Want to leave family

Lori - posted on 01/06/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I spent the last 20 plus years taking care of my husband n kids. I poured my life into them. I sacrificed n worked hard to shower them with love and really spoiled them. Lately I've felt no love at all but complete disrespect and utter disgust towards me. I'm hurting so deeply because I love them but feel worthless. It hurts worse to see how much they love their friends' parents who aren't even in their lives much. My hubby won't back me up when I discipline them only feeding the problem. I just want to check out n go. They really wouldn't care n I've tried but I can't beg or force them to love me. I want to just be gone. Feeling so worthless

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Mommabird - posted on 01/07/2015

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Have you shared your feelings with them? If not, that would be my first suggestion. I'd sit down with the whole family and let them know how you feel.
If you have told them how they are making you feel and nothing has changed then you have a big decision to make. Pick yourself up and just make the best of it, with no expectations of them,and just focus on making yourself happy....or Leave. But 20 yrs is a long time to throw away without trying everything to fix it.

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Lori - posted on 01/08/2015

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Yes, I have tried talking to them all. It just gets turned around on me. I'm the one with a bad temper which they exaggerate, or PMS, or too sensitive. Etc. Nobody takes any responsibility for their own actions towards me. I pour all my efforts, time, energy and love into all of them and they just take me for granted. I feel like if I leave, they'll see what they're missing but I know if I do, there may be a point of no return. So far, these past two days, I have just reached my limit. Thanks for suggestions

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