What are your thoughts on letting a baby 'cry it out'?

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Margie - posted on 02/13/2009

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I always believed that if the baby is crying then it's for a reason.  I never let my boys cry it out.  I'm glad that I never did that.  I always felt that If I didn't answer their cries they would develop emotional issues and doubts of self worth.  My oldest is 9 and my younest is 5.  Both seem to be confident in themselves.

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I respect your opnion and don't get me wrong, I love my son to bits and I do cuddle him before I put him to bed. I have a great bond with my son and wouldn't be with out him.



My partner's Mother did it to this to him and his brother and they turned out perfectly fine. My partner is in his early 30's and his brother is in his late 20's.



I don't mean to offened anyone with the comments I have made but I just wanted to say what I do and why I do it.

Leanne - posted on 02/13/2009

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I believe this will cause anxiety later on in life ... that's just my personal thoughts x

A baby is crying for a reason, even if it is for your attention - that's what we are here for isn't it, to protect and nurture our babies ?

whether it be in the middle of the night or nearing feed time, as long as you teach them the correct ways, letting them have the cuddle they crave doesn't do any harm x my little boy is 3 now, i never let him cry it out and he isn't spoilt or demanding, he is very affectionate and loving xx

Kelly - posted on 02/12/2009

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to some degree i think it's OK - of course assuming that you know nothing's wrong and the baby has been fed, chaged, etc. After about 6 months of age, I did the wait 5 minutes,wait 10 minutes, wait 15 minutes thing...there are some pretty stubborn babies out there and my daughter was and still is one. After 2 months of doing that, my husband and i were exhausted. The funny thing is, we noticed she'd stop crying and listen as soon as we got out of bed. She could hear us as soon as our feet hit the floor. If we didn't come in a few seconds she'd stat again. That's when we realized we'd been had. So we continued our usual bedtime routine. With my husband and I putting her to bed, then one of us going in for a few seconds after about 15 minutes just to say "you're OK, night night" then we'd go again after a half hour. By the 3rd night, we only had to go in once. After a few more days, she was settling down on her own. Sticking to the routine helped.

I have a co-worker whose 2 year old is still crying at night and she is getting up to soothe and comfort him and even give water. This goes on at least 3 to 6 times every single night. IN MY OPINION, this is not healthy for the child or the parents. The husband who has to wake at 5AM for work is now sleeping in a separate room. He takes the shift up until 11PM and then the mother takes the rest of the night, sometimes getting up and down until 3 in the morning.

Allison - posted on 02/12/2009

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I think that there is a reason most mother's have a very hard time letting their baby cry it out - we *know* they need us so we are evolutionarily trained to respond. By responding to your baby, you are teaching them they can trust you and count on you. Sleep is very challenging for many young kids, but eventually they all learn to sleep. I think it's very important we support sleep, even if that means rocking them or whatever, until they are developmentally ready to sleep on their own.

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Artemis - posted on 02/28/2016

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I don't let my baby to cry for hours. I have used babies magic tea for my baby who wasn't stopping crying in the night and was very colicky, however, after taking this tea he never cried like before.

