Wants to kick out the Brother-in-law

Brittany - posted on 07/11/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years this October 2013. When we first started dating we were always at my boyfriends house. His brother wasnt there. Then 3 months later he ask to live with us for a few months so he can save money, cause he supposedly had a job in our county.
Well he's still here. He helps a tad; but he mostly helps himself. To every thing in our house. He's 30 years old, has a CDL and quit his one major job he's had living with us. Now I love him like I would an older brother, love him soo much I wanna kill him type of ordeal. But he barely does anything. My man and I would go gocery shopping, make dinner; we'd each eat. Then his brother leaves, goes to McDonald's comes back, eats it in front of us. Smokes pot all day, and while were alseep, he eats everything we just bought. Then leaves dirty dishes all over the place, and sleeps till 5 or 6 in the afternoon. He hardly ever gives us money for rent, bills, and even gas to get to work. So we can pay the bills.
We are planning on having kids one day soon, and we don't even have a bedroom for them to sleep in if we did. We have a four bedroom house. We of course have the big room, then we have a guest room, and two others. One of which is used for storage. The other being his. The guest room is techically their parents room when they come into state. and he isnt allowed to sleep in it, the last time he did he broke his parents box frame and they had to buy a new one. So they gave him the old mattress to the bed. Well he's again sleeping in the bed, the boy is 450+ lbs. And his habits make us spend more than we need to. And my boyfriend says he doesn't wanna kick him out because he don't want him to be on the streets. I told him he won't learn to respect anyone till he's forced to. But to talk to his parents about it, since their blood.
All I need to really know is how can I convince my boyfriend that his ignorant brother is a hindranceto our lives, and how we always have to adjust our living standards for him. Who shoulda only been living with us for a couple months.! I don't wanna lose my relationship over his brother, plus I think Ima pregnant. HELP.!!!!!

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Lauren - posted on 07/11/2013

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first things first make sure you are pregnant. if so this will help if not ok time to be firm. GIRL PUT YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES ON!!! if your name is on the lease or whatever your house your rules. tell him ( the freeloading brother) to straighten up or get out, you boyfriend should understand that that's not right to you, I mean it is his brother he is family not a responsibility to ya'll. plus if you are pregnant do you really want a pot smoker around your kid?? taking food out of your kids mouth??? WATCHING YOUR KID???? if your boyfriend has a problem with this you don't need him. the brother is 30 has a CDL can work and is able to live on his own, if you are pregnant you're gonna have to put your foot down in a big way. Either way you need to be a firm woman, this doesn't mean kick him out it just means make him mind!! if he's going to live there he should respect ya'll not mooch or graze off of ya'll!! if he can't comply with this he needs to go. if you are pregnant just think of how things are now, and ask yourself if you can let it go on like this when you have a small baby. if all else fails PUT YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES ON AND BE A WITCH

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