Wayward very young teen

Dianne - posted on 01/20/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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ok here goes... my 13 year old is 'wayward' and getting worse. She conducts herself like a 19-20 year old. She goes off on the weekend with friends and doesn't return home until she gets ready. I have taken her phone, there isn't much else left to take. My husband her father is absentee and prefers to remain so, she doesn't want him back in the home anyway because he will discipline her & she won't be able to just do what she wants to, I haven't seen her since Thurs. night, she hasn't called, she stopped in apparently while I had to pick up my friend from the train station & told my 16 year old she is spending the night out with her friend (whom I don't know & hadn't heard of) so its now Saturday night, I still don't know where she is

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Lala - posted on 03/05/2017

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I had a child that started this at 12 and continued till she left my house at 17 and went to leave with her other family. Needless to say I house is peaceful and the other kids do not live in fear. However, I have tried intervention, juvenile court, counseling,etc. Nothing worked at all. I didn't try meds, but think she needs to be on them.

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2013

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Why is your husband absentee? Just because of your daughter? Or are there relationship problems? It sounds like she could do with some of dad's discipline, because you don't appear to be doing it. If she won't do what she wants if dad is there, why can she get away with it with you?

Dove - posted on 01/20/2013

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A very strict group home might be what she needs to save her life and her relationship with you. It's like temporary 'foster care' and 'boot camp' all rolled into one. I don't know a lot about it, but I do know that my stepsister went into a group home at one point when my dad and stepmom has exhausted all of their resources at trying to help her (she's bipolar, was a cutter, etc...).

Ev - posted on 01/20/2013

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If she has been in counseling and all for a time, is it really doing any good? Maybe its time to go to child services and see if they can offer help? THey won't take her from you but they do have other resources out there that can help. It sounds like she is headed for Juvey hall.

Dianne - posted on 01/20/2013

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well I have called the police 2x twice last year, its always some excuse when she comes home. Believe me this child has been disciplined all her life! she's also been strongly just as independent since she was about 2. She was expelled from public school system last year & she's been in counseling. The police told her last year she could emanicpate herself at 16, pack her clothes & get out if she thinks she can do better on her own. She always seems to listen at the time but then at a given moment & given the opportunity off she goes. I try to make it comfortable for them to stay home & out of the streets, I've warned her repeatedly of the dangers out there. I told her last weekend when she more or less did the same & she said you always think I'm doing something bad, advised her its not so much her that is bad, there are a lot of bad, evil ppl out here (especially in the city we live)

Ev - posted on 01/20/2013

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So when did you start to discipline this child? WHen did you start to let her walk all over you? You need to get her into some major couseling now! If this keeps up when she is 16, you will have more problems than you can handle. If she is doing this regularly how did it get this far? Maybe some night call the cops and report her missing?

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