Jenni - posted on 02/13/2009

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oh you hate to do it!!!!! especially if it's ur first and you've read all the 'no cry' solutions! i dont think it's 'cruel' although it is hard... if you want a medium between cry and no cry try ferberizing... but i would only try 'crying' if u've tried everything else and nothing is working... sort of a last resort... i dont think it's 'cruel' because it only takes 3 days- a week as long as ur consistant its not as though for the rest of his babyhood ur letting cry for hours on end... with my son he would only cry for 20 mins max before falling asleep and i would use 'ferberizing' (going in at 5 mins, again at 5 mins and then 10 and 10 etc. until he was asleep just to let him know i hadn't abandoned him, keep in mind that going in will make him cry even louder when u leave but if you dont want to him/or you to feel like ur abandoning him it's far more comforting over all) i never let him cry for more than 30 minutes because i found that if he cried longer than that than he really did need something but that rarely happened... he's 7 months now and rarely ever cries when i lay him down (maybe once in a blue moon) and when he does it's only 4 5 mins and more like a moan than a cry and he's asleep... with more active babies sometimes it's the only way for them to fall asleep is to cry... rocking, nursing, patting and shhing, and every other method out there didn't work for me and beleive me i tried *everything*!!!! nobody wants to hear their baby cry!! it's awful to hear and makes u feel soo guilty... but when ur still waking up every 1-2 hrs with ur 4 month old, nursing him back to sleep just to have him wake up an hour or two later, ur body can only take so long of being sleep deprived and it's not far to u or ur baby... but i suggest trying everything else first to get him to sleep, use it as a last resort... if u have an 'active' baby like me sometimes it is the only solution... mom's with 'easy' babies dont understand this and they can judge alllll they want ;)

Hayley - posted on 02/13/2009

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I couldn't let any of my chidren cry. Whenever they would cry i would pick them up and cuddle them back over. My eldest is 3 now and just stated getting out of that routine my 2 year old still comes through to our bed through the night and no matter how much i put him back into bed he just comes back through.If you think you can handle that then great pick your child up when they cry. If not then yeh i think it would be ok to let them cry as long as you keep checking on them. I only wish i had it in me to do it.

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2009

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Jessica:

I dont let my baby cry it out, but I was appalled by the amount of mommies on here who do. Which is why I wanted everyones opinion on this. My beliefs are: A baby needs his/her mother, and they dont know how to put themselves to sleep. I rock my children while they have a bottle, and they fall right to sleep, then I put them in bed. Works great for us, and now he is falling asleep on his own in his crib. My oldest was the same as well!





I see your point, and respect it, but I think the reason most mothers do this is to teach their children how to fall asleep on their own, and STAY asleep. It is not that we don't take our roles as mothers seriously, or slack on what is expected of us. There shouldn't be anything appalling about it. With my oldest, I would rock her to sleep every night as a baby, and then as she got older, until about age 4, she still expected me to be right there with her when she was going to bed.  And I lost alot of sleep over those 4 years, because she was waking up 3 times every night because I went back to my own bed and was not there with her.  She is 5 now and still has problems falling asleep on her own. I decided to do things differently this time around with my youngest, because I needed her to learn how to self soothe just enough to fall asleep on her own, and stay asleep. I enjoyed rocking and suggling her to sleep, but once she got close to a year, she needed to learn how to do it on her own, and she has been sleeping through the night since about 8 months of age. It helps because I do need the sleep. I find it hard to contend with the demands of the day without it!






Ok, appalled was not the correct word. Amazed is more along the lines I was thinking. You see, I was raised very differently, and when I had my first child I was very young and my fiance and I split up for awhile and I was raising my son while staying with my mother. When I would try to put him down, he wouldnt/couldnt go right to sleep. I tried to let him fuss (which tore my heart out and made me want to cry) until my mother would pick him up and rock him to sleep. When he was in his deep sleep, you know, where they are all limp and easily movable, she would place him in his bassinet and he would stay asleep. So, I started doing that, and it has worked for my children. I definitly respect the mothers who have the strength to let their children 'cry it out', however I personally dont agree with that. I feel like its the mothers/fathers responsibiility as a parent to comfort their baby when crying. As for toddlers, its a little different. They should be allowed to fuss a little bit, because they have other ways of communicating their needs with us. My oldest was a rugrat when he was a toddler, he would sing and talk to himself for hours in his room until he fell asleep. Thats just my views on it, and I love to hear what all of you have to say.

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Jessica:

I dont let my baby cry it out, but I was appalled by the amount of mommies on here who do. Which is why I wanted everyones opinion on this. My beliefs are: A baby needs his/her mother, and they dont know how to put themselves to sleep. I rock my children while they have a bottle, and they fall right to sleep, then I put them in bed. Works great for us, and now he is falling asleep on his own in his crib. My oldest was the same as well!





