Well my abusive babys dad now is trying to get in touch with me..what to do?

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Hes been writing me harassing me saying that i'm keeping his son hostage from him even tho this whole pregnancy he has not been really interested in my pregnancy when i was with him he was more interested in growing weed and smoking it. But now that i left he wants to know how my son is doing (i am due soon) and He threatened me that if i don't write him back to tell him how hes doing that he will hire a lawyer and sue me. I have a lot of proof of all the abusiveness that he has done. plus he doesn't know were i'm at. Also hes tried to get into my email account. I am afraid of him. What should i do? Can he do anything to harm me? Should i change my name? I'm starting to get really freaked out that he keeps writing me.

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Claudia - posted on 10/30/2012

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Let him get a lawyer. Call his bluff, and take him to court. You don't need the stress. And if he continues to harass you, you can always get a protective order. Even if he does get supervised visits, big whoop. He'll also have to pay child support or go to jail. And if he's in jail he really can't see his kid. Sounds like the ball is really in your court.

Jodi - posted on 10/30/2012

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Well, you didn't put much of that in your OP. Yes, parents can smoke weed. As long as they are not under the influence of it while they are supposed to be in charge of a child, it isn't a problem. Abuse? Supervised visitation. A judge is not going to tell him he has no rights because he was abusive towards you. He will possibly order supervised visitation. Begging you to abort? That doesn't make him abusive. That makes him uninterested in being a parent at that time. But you made the decision to keep the child, and that's fine. But now that you have, he has decided to be involved, and he has the right to change his mind about that.



Believe me, he CAN get a lawyer and sue you to see his son, and he WILL be able to win that battle. You think I am messed up? You are delusional if you think he won't at the very least be able to get supervised visitation. Get used to it.

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So its his son when he begged me to get a abortion too???? ok woman!!! haha so you think its right for a man to be around a child when he smoke weed? when he has a agressive dog and wouldnt give it away? and when hes been very abusive towards me and can do it to his child??? wow woman ur messed up! LOL

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2012

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It's his son too. Just saying. I would hire a lawyer and sue you too if I were him and wanted to be in my son's life. That's not a threat, it's a right. It is also not abuse to threaten to do this and try to get in touch with you to contact his son.

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