What age should a newborn go into her own room?

Fiona - posted on 11/25/2009 ( 192 moms have responded )

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Our bub is 7 weeks old and is already outgrowing her bassinette - what age did you put your baby into his/her own room in their big cot?

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Krista - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Sabrina:

thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time






Why is that embarrassing? My daughter is almost 6yo and still sleeps with us. I don't know why our society is so obsessed with rushing children into independence. We have a very close relationship, and she knows she can tell us anything and that we will always be there for her, night and day. Now, if cosleeping makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't work for you, that's one thing. But to avoid cosleeping simply because you think other people might disapprove is just silly.






Cosleeping will not make your child clingy or overly dependent upon you. Quite the opposite. Because your child feels safe, he or she will feel more confident about trying new things, knowing they can rely on you to be there for them if they need help. And I'm not saying that children who sleep alone will be afraid or trust you less. All I'm saying is that you can't base your decision on what other people think. Do what you think is best for yourself and your family, and trust that you are making the right decision for you, even if it's different or "unusual."






My opinion? Newborns don't need their own room. If you want her in her own bed, put the crib/cot in your room. Trust me, it's a lot easier if you don't have to traipse all over the house to respond to your child's nighttime needs. But again, that's just my opinon.






Best of luck,






Sarah





Umm.....sex, much? Your 6-year old daughter still sleeps with you -- how to you manage to be intimate with your husband?

Leticia - posted on 12/30/2009

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I didnt have a bassinet for my son so I put him in a paypen with the attachment for the top like a bassinet. As soon as he started sleeping through the night (3 months) he went in his crib in his room. I hope this helps!

Kristy - posted on 12/22/2009

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First of all it is EXTREMELLY dangerous for any baby to sleep in the same bed as the parents due to the fact that more children are killed each year in parent roll over suffications then from SIDS. Secondly there is no logical reason for a baby to not sleep in his/her own bed. If you are all sleeping then there is no bonding going on and the baby does not even know you are there. Secondly if heaven for bid something does happen to your baby you will be asleep and not be able to react any differently than if they were in their own beds. If you have to then purchase a video/sound monitor for your babies room so that you can keep watch.

Alicia - posted on 12/23/2009

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It really is a personal choice. I read everything I could, and there is a lot of conflicting advice even among the people with medical degrees. I think that you have to consider your own needs, the needs of your baby, and trust your gut.



We tried having my daughter in a cradle next to the bed, but it wasn't working for us. I kept waking up in the night feeling that something was missing. So we bought a baby bed that fit in our bed. She could sleep right between us, but the metal frame of the bed prevented us from rolling onto her. That said, we never rolled against the frame. We both were very aware of her presence. When she outgrew the baby bed, we chose to keep her in bed. We put our mattress on the floor, pushed it against the walls and baby-proofed our bedroom. It worked for us. Baby, and I happened to sleep best when we are together. My husband was initially against bed-sharing, but when he saw how much better we slept, and how aware I was of baby in my sleep, he came to be a supporter.



I know other parents or babies for whom bed-sharing (or even room-sharing) is disruptive. Just as some adults prefer to sleep cuddled together with a partner and others prefer to sleep on opposite sides of the bed, the individuals need to dictate the sleep arrangements.

Kelly - posted on 12/04/2009

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Well, I put my baby girl in her own room at 6 weeks. I put her bassinette in her room to start off just until she got used to the room and then moved her into her cot.

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Ellen - posted on 01/05/2014

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My baby is 14 weeks, he wanted to be close to his mum and wouldn't go into a Moses basket or cot, i personally think its cruel to put them in their own room if its going to upset them, this is for parent convenience for a better sleep, my son is breastfed and sleeps in my bed with me every night , some nights my partner sleeps on the sofa , we chose to have our son so my sons needs come first and if hes happier in bed with me he will stay with me until hes ready. My health visitor told me it is fine for him to stop in bed with me and instead of a duvet we have a blanket over us instead. I am currently on maternity leave from work , the reason we have maternity leave is for sleepless nights, breastfeeding on demand and doing what's best for our baby, if you have shoved your baby in their own room early and are getting a full nights sleep and giving them a bottle to give yourself a constant break then what's to stop you going back to work earlier?

