Rylee - posted on 12/31/2014 ( 15 moms have responded )
My husband and I have known each other and been dating for 5 years, we were off and on and saw other people while being off. I had my first son with another man(which isnt in the picture or in my sons life) Then i got pregnant again this time with my now husbands and I's son. Before having my second kid, One of my old best friends came to me saying she had my boyfriends baby.. dna checked out it was his from a one night stand while we were'nt together. I made the effort to have this kid apart of our life and my two sons. yet, my husband finally came clean and told me he wants nothing to do with the baby or the mother of the baby. He finds her distasteful and annoying. So, both our families know he has a another son with another woman and they honor his decision he made not wanting to be in the babies life yet he plans on paying child support cause its not HER complete problem to financially support the kid. Anyways, my husbands mother see and talks to the girl about the baby (which is almost one in feb.) I find it VERY weird and I dont know how to act towards this cause he isnt in our lives but he still is. When my kids get older how am i supposed to tell them who the kid is... since she has his name and pictures around her house. Ive asked her is she could stop but apparently im wrong for wanting so and its not the babies fault for being born(which i NEVER SAID) it makes me so angry cause if it wasnt for me and making the effort noone would know about this child, not even my husband. Thats not the kinda person i am however. I just now want my kids to go over their grandmas and not ask me who the baby is in the pictures or what if she tells my kids its there daddys son they never see? I either want it to stop or i dont want my kids going over there. am i wrong? is she wrong? im used to people telling me my husband is but thats not what im trying to get to.