posted on 09/04/2009

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My son is turning 7 the school is three blocks away but I wouldnt let him walk to school with the older 10 yo next door .... I read in Raising boys by Steven Biddulph that boys eyesight is not fully developed until they are ten years old and even with a tenyo girl she is tooo young to look after other children and I often see her leaving her 5yo brother crossing on his own.

Rhonda - posted on 08/28/2009

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Hi I have a 9 year old daughter and she is very road wise however I would never allow a child of that age to walk to school. It is more to do with not trusting the poeple they may come in contact with. I also have a 16 year old and I drive him to school as well, I allowed him to ride once when he was 14 and was very worried about his safety. Call me overprotective or just cauious...

Hope I have helped in your decision making

Tamara - posted on 08/27/2009

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I have 2 sons, 6 & 8 years old and would like to think that the september when they are turning 8 & 10 I might be able to trust them to be aware of their surroundings enough and focus on road safety enough to allow for them to ride their bikes/skateboards etc to school on their own. I sure wouldn't be able to allow them to do it right now and feel comfortable about it no matter how close to the school we lived.

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At that age I would not let my child(ren) walk to school. My son was 12 when he started walking home but he had a cell phone for emergencies, was taught NOT to go with strangers and HAD to call both me ( at work) and his grandmother as soon as he got home. this worked out well for us.

Angela - posted on 08/17/2009

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I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone, or so it seems. We only live about six blocks from the school and my children are 8 and 5 also. There is no way I would let them walk to school on there own. I looked on the state sexual predator reqistery and found out that five, count them FIVE, offenders live in this tiny little town. I would recommend an adult whenever possible!!

Brandy - posted on 08/17/2009

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My oldest (11) will be walking my second child (6) to school and back - two blocks. I think walking together as a group is the safest thing to do. I want my kids to be safe, but I don't want them to live in a bubble as many people are doing these days. When I was between your kids ages, I rode my bike, walked, and played all over town with friends and family. I never went anywhere without a friend or sibling with me though until I was 11 or 12.

Paulette - posted on 08/17/2009

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8 and 5 is too young, its better to be safe when it comes to kids!! ,maybe if you guys have family around they could help, or a close friend you could trust, or one of you guys go on a different shift, one on days and one on nights, my husband and I did that for a long time, we didn't like it, but the kids come first, so we did what we had to do!!!!!!!

Kryss - posted on 08/16/2009

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Living in a small town myself, my child doesnt live too far from the school yet he catches the bus..at the drive way. Unsure i would let my lil one walk to school, just isnt a safe world anymore, but to each their own .....but, i gather different places different people but in my theory i would take my kid to the bus stop or walk them to school ..gives time to talk and spend time with your kids as well:)

Emma - posted on 08/14/2009

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I'm a first time parent, and I would tell you straight that children learn road sense off you and should be ready by the age of 7 for girls maybe 8 for boys. I just know from experience and also share your concern for road safety and there's nothing wrong with being a little protective of your child. Hope this helps :-)

Girlio - posted on 08/11/2009

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Thank you everyone for all your help! I think we may have a solution to this conundrum should the situation arise.

The child care we were looking into is a friend in the neighbourhood we live in a townhouse and she lives across the parking lot in the same complex, she hasn't looked after school aged children before, so given that she has a bunch of toddlers it would be tough receiving all children and packing everyone up to go to school; I wouldn't think to ask her to pick up or drop off.

SO fortunately there is also a retired lady in the complex that walks everyday to the school to volunteer to help with reading, so we will be asking her if the kids could walk to school with her and home with her and if she would mind picking them up at the sitters place and dropping off. She loves our kids and they quite like her too.

Hopefully it all works out if we are fortunate enough and my wishful thinking grants us custody of the chillins!

THANX GIRLS!!

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I understand what you mean..I walked to school starting 1st grade and yes, times were different. Where I used to live, I would never have let my son walk to school and in fact put him in a private school that I drove him to. We have since moved, last September in fact to a great area where you can let an 8 yr old walk the dog by himself. My son is now 10 and about to go into 5th grade, and we live 0.4 miles from the school. Last year he was driven and stayed for after-school care because we both work. He is wanting to walk...I am considering letting him walk to school, but not home because he would be by himself for 3 hours until I was home from work. If we did let him walk, I think it would be a good idea to get a cell phone that only calls us or 911. Maybe you should consider the same...

Consuelo - posted on 08/11/2009

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I think it's ok depending on how mature the children are. I have a 14 year old, a 8 year old, a 5 year old and a almost 4 year old and I have been letting the kids walk by themselves when they were ready and I felt like they were comfortable enough to walk back and forth to and from school.

