What age should kids be allowed to date unsupervised?

Apryl - posted on 07/18/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hello moms, I'm new here!
I have two girls ages 11 & 14. My oldest is a freshman in high school and has been interested in boys for a while now. I'm all for chaperoned dates right now where an adult is present, but what age is okay for unsupervised, steady dating? Like a relationship? I didn't start dating until I was 16, should I use that same rule with my daughters? Or should a mature teen have this freedom sooner? Share your opinions please!

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Ev - posted on 07/19/2016

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Neither of my kids were allowed dating until 16 years old. My daughter then dated the same guy (her first boyfriend) from junior to mid freshman year of college. She then broke that off and about 9 months later started dating her now husband. My son never did go on dates and still has not at the age of 19. He is leary of doing so because of watching how his dad was with GF's over time and even getting married 2x after me.

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Ev - posted on 07/20/2016

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Aaron--you need to quit posting the same thing on posts. I have seen it on several and it has nothing to do with the post actually. Maybe make a separate posting for this.

Nadine - posted on 07/20/2016

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I think it depends on the child. My son has a girlfriend now at 16, they have been dating for about a year, but have been friends for 2 years before that. Because of that they have been "unsupervised", but usually with their friends. Now at 16 they are in and out of each other's houses, but seldom alone. I guess it depends on how much you trust your children, their maturity level, and your expectations. The first time he was alone with her in our house was a month ago, because they are on vacation, and we both work.

Kassidy - posted on 07/20/2016

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I say 16! When your old enough to have a license and be able to GO on actual dates.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/19/2016

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I don't think there is a set age, but definitely a maturity level needs to be considered. I don't think I would have an issue with dropping my 14 year old off at the movies, and picking them up (kids are currently 10, 6). But it would depend on if I knew the date well, and how mature my child is. 11 is to young, but it would not be unheard of having a co-ed group of friends together.

Always - posted on 07/19/2016

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I think it's great for girls to be friends with boys at this age, but unsupervised dating would be a bit down the road for me. It's hard to say a certain age - one daughter might be mature much later than the other, and 16 would be too young for her. My girls will date based on their age coupled with their maturity level and each girl will be different. I often pray that God will help me to know what is best for the individual girl, and will give me the wisdom to help them protect their hearts and bodies. It would also depend on the boy - do I trust him, is he honorable, will they always be in a public place, etc. There is so much time between the ages of 14 and marriage - time to explore life, make friends, dream about a future, and I see so many girls who spend most of those years worrying about boys who won't even be around down the road. I agree with your comment post - their little hearts aren't ready for it.

Apryl - posted on 07/18/2016

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I agree with you ladies! I see kids in middle school dating and getting heart broken, and they're just not emotionally ready for that.
My motto is, "If you're not old enough to drive on a date, you're not old enough to date!"

Dove - posted on 07/18/2016

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16 is the youngest I would allow one on one unsupervised in public and that's IF they are ready and proven mature/responsible enough to handle it. Right now my teenage daughters are 14.5 and they do spend a lot of time surfing, playing soccer/video games, and hanging out w/ guys... but they are more friendship type relationships and they are always in a group w/ at least 3 girls (them and their bestie) w/ 1 or several guys.

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