what age should i start making my kids clean up after them selves?

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Brianna - posted on 04/29/2012

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depending on the kind of mess i guess. as soon as my daughter started walking she started helping me clean up her toys. my daughter is almost 2 1/2 and she cleans her toys, makes her bed, changes her clothes (i lay her clothes out for her), can whip up spills, helps me dust, ect..

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2012

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Make a game of it. See who can pick the most toys up or who can do it the quickest

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Ashley - posted on 04/29/2012

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medic mommy that is what we do to! my three year old sings it by himself but my almost 2yr old doesnt really talk at all. he is getting a little better now! thank you guys so much!

Liz - posted on 04/27/2012

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Let him help you with the trash as much as he will. Invite him to help you do other things (like loading the dryer). Eventually he will start doing more.

Ashley - posted on 04/27/2012

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thanks. ok so another question. my 3yr old does pretty good about cleaning up but my almost 2yr old acts like he doesnt understand what i am talking about unless it has to do with the garbage what should i do with him.

Sherri - posted on 04/26/2012

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As soon as they can walk they should be able to help you clean up toys etc.

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2012

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Both my 2yr old and my 4 yr old pick up after themselves. They know that if they get a toy out they have to put it away.

They need reminding alot of the time but generally they can do it without being asked. Both have done it from a very young age

Catalina - posted on 04/26/2012

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I have my son help me "clean" all the time, he is 1. It teaches him good habits now. Honestly his "cleaning" make more mess for me, I don't mind at all though, because it means it will be a habit by the time he knows how! :)

Liz - posted on 04/26/2012

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I agree with all previous posters. If they grow up knowing to clean up after themselves, they will see it as normal, and there will be less of a fight later on. I don't know how old your kids are, but my 5 year old has 5 chores: set table, empty bathroom trash, water indoor plants, pick up toys, and load the washer. My 3 year old has 3 chores: pick up toys, load the washer, and gather the rugs for me to shake out. My 2 year old has 2 chores: pick up toys, and load the dryer. They have sticker charts and at the end of the week they get a quarter for each chore they've done all week. They are also expected to carry their dirty dishes to the sink, put their dirty clothes in the hamper, keep their rooms looking neat, etc. I don't think kids should be overloaded with work and chores - after all, they're kids. They need to play and discover things. But I do think the earlier that chores are introduced the more of a benefit they are all around.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/26/2012

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I have my 2-year-old clean up after himself a bit, but it's mostly for his benefit, as when he wipes or tidies or sweeps something, often it makes more work for me than it was to begin with. But he's learning responsibility, and the skills can develop later. He spilled some Rice Krispies today and I asked him to get the broom and sweep them up. Well, he aimed the broom at the cereal for a while, and then I said, "I'll help you a little bit" and I swept them into a pile and he got the dustpan and I swept them onto it and he went and dumped it in the garbage can and put the broom away. Little kids want to help, so I think we'd better train them while they're gullible- I mean trainable! :)



I think as soon as they start to walk, they should be asked to put some toys back in the toybox. Maybe I'm too lenient, but if my son puts some toys in then I call that good enough. He doesn't have to clean everything up.

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anytime they are capable. about the time my son was 1 1/2 I started having him clean up his own toys and bring me his dishes. as long as you make it age appropriate it doesn't hurt to start young

Mimi - posted on 04/26/2012

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I agree. The earlier they learn, the easier it becomes. When mine were 1 & 2, they put up their toys. We did it together, but they got in the "habit" of picking up after themselves. Now, they are 9 & 10, and they do pretty good. Of course, they are boys, so they need plenty of reminders, but they know the routine.

Medic - posted on 04/26/2012

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Once they start making the mess. Even if your doing most of it make it a game. My kids are 2 and 5 and they clean up their own messes.

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