Katie - posted on 07/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband's family make me feel very anxious. They are constantly comparing my baby to her cousins and she always comes up short in their eyes. In all the milestones our baby is average - she is an average sleeper, she is average height & weight, she rolled over, got teeth, crawled, babbled etc. all at normal times. She has a cousin close in age who is, in their eyes, far superior - she is smarter, taller, more beautiful, sleeps through the night, met all her milestones earlier, yadda yadda yadda... The grandparents also favor the cousin - hand knitting sweaters for her, buying her clothes and toys, lavishing attention on her, and pretty much ignoring our baby.
My husband's brother's wife is also far superior to me - she lost all her baby weight sooner, she keeps the house cleaner, she cooks better, she is a better mother, she is going back to work sooner, blah blah blah...
All of this comparing and competition really makes me feel anxious, to the point where I dread seeing them. Does anyone else have his problem? I know they're not going to change so how can I learn to deal with it better? How can I protect my daughter so that she doesn't feel like second best whenever we see that side of the family?