Wetting bed at night or while taking afternoon naps.

Eva - posted on 09/07/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My 3 year 9 months old still wetts the bed and doesn't seem to understand that it is wrong or get the solution. He does fine during the day though ... Any suggestions? I am desperate for he sometimes falls asleep fast on the sofa or other beds where I don't have any protection.
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Jodi - posted on 09/08/2011

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Ewa, I am locking this thread. People were trying to give you information, advice, whether you like it or not, and you are turning it into a comprehension exercise. Thank you, ladies, for your input.

Jodi - posted on 09/08/2011

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My step son wet the bed until just recently and he's 12. The simple fact is that all children are different, and there is no single magic cure. Sometime, their little brains are not mature enough to wake them up when they need to pee. The message just doesn't get through and all that can fix it is time.

If your son is still napping, you can set up scheduled nap time (rather than just letting him fall asleep wherever and whenever), that way you can control the fact that he wears a pull up, or control where he is sleeping.

Secondly, just make sure you use a pull up at night. Again, this just means setting a bedtime, and putting him in a pull up at that time. There is no point trying to push the dry night issue until his pull up is dry at least 50% of the time.

Just so you know how normal it is - 20% of 5 year olds still wet the bed at night.

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Seriously? My girls wet the bed til they were 8.5, but all the constant, daily joys they bring to my life FAR, FAR outweigh the annoying inconveniences. If this is truly how you feel.... I recommend NOT having anymore cuz the crap you have to deal w/ as a parent just gets worse......

Amy - posted on 09/07/2011

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Wow I can't even imagine not wanting another one because of potty training. He's not doing it to make you miserable or on purpose!

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Get some pull ups and deal with it. Its normal and its NOT HIS FAULT. Treating him like it is will only make it worse. My step brother wet the bed at his moms all the time because she would yell at him and make him feel bad when he did. At my place he stopped after one time he woke up crying saying he was sorry and my mother was very understanding towards him. Said lets just get you cleaned up and back to bed buddy. MOST times its because of an immature bladder. Your reaction since its "his fault" could be a factor as well.



edit to add my step brother was about 8. I stopped wetting the bed at 9ish.

Eva - posted on 09/08/2011

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EXTRAPOLATE - to infer an unknown from known facts; to estimate outside from presented data. It does not mean to UNDERSTAND to comprehend, to grasp the idea of...and I advice you to check it in any dictionary....

Sherri - posted on 09/08/2011

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Okay #1 his bladder is still very immature, he is probably sleeping so heavy his little body is not waking him. This is in NO WAY is fault nor can he control it. It seems like he needs to be wearing pull ups for naps and bedtime until his body matures. Some kids will not be night trained until they are 10 or 11 it is completely normal and there is nothing you can do about it.

I do home daycare and have for the past 13yrs have potty trained and have gone through this with at least 15 children. I have 3 of my own and another on the way.

It will happen give it more time. You need to relax a bit about it and it won't seem so overwhelming for you or your son.

Kate CP - posted on 09/08/2011

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"My 3 year 9 months old still wetts the bed and **doesn't seem to understand that it is wrong** or get the solution..."

Okay, that RIGHT THERE, if we're going to be discussing reading comprehension, is why people are telling you he's not doing it on purpose. YOU SAID he doesn't understand it's wrong. Therefor, you believe he's doing it on purpose BECAUSE he doesn't understand it's a bad thing to do.

"Normal!? how awful! I don't know how anybody wants to have another and another knowing what it means..."
This, again, is YOU saying that you don't want more kids "knowing what it means" while we are having a conversation about potty training. What, exactly, are we supposed to extrapolate from that comment?

My daughter wasn't fully potty trained (no accidents AT ALL) until she was nearly four and a half. She's over five, now. It's going to take time for your son to be able to control his bladder. It's not a matter of it being his choice or not. He physically cannot hold it yet.

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Eva - posted on 09/08/2011

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Another lady with reading comprehension problems...NO WHERE HERE i SAID THAT MY DECISION IS BASED ON THE BED WETTING...I said it is hard to handle kids and one or two is more than enough...Pity that many women decide to have multiple kids before they even learn to understand simple written text.

Bonnie - posted on 09/08/2011

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Everyone is entitled to their opinion on many many kids they want to have. It's their life. But to choose how many based on the fact that they still wet the bed at night? I have never heard of that before. I have a 3 year old and almost 5 year old and they both still wet at night so they wear pull ups at night. What's the big deal?! I have heard of many children who wet up until age 8. It's normal. That is just the way it is.

Eva - posted on 09/08/2011

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Many of us have reading comprehension problems but perhaps you haven't read all my responses. I never mentioned that any kid does this on purpose. Kids give troubles, its their nature, but we have different tolerance levels., tolerance to noice, mess, and bad behaviour. Overall they are very demanding, too demanding for some. Its fine if all that makes you happy, your peace is never disturbed, you are not bothered by noise, you don't mind to be interrupted and you don't get upset when your house is amess and OK for me to have hands full with only one. Even not wanting kids at all doesn't make you worth bashing and having them does not make you a better person. It only makes you busier.

Eva - posted on 09/07/2011

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I know...I would never have another...it is nightmare...and yes, it is only getting worse...sure there are joys but unfortunately to me troubles outweights them...

Eva - posted on 09/07/2011

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Normal!? how awful! I don't know how anybody wants to have another and another knowing what it means...

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Horrible? Not even close. Frustrating? Yep. Normal? Yep. They're kids. What do you expect?

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My girls were day trained at 2 years 9 months (give or take a bit), but didn't even start being dry through the night til 4.5 and still had wet beds on occasion up to 8.5.

Some kids (like my son) are dry through the night at a much younger age, but some aren't. Either way is normal.

Kate CP - posted on 09/07/2011

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Honey, you think he's doing this on purpose? He's not even four! He just doesn't have enough control of his bladder while he's sleeping. When he naps or sleeps at night time put him in training pants. There's no point in trying to punish him or tell him it's wrong. He's 3. He just doesn't have the muscle control yet.

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