Marci - posted on 08/09/2009

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In our neighborhood we're considering a walking bus. Invite the neighborhood to walk together in groups. Make some plans together, learn safety tips, & agree on travel times, etc. If the parents share information, buses can rearrange when parents schedules change or someone gets sick, etc.

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How far will the children have to walk if needed? And if they are at a sitters whats the possibility of them walking the children? Or bussing, I know several children whom get picked up at one place and dropped off at another its all about bussing schedules but is possible so they dont have to walk. If its realy that much of a situation put them in the befor and after school program where you can drop them off and pick them up and know they are safe. I live 1 mile from our school in a country setting I suppose you would call it and I have let my now almost 15yr old son go to school by himself for the last 2 yrs. I truly will come down to what you are most comfortbale with but I think that at the age of 8 and 5 they should NOT walk together with out an adult. Hope you find the answers your looking for.

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I haven't read all the other posts, so not sure if it's been suggested, but what about setting up a 'walking bus'. I've worked on a project where we built a new community & one of the initatives was a walking bus, where an adult from the neighbour hood 'walked & picked up all the kids that were going to the same school (we ended up using a teacher from the school in the beginning until a parent volunteered as she was walking anyway). They have a set route like the bus, & do pickup & drop offs. It works for this community, which now has about 40 on the walking bus. Just a thought.

Cecilia - posted on 08/08/2009

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In this day and age, with so much evil lurking and dirty minds waiting to pounce on our innocent children, I would say no. Find a way to take them to and from school yourself or get some help. I wish you all the best.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Meg, it is great that you are looking at all the options. I am pretty sure, once you are in contact with the school, they will either have a before and after school program, or if not, they would be able to point you in the right direction. There would be many parents in the same situation as you, and schools are well aware of this. It is the more expensive option, but what you should do, is then get involved in the school community activities as much as you can and get to know some of the other parents. You may make friends with some SAHMs who would happily help you out. Your options could open up for you then. And in a few years, you will be able to reassess the situation as the kids get older.

Carol - posted on 08/07/2009

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My daughter is now 8 and after the holidays she will enter her fourth year at school (Primary 4 here in Scotland). Until now the school would not release her from school until a prearranged adult was there to collect her. Now she is in Primary 4 she leaves school at a later time and is expected to walk home alone. I am worried sick about it. We live in a little country village but you can get weirdos anywhere surely. She will also have to cross a tricky crossroad and walk down a road with no pavement on it. I had planned just to walk up for her as normal but I am told they get teased if they are still collected. I would rather she was teased than hit by a car or met someone unpleasant. I was considering meeting her at the shop in the village which is about 100 yards from the school and requires no road crossing. Do you think I am robbing her of her independance or are my fears reasonable?

Terri - posted on 08/07/2009

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I had a similar situation... I found a child in the 5th or 6th grade who was a sister of a neighborhood child. She rode to and from school with my son everyday! It was great for both of them. It was like babysitting...Find someone you would trust and talk to the family. I used to get her gift cards once in awhile for helping me out! Good Luck!!!

Terri - posted on 08/07/2009

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Quoting Meg:

Walking to school

I live in a city (Calgary, Alberta, Canada) with my man. There is a possibility that by the end of the summer we will have his 2 kids living with us. That means going to school in September. I have no children of my own and grew up in a small town where all the kids on the block walked to school together without a parent as young as grade 1. Now times have definitely changed (I mean back then we didn't even lock the house door!) The oldest is 8 and in grade 3. The youngest is 5 and will be starting kindergarten. Both of us work at 7am.

There is before/after school care that we are looking into etc. But I am exploring all options, ideas in case we are faced with this scenario sooner or later.

What age is it appropriate for children to walk to/from school alone without an adult? When I say alone, I don't be by one's self as that is totally inappropriate for any age of school kid, I mean with other children but no adult. An example would be the 8 yr old and 5 year old walk together TO school from a sitters and I would be able to pick them (preferably with other children from the neighbourhood if possible, not just the 2 of them).

I am not saying that this is what will happen, I am asking for opinions or advice as to what other mothers see as appropriate/acceptable.


 

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Quoting Laura:

I think the difference between letting them walk together and not stay home together, is that the walk is amongst hundreds of neighbours and friends, it only takes a few minutes, and the children (provided they are properly trained) are on a direct path.

I think that our generation is robbing our children of the opportunity to grow and learn independence.

sorry, just my thoughts


I think you're absolutely right there. We are robbing our kids but it's not our fault. If the courts would do their jobs and keep these predators behind bars where they belong we would be able to let our kids walk to school. Ever since my brother was in gr.1 we walked together to school together "alone" before that I walked with my older sister. But I would never let my daughter walk without an adult at such a young age and I'm back in the town I was raised in! In Canada the system is severely flawed and less than 50% of predators are required to register on the sex offenders list. I live in a small town where everone knows everyone but very few people here in this day and age let their kids walk to school alone, even though it was safe enough for them to do it when they were kids. No one wants to "rob" thier children of the chance to grow and gain independence but the system and the courts give us no other choice because they aren't doing what they should to protect the public. They're so bent on protecting the violator's identities to avoid vigilante justice that they endanger everyone else.

