Wanted a Baby

Sarah Ann - posted on 08/05/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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When I met my Sons Daddy, all I wanted was a Baby. We dated for less than a Month before I got Pregnant and.after 4 Years we broke up. Now I have my Son full time like I wanted from the start but I'm not sure how to ask for child support? I don't want to give up any control of my son but I want the $ to live a more comfortable lifestyle. What should I do?

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Sarah Ann - posted on 08/06/2013

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i really don't see what's wrong with wanting to raise my son MY WAY. I Love my son but wish I'd have had him with someone else. at least I admit it. How many of you merely Hide the fact that you really don't want your baby Daddy in your childs life but do it because of social pressure and legal jargon?? Be Honest! I never actually Loved my Ex Boyfriend but stayed with him so my friends and Family wouldn't think I was a Bad Person for getting pregnant again. I'm not the only woman who's done that!! He already had two little girls of his own full time. He wanted a big Family and his Daughters to have a Mother. I couldn't take it so I cut my losses and took my own kids and left them. He was such a wuss, cried and begged and told me I was heartless, but in the end... who needs a guy like that anyway?? I'm more of a Man than he'll ever be and I don't want my son to grow up anything like him. Am I really the only woman who can admit it??

Jodi - posted on 08/05/2013

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It doesn't matter what "you" want. He is absolutely obligated to pay child support, but are you really comparing the fact that you have all this money for one child who has no father (i.e. total control over the child) with a child who has an "actual" father and you don't want him involved but you want his money? Can you not see the problem here???

And how does your older child get to spend his monthly allowance on whatever he likes? Who has control over that?

Sarah Ann - posted on 08/05/2013

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I realize he has "Rights" but I want my son to grow up like his Older Brother from my High School Sweetheart (He Died when my Oldest Son was 8) not his Sperm Donor. I get a sizeable amount in Death Benefits for my oldest son, it just doesn't seem right that my oldest son get so much more $ per month when my other son deserves all the same cool toys and gadgets like his Big Brother has.

Jodi - posted on 08/05/2013

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Do you realise that he has rights to his child even if you don't claim child support? You don't get to "trade" your child like a commodity. This isn't about you. Your CHILD has a right to know both you and his father, whether you like it or not, and you shouldn't have control over that.

Unfortunately, people like you often give single parents a bad name - wanting the child support money but not wanting to allow the child to develop a relationship with his other parent. It is selfish and wrong.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/05/2013

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Well, the father has rights. He should be able to build a relationship with his son. It is not about control of the child, it is about what is best for the child. You should talk with a lawyer and take it from there. The father should be paying child support to help raise him, not just for you to be able to do things yourself.

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