I see your point, and respect it, but I think the reason most mothers do this is to teach their children how to fall asleep on their own, and STAY asleep. It is not that we don't take our roles as mothers seriously, or slack on what is expected of us. There shouldn't be anything appalling about it. With my oldest, I would rock her to sleep every night as a baby, and then as she got older, until about age 4, she still expected me to be right there with her when she was going to bed.  And I lost alot of sleep over those 4 years, because she was waking up 3 times every night because I went back to my own bed and was not there with her.  She is 5 now and still has problems falling asleep on her own. I decided to do things differently this time around with my youngest, because I needed her to learn how to self soothe just enough to fall asleep on her own, and stay asleep. I enjoyed rocking and suggling her to sleep, but once she got close to a year, she needed to learn how to do it on her own, and she has been sleeping through the night since about 8 months of age. It helps because I do need the sleep. I find it hard to contend with the demands of the day without it!






I would have to agree with the second Jessica i'm qouting here. When my 8 month old son gets put down for a nap during day (when he is clearly tired) he does perform. I do make sure though before I put him down that it's not hunger or dirty nappy.



I used to set an alarm during the night to feed him ( I was told by a midwife to feed four hourly- that I would never recommend to anyone) and found I had to rock him to sleep.I found when I stopped the feed four hourly that  he would sleep from 9pm till 8am, and he has done so since he was 8weeks old.



I was informed by Plunket (a service we have here in New Zealand, I guess you could call them like a extended midwife service), that when you put them to bed especially during the day, they do need to be tired but also awake so they can soothe themselves to sleep. They also recommended waiting 30mins if they are crying to check on them. I have been told that if you do get into a habit  of getting them up because they want attention ( you may learn what their cry means) then they will rely on u to do so.



My son cries during the day when he is put to bed because he does not want to be there, even though I can tell he is clearly tired.



I'm not saying that those Mums don't let their child cry (I can't think of the right word to say and its not my intention to offend anyone and if i do, I appologies) are weak, but that is what they feel is best.

Tina - posted on 02/12/2009

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I used the let them cry method with both my daughters.  It all depends what they are crying about.  if it's a tantrum I found the best thing to do was let them know that I heard them crying but that didn't mean they were going to get whatever they wanted.  it's very hard to listen to them crying without feeling horrible about it but if you give in then it only makes it that much harder next time to say no.  if they are crying because they are scared or lonely that is completely different of course they need to be cuddled when this is the case.  Just use your best judgement and do what you feel comfortable with.  every child is different and so is every family.  what works for one may not work for another.

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my oldest was cholic for 5 months. ther is nothing wrong with letting your baby cry. Believe me I tried everything in the world to help my daughter and would hug and rock her and gave her all the love in the world to show her I care. I also let her cry. Today she is 5 and is very confindent little girl. She always is good about getting over things quickly. Like if I tell her she can't do something she doesn't whine about it and just moves on. I think it made her a stronger person. But now with my second little girl she is totally different from my first. so doesn't cry a lot but does like to be held. I do worry about that sometimes. Because I want her to be strong but I'm sure she will in her on way.

Carmen - posted on 02/12/2009

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Babies no," as the saying goes they need something, its just finding that something", I never let my two cry it out and thy are very good sleepers, now thy are toddlers yes for ten mins, I agree with holly you usually no by now if thy having you on or not!

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2009

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Jessica, I only used the 'cry it out' method when they weren't going to sleep in the way you described anymore, and would not settle no matter what else I did. And I only did once they were over 1 year old. Unfortunately, not all mothers have the same experience you did with getting your children to sleep -- I had a much harder time of it. I also had my kids dropping off, I would put them down, and as soon as I put them down they would wake up and start wailing again. I hope you realise how very fortunate you are that you had this experience with your kids -- its not so easy with all kids.