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No way would I allow then to walk to school at that age..if it is at all possible think about changing your work schedules.. your work afternoons and your hubby work days that way everyone is safe secure and still employed..

Gretchen - posted on 08/07/2009

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I live in a small town. My girlfriend never thought our neighbors son would molest her 6 year old daughter. He was 12. Please be careful.

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I grew up in a small town. We walked to school and back by ourselves. But My 10 yr old and 5 yr old will NEVER walk to the bus stop or home by themselves. Here is why. We live in a town of 350. 10 yrs ago when my niece was 13 she and a cousin were on the way home from the bus stop and a car full of guys tried to pick them up. They ran home and informed an adult who took down the licence plate number. She then called the police, but they were gone before the police arrived. When they ran the plates it was found that these men were from a large town 40 miles away and a few had warrants out for their arrest. We also have a registered sex-offender in our town. I just can't be too careful with my kids. If I was in the same situation I would pay for the before and after school care.

Girlio - posted on 08/07/2009

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Thanx for the input ladies. Just to clarify a few things;

Most importantly, I never said - my 5 and 8 yr old are walking to school together without an adult, if that was the case, my decision would be made and I would have had no need to post a question now would I?

Secondly, we don't even know for sure if the kids will be living with us, so at this point it is a totally hypothetical question and may be a completely moot point. I am asking in preparation if we are fortunate enough to get the kids full time.

Yes I agree that the 8yr old is not old enough to supervise the 5 yr old alone, that is why IF there were to walk I would want them walking with other kids going to the same school-as one mother said, "strength in numbers"

The school only goes to grade 6 and then they switch schools and the Jr high is further away and not on the way to the elementary, the highschool is on the complete opposite side of the community and the only bus service is city transit. We live too close to school for a school bus.

I will be asking the school, IF the kids do end up living with us and go to school from our place, if there is before/after school care offered at the school, if they have the "buddy program" as another mother suggested. While at the school I hope to meet other mothers of the children and perhaps one of them wouldn't mind walking with our tykes.

Please don't think that I am being horrible and sending these kids out to walk without looking at as many possibilities as I can and looking for the BEST solution. And yes I have definitely considered whether or not there is child care that would take them to/from school. I am asking what other mothers have done/do do or what age is it ok.

Alone - NOT individually, NOT the 2 of them, as I did say in the original post "When I say alone, I don't be by one's self as that is totally inappropriate for any age of school kid, I mean with other children but no adult."

There have definitely been some great posts on here and some things that I never thought about - i.e. had no idea about the vision/peripheral vision thing.

I do agree with the parents regarding keeping our kids on a leash that is too short and not letting them take risks or make decisions. I also am not ignoring the potential "creeps" that are out there.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Children under 15 shouldn't be left without supervision???? Geez........so they can go from 15 fully supervised to 17 with a car and licence to go wherever they want. That's sensible! Maria, I am not having a go at you - its not your law. But I am trying to be practical. Our kids here are allowed to get their licence to drive at 17. Do you really want them DRIVING if you can't even let them walk or ride a bike anywhere?

María - posted on 08/07/2009

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LOOKING AT THE BASIC FACTS: ACCORDING TO RESPONSIBLE EYE SPECIALISTS, CHILDREN DO NOT DEVELOP 100% THEIR EYESIGHT UNTIL AFTER 10 OR 11 YEARS OF AGE, MEANING THAT THEY ARE NOT ABLE TO DETERMINE NEITHER HOW FAST A CAR IS COMING TOWARDS THEM NOR HOW FAR AWAY IN DEPTH THAT CAR IS FROM WHERE THEY ARE CROSSING THE ROAD. THEREFORE, CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE LEFT WITHOUT ADULT SUPERVISION NEITHER TO WALK ALONG ROADS NOR TO CROSS ROADS. SOME COUNTRIES IN THE WORLD HAVE MADE IT A LAW THAT NOT ONE CHILD UNDER FIFTEEN YEARS OF AGE SHOULD BE LEFT ALONE WITHOUT ADULT SUPERVISION NEITHER AT HOME NOR IN THE STREETS AND THERE ARE GOOD REASONS FOR THAT LAW; NOT ALL CHILDREN HAVE DEVELOPED A CHARACTER STRONG ENOUGH TO BE ABLE TO STAND UP TO AN AGGRESSIVELY INTIMIDATING ADULT AND AT THE SAME TIME THINK FAST ENOUGH TO GET HELP FROM SOMEONE IF THE CHILDREN CAN BE PHYSICALLY OVERPOWERED BY AN ADULT. JUST THINK, IF MANY FULLY DEVELOPED ADULTS HAVE BEEN KIDNAPPED BY ANOTHER ADULT, ISN´T EASIER TO KIDNAP A CHILD WHO HAS MUCH LESS MENTAL MATURITY AND AGILITY TO THINK FAST, AND IS STILL IN MORE DISADVANTAGE BECAUSE THE CHILD HAS MUCH, MUCH LESS PHYSICAL MASS, WEIGHT AND STRENGTH?