Nicola - posted on 12/30/2009

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As you can see from all the replies it varies so much to personal preference. My husband couldn't sleep with the babies in the room so they were in there own room next door from about 1 week! I'm not sure what country you live in, but a great device for helping babies transition safely from bassinette to cot and then from cot to bed is a 'Safe T Sleep' or anything similar, that wraps around the mattress and has another wrap around babies trunk. It also helps keep them on their side, etc. Brilliant for peace of mind. I agree with giving baby their own room early - it gave my boys good sleep habits and no problem sleeping through the night (for all of us!) from 12-15 weeks on. All the best!

Jeannette - posted on 12/30/2009

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I never had my kids sleep in the same room with me and my husband. They all ways were in there own room. But that's me.

Bridget - posted on 12/30/2009

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Two and a half weeks was good for us. It was certainly hard the first few nights, I think even if she wasn't up every few hours I would have been in there checking on her. It was best though since my hubby gets up early for work. This way he no longer had to get dressed in the bathroom and tiptoe around the room when he got ready for work. It really was best though, for us, because then she was used to her own room right away.

Suzanne - posted on 12/29/2009

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He went right in his crib in his room the first night home and has been a wonderful sleeper.

Tammy - posted on 12/23/2009

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i put my daughter in her room after about two weeks. I didn't like the fact that everytime she moved i woke up and I ws so parinoid about rolling on her that I couldn't get a restfull sleep. The crib took abit of time to get used too but she she slept best in it...

Tammy - posted on 12/23/2009

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i put my daughter in her room after about two weeks. I didn't like the fact that everytime she moved i woke up and I ws so parinoid about rolling on her that I couldn't get a restfull sleep. The crib took abit of time to get used too but she she slept best in it...

Melinda - posted on 12/23/2009

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I put my little one in her own room at two weeks. I had the baby monitor set up and her room is right next to mine. We are both light sleepers and it helped out alot.

Alicia - posted on 12/23/2009

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About sex and bed-sharing: Baby is not in bed all day, and sex does not have to happen at night (or in bed). If baby is happily playing in the (baby-proofed) living room, the bedroom is free. Again, it's about individual preferences.

Shona - posted on 12/23/2009

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I put both of ours into their own room at about 10 weeks, earlier than suggested but it meant that we all got a better nights sleep! I put their moses basket into their cot for a few night just to make sure that they felt secure in their new surroundings. Good luck! x

Lenora - posted on 12/23/2009

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If I could do it over again, I would be SO much more "crunchy" minded than I was through any of our three. If not IN our bed with us, I would have had a co sleeper set up in such a way that they would have been right by us. And I would have let them show me when they were ready for their own room. All our kids are over 6 now, and I did have them in our room either in a bassinet or in our bed with us, for quite some time. They all wanted that closeness with mama and I wanted it too, I found I bonded better.

If there's room why not put the crib or cot in y'alls room with you?

Kylie - posted on 12/22/2009

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With my 1st child he was in our room for 10wks, this was bcoz he swallowed alot of mucus wen he was born and i felt safer if he was with me. My nephew was in hs own room from day 1 and 1 of my neices was in her parents room for 6mths. It is completely up to the parents, if u feel its time to put bubs in their own room its OK to do so but if u still want bubs in ur room wiv u, thats OK aswell. This is a personal choice and u have to be comfortable in urself to make the decision, if u feel ur not ready just yet, u have ur answer. All the best

Kristy - posted on 12/22/2009

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Quoting dana:



Quoting Jennifer:

Oh, good lord. What a load of buffalo biscuits.

[quoted]
-BENEFITS OF COSLEEPING FOR THE BREASTFED BABY:

-Greater Milk Supply: As babies breastfeed throughout the night, their sucking stimulates their mothers to produce more of the milk needed for proper nourishment.

How silly. It just saves the mother from getting up to nurse each time. This isn't about the baby. It's about the mother's convenience.

-More frequent breastfeeding: Studies tell us that more frequent infant feeds reduce crying duration, thereby contributing to babies’ energy conservation and calm wakefulness.

That's also silly. Sure, if your baby cries for half an hour before you hear him and get up to feed him, it's going to wear him out. But if you're in the next room or have a good monitor, there's no significant delay.

-Longer breastfeeding sessions: Longer feeds ensure that your baby receives enough daily calories to provide adequate nutrition and weight gain.

So women who don't co-sleep and let their babies somehow nurse continually all night, or God forbid, use formula, have inadequate nutrition and weight gain? Poppycock.