No one ENJOYS the cry it out method, and for most mothers I think it is a last resort -- certainly was for me; but it worked and I don't feel I have done my kids any harm. Your kids sound like really good sleepers. My eldest was never a good sleeper, I remember when she was still tiny falling asleep on my feet while walking up and down rocking her to try and get her calm. I woke up as I was falling forward, so no harm done, but I was totally exhausted. My second child slept easily at first but at about 3 months, she started playing up (there were family stress factors involved in that her dad walked out on us), but I kept up the cuddling, rocking and breastfeeding routine, until she was 13 months, before switching to 'cry it out'.

Holly - posted on 02/12/2009

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Baby-no never there is always a reason Toddler, for alittle while 10 15 minutes but by that age you should be able to tell if its a temper tantrum or hurt or hunger.Try to talk it out but if its just a spoiled cry let it go it will end eventually

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2009

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well my thoughts yeh let um cry but 4 how long? it doesnt hurt thm 2 cry but dnt leave it 2 long

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Quoting Jessica:

I dont let my baby cry it out, but I was appalled by the amount of mommies on here who do. Which is why I wanted everyones opinion on this. My beliefs are: A baby needs his/her mother, and they dont know how to put themselves to sleep. I rock my children while they have a bottle, and they fall right to sleep, then I put them in bed. Works great for us, and now he is falling asleep on his own in his crib. My oldest was the same as well!


I see your point, and respect it, but I think the reason most mothers do this is to teach their children how to fall asleep on their own, and STAY asleep. It is not that we don't take our roles as mothers seriously, or slack on what is expected of us. There shouldn't be anything appalling about it. With my oldest, I would rock her to sleep every night as a baby, and then as she got older, until about age 4, she still expected me to be right there with her when she was going to bed.  And I lost alot of sleep over those 4 years, because she was waking up 3 times every night because I went back to my own bed and was not there with her.  She is 5 now and still has problems falling asleep on her own. I decided to do things differently this time around with my youngest, because I needed her to learn how to self soothe just enough to fall asleep on her own, and stay asleep. I enjoyed rocking and suggling her to sleep, but once she got close to a year, she needed to learn how to do it on her own, and she has been sleeping through the night since about 8 months of age. It helps because I do need the sleep. I find it hard to contend with the demands of the day without it!

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2009

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it depends how old they are. if they are over a year old, i think it's ok, because its only two nights. my two girls are not adversely affected that i did this. people frequently comment on how confident and outgoing they are. the key is that they must otherwise feel that you are there for them -- and if it doesn't start working after two nights, take a break from it and try again later.

if they are under a year, they need to know that someone is there to care for them when they need it, so small babies should not be left to cry it out.

Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2009

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I cant handle it when a baby cries.. Now if they are 2-3 toddler and throwing a fit, then no I dont think so but a baby cant tell you what they want/need and thats not fair to them.

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I let my daughter cry it out sometimes, especially when it's time for bed and she doesn't want to sleep! She's 19 months now, but when she was about 8 months old, we started doing this. My boyfriend was raised in a house where his mother picked up the baby whenever it made so much as a whine. My mother, concerned that we would be spoiled, did the opposite. And as long as she knew nothing was wrong with us, she would let us cry it out, but never for more than 10 minutes, or to the point of hysterics. My boyfriend hated the idea of listening to our daughter cry, and often he would break down and pick her up after about a minute. I tried to explain to him why she was doing this, and that she was playing him like a fiddle to get what she wanted, which was..not to go to bed! I butt heads with his mother all the time over this. But I see the differences it can make in a child. My friend's baby is attached to her hip 24/7. Every time he cried, she'd pick him up and hold him. He cannot occupy himself for more than 2 minutes without crying to be picked up. He is 18 months old, one month younger than my daughter. My daughter, on the other hand, has become very independent, loves playing with toys and looking at her books. She can occupy herself for a long period of time without needing constant stimulation from me. And when it's bed time, she now knows what she has to do. I wonder if it has to do with the different ways we addressed the "crying it out" situation. I don't worry if people think it's cruel, because I know that I am a loving parent, but also a parent that means business.
I guess it really all boils down to whatever makes a parent feel comfortable. To each their own!