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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BTW, I do want to add (just realised I hadn't - I meant to but my internet crashed) that in my opinion, 5 is too young to allow to walk to school without an adult. An 8 year old is too young to supervise a 5 year old.

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Sharon, I probably would have let my son go on his own to the movies a couple of years ago on his own too, except they are M rated movies they wanted to watch, LOL. I'm ok with it now (depending on the movie).

You are right, we do live in a good area with lots of stay at home mothers around, and we do have a neighborhood watch program, so I am pretty comfortable. Sure I worry, I think we always will, but I won't keep my kids on a leash.


The rest of this post is just general:

I definitely recommend that book I mentioned to every parent. It is a fantastic eye opener on how we are stifling our children, and helps parents decide on risks they can let their children take so they can grow into healthy adults who can make good decisions.

It is also a FACT that sexual predators/paedophiles are no more prolific than they were 20 or 30 years ago. The difference is that our media is so much more immediate now that it seems like there are more incidences. In actual fact, our environment has never been safer for our children than it is today. It is merely a perception thing - we have more information now, but it is still safer than it used to be. But our children do not want to always be "safe", they want and need to take some risks and it is our job as parents to provide them with the opportunities to take these risks in order to develop their independence.

Besides, I don't want my kids still living me when they are 30, LOL!!! And apparently that is what is happening these days!!

Isobel - posted on 08/06/2009

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Jeni- This is my point...if you can allow children the chance to feel independent (even if it's not real), it allows them to grow as human beings, to make choices and to be proud of themselves...



so many of society's ills are because of children not being allowed to learn how to make choices...how can they learn if we never let them out of our sight?



Think of how many things you "got away with" as a youngster...do they not come to define you somehow?



PS:only 4% of sexual assaults against children are by strangers, persons unknown to either the child or the child's family. Perhaps we should be more careful about who we leave our child with...walking to school seems relatively safe in my eyes

Cecelia - posted on 08/06/2009

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I teach in Canyon TX and some kids do walk, but it is usually only the ones that live within 2 blocks of the school and never a 5 yr. old even if Bro is older. The 5 yr old could do something crazy and the older one would always balme himself if something happened to hurt the 5yr old----they are VERY unpredictable!!! I know you will come up with another solution. :)

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i live in a small town in saskatchewan, just a year or two back, there was an attempted abduction. !! i have 5 children, the eldest 3 are 16 and over, and my 2 little ones are aged 8 and 3 there is no way in hell i would ever let my 8 years old walk to school with other kids from the neighbour hood , either i take him or my 18 year old son takes him and brings him home...these days its way too risky, either peadophiles live in your area or child molesters come from another town or city hoping their luck is in!!!!!!!!
i wont think for a second of even attempting to take a chance, when it comes to my children!!
my 8 year old will be atleast 12 before i would even consider thinking of not having one of the family escort him to and from school.

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I have an eight and a six year old. I am lucky that we live close to our school and my job allows me to start late enough to get my kids into class. The stories are scary out there and I feel that it's not worth the risk if we can make it work. I have allowed then to "walk alone" while I was following behind.

Julie - posted on 08/06/2009

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Please reconsider. I was approached by sexual predators at the age of 10. There are sick people out there and it is our responsibility to protect and teach our children for as long as they live. Call me extreme if you will. But, if one or both of your children has an accident or is mollested, how would you feel? OK, there is your answer. We must make sacrifices to care for our children. Do what you must to protect yours! God bless you and your family & may he guide you to make the right choices in raising your children.

Bayou_chick_2003 - posted on 08/06/2009

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MY DAUGHTER IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO GO TO SCHOOL YET BUT I DEFF WOULD NOT LET HER WALK TO SCHOOL OR ANYWERE BY HER SELF ONLY IF SHE HAD AN ADULT

Lorrie - posted on 08/06/2009

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Perhaps you could ask around the neighborhood to find a teenaged student who could walk with them..there is safety in numbers. 8 and 5 are definitely to young but if there is a large group of kids with at least one being 12 or older, and it is a residential neighborhood it should be okay. My daughter will be 10 this year and it will be the first year she is allowed to walk home-2 blocks-home only because she will be with a group.

Good Luck, I know how hard it can be to make arrangements around work schedules.

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