-Longer breastfeeding period: By continually breastfeeding over time, babies receive the immunological and nutritional benefits they need for optimal growth and development

I've read that indeed, breast milk provides immunization that formula can't. But this is presuming that women whose babies sleep in their own cribs nurse for a shorter period? Is that proven?

-Increased safety: Breastfeeding bbies are being constantly monitored throughout the night.

Now THAT's a load of crap. Your baby is at far greater risk of getting rolled over on, squished against pillows or the wall, falling out of bed, or getting smothered by or strangled in blankets and sheets in your bed than in their own crib, flat on their back. Constantly monitored? So you're supposed to lie awake all night listening to your child breathe? Good luck with that one. A monitor amplifies the baby's breathing, anyway. If the baby's choking or in distress, you're likely to hear it clearly on a good monitor.

-Increased infant sleep duration: Babies who sleep alone must cry loudly enough to wake their parents who are sleeping several rooms away. By sleeping together, babies achieve a longer and better rest perioud.

Who are sleeping several rooms away? Necessarily? And if you're several rooms away, you've probably got a monitor. Again, this is all justification for the mother keeping the baby in bed with her like a teddy bear for her own comfort. Ridiculous.

-Lower stress levels: When babies do not have to cry to hae their needs met, thus becoming agitated, they are able to stay calmer and more content.

What baby doesn't cry to have it's needs met?? lol!!! Even if your baby is sleeping next to you in the bed, a tiny infant is incapable of reaching out and finding your breast in the dark and plunking it in his or her mouth all on their onesie. You've still got to hear him or her cry, and make a breast available. This is all about convenience.

-Temperature regulation: Babies are warmer when they sleep next to their moms, and mothers can sense their baby’s temperature and respond by adding a blanket if her infant seems chilled or by removing covers if her infant is overheated.

Adding a blanket? HELLO??? SIDS, anyone? You're not supposed to put a blanket on your baby. You're supposed to dress them in a sleeper and set the room to a comfortable temperature. If your child is overheated in your bed next to you, it's your own body temperature causing it. And if they're cold, it's probably because you yanked the covers off them.

-Increased sensitivity to mother’s communication: Moms and babies who routinely sleep together have a heightened and enhanced sensitivity to each other’s smells, movements, and touches.

Whaaa?? So people who don't sleep next to their babies don't bond with them properly? Aren't sensitive to their touches? Now, that's damned insulting. And each other's smells and movements? What the hell's that about?

Don't be fooled. This is all about the "warm and snuggly experience that many parents enjoy." It has nothing to do with the welfare of the child.





Wow, Jennifer, angry much?  No need to turn this into a hostile thread. 






Btw, if your child isn't breathing you're not going to hear it on the monitor.





"Btw, if your child isn't breathing you're not going to hear it on the monitor.".....So let me get this right Dana...Are you trying to say that if your baby is sleeping in your room with you and you are sound asleep you are going to "HEAR" that your baby stopped breathing? I think not!!

Tasha - posted on 12/15/2009

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Well my daughter is 5 months and is still in her bassinet! The first time she rolls over and sits up by herself (she's doing the rolling) she will go into her room!!!!

Patricia - posted on 12/15/2009

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time to go to the big girl crib hones it isn't a bad thing mommy you need to rock your babie and put them in there crib

Cindy - posted on 12/15/2009

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My daughter was in her own room (with a monitor) from the start. There was also a daybed in her room, so when I nursed her I used that. My husband didn't want her in our room and I was fortunate to stay home with her. I think she went from bassinette to crib at about 3 months or so.

Kate CP - posted on 12/09/2009

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Dana - posted on 12/09/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

Oh, good lord. What a load of buffalo biscuits.

[quoted]
-BENEFITS OF COSLEEPING FOR THE BREASTFED BABY:

-Greater Milk Supply: As babies breastfeed throughout the night, their sucking stimulates their mothers to produce more of the milk needed for proper nourishment.

How silly. It just saves the mother from getting up to nurse each time. This isn't about the baby. It's about the mother's convenience.

-More frequent breastfeeding: Studies tell us that more frequent infant feeds reduce crying duration, thereby contributing to babies’ energy conservation and calm wakefulness.

That's also silly. Sure, if your baby cries for half an hour before you hear him and get up to feed him, it's going to wear him out. But if you're in the next room or have a good monitor, there's no significant delay.

-Longer breastfeeding sessions: Longer feeds ensure that your baby receives enough daily calories to provide adequate nutrition and weight gain.

