We need to be independent moms like moms in the old days with a twist of independance

Catherina - posted on 02/26/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hi there, I'm new here and really need your help and advise

I had to work from the beginning of time and to top it off also got divorced when my children was still little making me a single parent. I missed out on being a full time mom or a mom period. Most of my mommy duties had to be shuffled off on my nanny due to long working hours.

I want to catch up in the granny stage, but need not to work full time.
My daughter seems to fall into my steps, and its sad to know that she will one day look back with a mom status but cant have all the memories.

Please help, what jobs can be done from home. We tried sales, that is most definately not our trade and we do not enjoy sales. Is there any help out there - Port Elizabeth and Centurion - South Africa

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Trisha - posted on 02/27/2015

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Catherine, I googled "Work from home *my city* *my province*" and found many links to websites from job placement agencies / websites that offer work from home positions. INCLUDING a well known Pizza company that is looking for customer service people that are willing to work from home. Not 100% idea, as you need to keep your children quite while on phone calls, but they are still out there.

Jill - posted on 02/26/2015

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Catherina and Shawnn. Do we need to get boxing gloves for you two? LOL

Sounds like we have some cultural differences here...

Personally, I hate email and chat rooms a lot of the time because it is so hard to interpret tone and intention. When I spent three years as a politician, I refused to use email at all because it can actually be dangerous.- if opponents or the media get their hands on something you wrote.

Regardless, it is very possible to get a great work from home position if you look in the right places. I was the Circulation Manager for a national magazine for a couple of years and it was fully home-based except for a two-hour meeting, once per week.

You and your daughter may not like sales, Catherina, but to get a good work from home position, you have to sell yourself to a company that needs your services and you have to package it in such a way that they want to let you work from home because it will be to their benefit. So you may not be trying to get customers to buy product from you directly, but you still have to be good at sales.You have to make yourself indispensable.

Here is a Forbes article that may help: http://www.forbes.com/sites/laurashin/20...

Not sure how many of these companies are in South Africa, but the http://www.flexjobs.com/ database seems to be a good one. Good luck!

Catherina - posted on 02/26/2015

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Thank you so very much, I will most definately follow your advise, God bless

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/26/2015

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If you took my statements as sarcastic, you were taking them out of context. I merely pointed out the fallacies in your statements. So...Who was making assumptions? You assumed I was being sarcastic...Shows how much assumptions really work!

As I said, you ARE a full time parent. You have kids! We are ALL full time parents! We don't get the option that caregivers do, to send the kids home after a certain amount of time. Not sarcasm, semantics.
Also, as I said, a single mother being able to afford a nanny is awesome! No sarcasm, jealousy, actually, except that i'd not have chosen a nanny. Each to their own in that regard. Once again...misconstrued on your part.
Third: I'm not assuming anything. Everyone makes their own memories. What you decide is important to you. You cannot assume that your daughter will not have her own memories with her kids...While I may not have always been there for the 'firsts'...I am thankful for what I WAS able to witness, and blessed to have people in my life to help witness the other important things with our kids.

It is in your perception that I'm snarking at you. I'm not. I'm simply pointing out that your life and happiness are what you make it. If you choose to see your past life as not having been fulfilling because you were a single parent (or whatever) then you're never going to be happy.

Don't assume that your daughter is going to feel the same way you do. She's an individual as well!

As for working from home...as I said, good luck! I'm not sure what you'll be able to find, but GOOD LUCK!!!!! What's sarcastic about wishing someone good luck?

In any event, thanks for misconstruing my post...and the laugh that I gained from your response.

Catherina - posted on 02/26/2015

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Dear Shawnn,
1. I was full time parents a mom and a dad and my children were never put on a shelf ever! Please don't asume things from a short story. Some stages was missed out while I was at work, as a mother you want to be the first one to see the first step or hear their first word,
2) I was thankful I never said I wasnt IMO, you make assumptions and seem to be sarcastic and attacing when you done have all the facts, I merely asked for positive suggestions
3) I do have memories, I meant the kind where as mentioned above and if you really cared to help positively you would see this is meerly one of my attempts to try and help her.

You are very blessed, I can relate to the 2 and even 3 jobs as I did the same,I just wasn't as fortunite to work at night as the nanny was only available In the day,so you were very lucky and had a double income. We all struggle in our own ways, therefore we should support each other not be sarcastic. There are few single parents that can say they put 2 children through university without a spouse it is is the sort of tuff you can not relate to ..Would you survive in our world? I adore all my married friends, they are so very special and positive even with all their challenges that are different to mine.

As far as working from home, I have faith that we can work something out, sothat my daughter will see her childs first of everything and more... And that is NOT a guess.

In any event, I thank you for your sarcastic views, I'm sure there is a lesson to be learnt from it.

Trisha - posted on 02/26/2015

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I would have to disagree with Michelle on that these jobs don't exist. Though I do respect her suggestion to post in the Work from Home community.
There ARE stay at home jobs available, especially if you have any technology skills. Many companies are starting to hire remotely, so you can work full time from home. This allows them to reduce the cost of overhead by not having to provide infrastructure and office buildings, as well as all the extra costs associated with that (heating, electricity etc).
Software testing/development is a big one.
I currently work for a Cancer research company who allows people to work from home.
Contact a job placement agency in your area, and let them know you are looking for a work from home position, and the skills that you can offer.
If you don't excel in technology it might be harder, but you CAN gather a lot of skills online with free or inexpensive online courses.
I am hoping that the company I am with will be willing to take me back on after I come home from Mat leave on a very part time, work from home basis. I currently work in their IT department doing administrative tasks. All of which I can do on a work laptop from home.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/26/2015

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1) Once you have a child, whether you are able to stay home with that child or not, you ARE a full time parent. There's no option to put the kid on a shelf after 8 hours, after all...
2) IMO, you were fortunate, being a single mother, to afford a nanny! Be thankful.
3) If you don't have memories of raising your child, I'm sorry. I'd have to say, make sure you point out to your daughter, as she raises her kids, to make a point of enjoying ALL of her time with them. Then she'll have memories.

I've been married 25 years, and STILL work full time, sometimes 2 and even 3 jobs a piece between my husband and myself to be able to raise our children to our standards. I had the benefit of staying at home with my boys for a few years, but only because I worked nights while their dad worked days. Even with all of the chaos of daily life, I have tremendous memories of every stage of their lives, because I made it a point to treasure every second.

As far as working from home, I have no idea how easy it is to find something that's not a scam in South Africa, but good luck with that, I guess!

Catherina - posted on 02/26/2015

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My sincere apologies, how can I then remove the post, did not mean any harm, I heard moms can work from home but just didn't know where or how to find out. Once again my sincere apologies

Michelle - posted on 02/26/2015

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TBH, there's no such job but you could ask this in the work from home communities as we don't allow solicitations here and a question like this just encourages them.
Michelle,
WtCoM Mod.

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