Firebird - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 66 moms have responded )
My ex came over yesterday to pick up our daughter for the weekend. When he came in he saw a flurry of toys scattered throughout the house, some hand wash only items sitting on my counter waiting to be washed when my girl was with her dad and a small pile of bills and misc papers stacked on my kitchen table. Then he looks at me and says "Do you think you could clean up a bit?". All my dishes were done, my floors get cleaned regularly as does the cat box. My garbage had been taken out, my house doesn't stink and there is no mold growing anywhere (I don't have laundry machines so I wash clothes at my moms once a week). All of the mess was toys because my cousin's twins were over the day before and I was too tired to pick up what they didn't (they put away about half of the toys themselves). I told my ex that if my house was stinky and gross, if things were growing on my counters and he had reason to be concerned about our daughter's health then he could by all means ask me to clean up, but if there's only toys on the floor then he can mind his own damn business! Was I wrong to tell him off like that? Does he actually have the right to come into MY house and ask me to clean up when the only mess was toys that had been lying on the floor for less than 24 hours?