So women who don't co-sleep and let their babies somehow nurse continually all night, or God forbid, use formula, have inadequate nutrition and weight gain? Poppycock.

-Longer breastfeeding period: By continually breastfeeding over time, babies receive the immunological and nutritional benefits they need for optimal growth and development

I've read that indeed, breast milk provides immunization that formula can't. But this is presuming that women whose babies sleep in their own cribs nurse for a shorter period? Is that proven?

-Increased safety: Breastfeeding bbies are being constantly monitored throughout the night.

Now THAT's a load of crap. Your baby is at far greater risk of getting rolled over on, squished against pillows or the wall, falling out of bed, or getting smothered by or strangled in blankets and sheets in your bed than in their own crib, flat on their back. Constantly monitored? So you're supposed to lie awake all night listening to your child breathe? Good luck with that one. A monitor amplifies the baby's breathing, anyway. If the baby's choking or in distress, you're likely to hear it clearly on a good monitor.

-Increased infant sleep duration: Babies who sleep alone must cry loudly enough to wake their parents who are sleeping several rooms away. By sleeping together, babies achieve a longer and better rest perioud.

Who are sleeping several rooms away? Necessarily? And if you're several rooms away, you've probably got a monitor. Again, this is all justification for the mother keeping the baby in bed with her like a teddy bear for her own comfort. Ridiculous.

-Lower stress levels: When babies do not have to cry to hae their needs met, thus becoming agitated, they are able to stay calmer and more content.

What baby doesn't cry to have it's needs met?? lol!!! Even if your baby is sleeping next to you in the bed, a tiny infant is incapable of reaching out and finding your breast in the dark and plunking it in his or her mouth all on their onesie. You've still got to hear him or her cry, and make a breast available. This is all about convenience.

-Temperature regulation: Babies are warmer when they sleep next to their moms, and mothers can sense their baby’s temperature and respond by adding a blanket if her infant seems chilled or by removing covers if her infant is overheated.

Adding a blanket? HELLO??? SIDS, anyone? You're not supposed to put a blanket on your baby. You're supposed to dress them in a sleeper and set the room to a comfortable temperature. If your child is overheated in your bed next to you, it's your own body temperature causing it. And if they're cold, it's probably because you yanked the covers off them.

-Increased sensitivity to mother’s communication: Moms and babies who routinely sleep together have a heightened and enhanced sensitivity to each other’s smells, movements, and touches.

Whaaa?? So people who don't sleep next to their babies don't bond with them properly? Aren't sensitive to their touches? Now, that's damned insulting. And each other's smells and movements? What the hell's that about?

Don't be fooled. This is all about the "warm and snuggly experience that many parents enjoy." It has nothing to do with the welfare of the child.


Wow, Jennifer, angry much?  No need to turn this into a hostile thread. 



Btw, if your child isn't breathing you're not going to hear it on the monitor.

Sandra - posted on 12/08/2009

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1 year old in their own room, get the crib that turns into a full size bed later on. I must and have alway kept an eye, ear, watch my little babies.......SID, breathing problems, covers, any objects might get in the baby way when sleep or awake...............own room in a crib..........4months, but you must have monitors to hear what is going on with the baby.......the breathing is the most important watch you must have with new babies

Claire - posted on 12/08/2009

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due to us only having a 1 bedroomed flat my son didnt have his own room until now (at 15 months) now we have a 2 bedroomed flat. they recommend a baby should b in there room from 6 months. if u have any concerns speak to ur GP, health visitor or pediatrician. good luck.

Stacy - posted on 12/07/2009

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I wish I can remember. Its been 3 years now and my daughter still sleeps in my bed. She's displaced daddy who is a willing participant in encouraging our mother/daughter bonding time. At times though, I wish I can get her out of our room and have my husband back for some cuddling time. I guess for now, I am okay with it until baby # 2 comes knocking on our door!

Tavi - posted on 12/07/2009

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it all depends on how comfortable you are with the idea,my daughter slept in her own room by three months,with a baby monitor co course(lol) and i had no problems,she id four now and rarely have issues with her sleeping alone.

Sabrina - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Sabrina:



Quoting Krista:




Quoting Sarah:





Quoting Sabrina:

thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time










Why is that embarrassing? My daughter is almost 6yo and still sleeps with us. I don't know why our society is so obsessed with rushing children into independence. We have a very close relationship, and she knows she can tell us anything and that we will always be there for her, night and day. Now, if cosleeping makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't work for you, that's one thing. But to avoid cosleeping simply because you think other people might disapprove is just silly.










