Emma - posted on 11/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am truly upset and hurt my son is being referred to a school team to discuss any intervention for behavior just a week and 1/2 after he began school. He has only been in school about 6 or 7 days and had 2 or 3 bad days after I moved him from the other school he attended for 2 months. He was unhappy I guess and did not want to follow directions. He melted down in gym the 2nd day because he was tagged and he had never played tag before and felt he had lost. The principal spoke to me and complained about his not eating, ( he disliked new cafeteria food) so now I make his lunch, his crying in gym when he was tagged, his refusal to work one morning, and his refusal to line up the day the aides blew whistle to line up after recess. All he wanted was to keep playing and not line up onto e 2nd day and again he was written up for all these things. The 4th day he had a good day and he did again today. Now that he is getting better I find out the principal has referred him to an intervention team in school. I am shocked he cannot understand my son has been through so much change ( home and school) and just needs time and support to get through it. Now I just want to ask for advice on how to decline a meeting they have scheduled for next week. I am a single mom working on my own and just won full custody of my child. The father was invited to the meeting and now I have to deal with him knowing too….which is even more upsetting because he has no decision making anyway but likes to intimidate and find out all he can and try to use it against me. Please moms…tell me how I can decline or delay this meeting. I really feel he just needs a month or 2 to get used to the new school, teachers, routines and class rules etc. He is not aggressive, or vulgar - he is very smart and sweet, but at times like to get his way and tries to test adults. He is an only child and I speak to him a lot and he listens and wants to do well. I just want to know if this is even fair because he has not been there a full 2 weeks yet already they are putting him on a list…..I can't believe it. I am still unpacking and this is the last thing I needed on top of all the stress I went through with the is move. Thanks for any help or suggestions.