Cosleeping will not make your child clingy or overly dependent upon you. Quite the opposite. Because your child feels safe, he or she will feel more confident about trying new things, knowing they can rely on you to be there for them if they need help. And I'm not saying that children who sleep alone will be afraid or trust you less. All I'm saying is that you can't base your decision on what other people think. Do what you think is best for yourself and your family, and trust that you are making the right decision for you, even if it's different or "unusual."










My opinion? Newborns don't need their own room. If you want her in her own bed, put the crib/cot in your room. Trust me, it's a lot easier if you don't have to traipse all over the house to respond to your child's nighttime needs. But again, that's just my opinon.










Best of luck,










Sarah












Umm.....sex, much? Your 6-year old daughter still sleeps with you -- how to you manage to be intimate with your husband?









 





 

Sabrina - posted on 12/07/2009

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THANK U KRSITA that was exactly my point. Another mom understands what I am saying and I am sorry 6...are u kidding thats WAY too old.

Sabrina - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Krista:



Quoting Sarah:




Quoting Sabrina:

thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time








Why is that embarrassing? My daughter is almost 6yo and still sleeps with us. I don't know why our society is so obsessed with rushing children into independence. We have a very close relationship, and she knows she can tell us anything and that we will always be there for her, night and day. Now, if cosleeping makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't work for you, that's one thing. But to avoid cosleeping simply because you think other people might disapprove is just silly.








Cosleeping will not make your child clingy or overly dependent upon you. Quite the opposite. Because your child feels safe, he or she will feel more confident about trying new things, knowing they can rely on you to be there for them if they need help. And I'm not saying that children who sleep alone will be afraid or trust you less. All I'm saying is that you can't base your decision on what other people think. Do what you think is best for yourself and your family, and trust that you are making the right decision for you, even if it's different or "unusual."








My opinion? Newborns don't need their own room. If you want her in her own bed, put the crib/cot in your room. Trust me, it's a lot easier if you don't have to traipse all over the house to respond to your child's nighttime needs. But again, that's just my opinon.








Best of luck,








Sarah









Umm.....sex, much? Your 6-year old daughter still sleeps with you -- how to you manage to be intimate with your husband?





 

Krista - posted on 12/07/2009

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Sam slept in the bassinet in our room for about 8 weeks or so, and then went into the crib in his room. He immediately started sleeping through the night after that -- go figure. I never even considered co-sleeping -- I'm a very sound sleeper and so is my husband, and I was terrified of squashing him. We have the monitor on, set to a high volume, so I can even hear it when he sighs. We all sleep beautifully, and Sam is a very happy, healthy, well-rested baby.

Sabrina - posted on 12/07/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Sabrina:

thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time




Why is that embarrassing? My daughter is almost 6yo and still sleeps with us. I don't know why our society is so obsessed with rushing children into independence. We have a very close relationship, and she knows she can tell us anything and that we will always be there for her, night and day. Now, if cosleeping makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't work for you, that's one thing. But to avoid cosleeping simply because you think other people might disapprove is just silly.




Cosleeping will not make your child clingy or overly dependent upon you. Quite the opposite. Because your child feels safe, he or she will feel more confident about trying new things, knowing they can rely on you to be there for them if they need help. And I'm not saying that children who sleep alone will be afraid or trust you less. All I'm saying is that you can't base your decision on what other people think. Do what you think is best for yourself and your family, and trust that you are making the right decision for you, even if it's different or "unusual."




My opinion? Newborns don't need their own room. If you want her in her own bed, put the crib/cot in your room. Trust me, it's a lot easier if you don't have to traipse all over the house to respond to your child's nighttime needs. But again, that's just my opinon.




Best of luck,




Sarah






Caithlin - posted on 12/07/2009

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i think it is a personal choice. my 3 month old daughter has never slept in her own room let alone her own bed. she wont sleep in her crib at all even if i try to lay her down when she is already asleep! i never thought i would ever let my children sleep with me but im glad that she does. i dont know when i will start trying again to put her in her own bed but by spending time with me she is building confidence. she also sleeps better when she is with me. dont listen to people who tell you to let them cry it out and say that they wont be independent if they dont sleep in their own beds because its not true. i slept in my parents bed longer than my brothers and i am more independent than either of them. the less time he spends crying the more confident he will become. but it is your choice to make and dont forget every child is different. you could try putting him in his own room and see how it goes.

Lorraine - posted on 12/07/2009

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they both went in a cot after a couple of months but we kept connor in our room till he was 6months then went in his room with a moniter & holly is nearly 13months & still in our room in a cot only coz we havent moved up stairs yet but will do in new year hope this has helped

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In Aust it is recommended that children sleep in the same room as their parents till they are a year old. But that is not practical for many families. We had our son in his bassinette, in our room, until he was 4 months old, when he became to big. Then he went into the cot next door. We thought about putting the cot in our room, but it was just to big.

Kathrine - posted on 12/07/2009

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My son Cole lasted 2 weeks in his basinette! He hated sleeping in our room with us. He didnt sleep very well and i was constantly up and down with him. So my husband and i set up his camera over his crib and in he went. He loved it and was sleeping thru the night at 11 wks. It was good for me too not having to worry about my husbands snoring waking cole up and i could still roll over and see him on the tv monitor on my night stand.

Kim - posted on 12/06/2009

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My daughter outgrew the mosis basket in 3 weeks (she was a big girl 9 pounds 9 ounces). She did great in the crib.

Kim - posted on 12/06/2009

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My daughter outgrew the mosis basket in 3 weeks (she was a big girl 9 pounds 9 ounces). She did great in the crib.

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2009

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Quoting Sabrina:

thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time



Why is that embarrassing? My daughter is almost 6yo and still sleeps with us. I don't know why our society is so obsessed with rushing children into independence. We have a very close relationship, and she knows she can tell us anything and that we will always be there for her, night and day. Now, if cosleeping makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't work for you, that's one thing. But to avoid cosleeping simply because you think other people might disapprove is just silly.



Cosleeping will not make your child clingy or overly dependent upon you. Quite the opposite. Because your child feels safe, he or she will feel more confident about trying new things, knowing they can rely on you to be there for them if they need help. And I'm not saying that children who sleep alone will be afraid or trust you less. All I'm saying is that you can't base your decision on what other people think. Do what you think is best for yourself and your family, and trust that you are making the right decision for you, even if it's different or "unusual."



My opinion? Newborns don't need their own room. If you want her in her own bed, put the crib/cot in your room. Trust me, it's a lot easier if you don't have to traipse all over the house to respond to your child's nighttime needs. But again, that's just my opinon.



Best of luck,



Sarah

Sabrina - posted on 12/01/2009

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thats u should keep trying because u don't want her to be so used to it she doesn't leave your bed until really late(embarrassing fact:my mother in law had the same problem with my husband and he slept in his parents bed til he was4....yes thats right 4).Can u imagine?I was blessed with a simple transition but you should keep trying and ask other moms who had a hard time

Lynn - posted on 12/01/2009

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Our baby is now almost six months and she continues to sleep in our bed. Occasionally we will put her in her bassinette. She sleeps fine until she wakes up during the middle of the night wanting a bottle. After her feeding she'll fall back to sleep in our bed. I would love for her to sleep in her crib in the nursey but she cries whenever she is left alone even during the day.

Katie - posted on 12/01/2009

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My son went into his own room at one month, and did awesome, and I got a little more sleep after that :)

Marina - posted on 12/01/2009

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My baby was about a month old but she had a baby monitor. Previously she had slept in same room with me, but always in her own crib.

Marina - posted on 12/01/2009

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My baby was about a month old but she had a baby monitor. Previously she had slept in same room with me, but always in her own crib.

Kerri - posted on 12/01/2009

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Mine were about 3 months old when I moved them in to there crib in their room. Just kep monitor on.

Kerri - posted on 12/01/2009

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Mine were about 3 months old when I moved them in to there crib in their room. Just kep monitor on.

Violet - posted on 12/01/2009

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I raised 5 kids and each on was different. Each one started things at their own time table. at this age if the nursery is on the other side of the wall you can upgrade to the crib with a baby monitor and see how you both do? Sometimes the letting go is more our issue than theirs...one of my boys was sleeping on a twin size big boy bed by the time he was 18 months the youngest cut that time down even further...go with their time tables it makes it easier for you and them...good luck

Christy - posted on 11/30/2009

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My girls went in a crib in their own room from day one! I checked on them often, used a monitor and their room was right down the hall..and all was fine!

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