Kelly - posted on 02/12/2009

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yes, i agree they are crying because they want something,with both of my kids they wanted to be held and to hear me sing and do all the things we did during the daytime. However, I taught my kids that night time is for resting and SLEEPING. Before my daughter muttered her first words, she would cry in her crib at night and then if me or my husband got up, she would stop and say "hmmm" as if someone had called her. She's be really quiet, listen and then start with the "hmmm" again. The patting on the back never worked for us - my daughter would scream even louder if we tried this. Even the 5, 20, 15 minutes did really tear at my heart. I'd let my husband listen to it and go in the basement where I watched each second tick on the clock. My kids learned to settle themselves down at night which is what I wanted. Even now, I really don't force sleep on them - just as no one can force me to sleep. But at a certain time, my kids know they are to be in bed. One is asleep in seconds and the other sings and babbles to herself for hours. My oldest is almost 14 and there are no "attachment" or "confidence" issues there. He is a well-adjusted kid who knows his Mommy is there for him. I don't think remembers that I let him cry for a little bit at bedtime when he was a baby. In the end, my kids are happy, my marriage is intact and my husband and I got to sleep in the same bed at the same time and had enough energy in the day to do fun things as a family and even find some couple time, as opposed to taking turns getting up all night and being exhausted all day.

Barbara - posted on 02/12/2009

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I won't do it.  I think that my baby trusts me to respond to her and I don't think that crying teaches a baby to go to sleep.  I think it teaches the baby to give up on mom coming to her and she falls asleep exhausted.  People will disagree with me, but I think it has to add a little distance to the relationship.  I want my baby to know I am always there for her and will not leave her alone in a room to scream.



I think that you do not learn to sleep, it is developmental and will progress with the baby's neurological development.  I do think you can create sleep associations and then have to work on changing them, but forcing a baby to sleep seems cruel to me.

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When my son was 1 yrs old he wouldn't go to bed. He was still getting up all the time through the night. I had to have a friend take my son, take me to her house and I would have to listen to him cry for an hr. I checked in on him. Telling him that mommies here that I wasn't going to leave him and try to help him soothe himself. The problem is that they have to learn to put themselves to sleep. It was so heart wrenching but it did work. Im very thankful now. But it was one of the most toughest things I had to do.

Anna - posted on 02/12/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

What are your thoughts on letting a baby 'cry it out'?



some babies need to cry to go off to sleep i allow about 5 minutes of general crying if they are crying less and less leave them, going in may make the screams come back but if it worsens in the 5 minutes go in and try to settle in bed.

Silvana - posted on 02/12/2009

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i let mine cry when its not an excessive cry. if its like a whining cry then i let it go but if it gets out of control then i'll pick her up. mine usually will cry if shes a little thirsty which i couldnt understand until i introduced water

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2009

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Developmentally under the age of one, you should not let you child cry it out. One of the major harms of doing that is going to affect the attachment between child and mother (parent). Crying is child/baby's way of communicating (as we all know) what they can't say in words. At the same time each parent knows their child best and should go with what they think is best.

Brooke - posted on 02/12/2009

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Also my 4 month old sleeps from 8:30 pm till 6 am without waking up, and I have never let him cry it out.  They cry because they want something, and it is your responsibility as a parent to fulfill that need. 

Brooke - posted on 02/12/2009

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Research has shown that babies who are "spoiled" when they are young, turn into more independent toddlers, and have more self confidence. 

Jessica - posted on 02/12/2009

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Quoting Paulette:



Hey Jessica, What is the little leader symbol next to your name about?






It should say smarty pants now. its based on how many questions I have answered. :-) Lots and lots!!

Paulette - posted on 02/12/2009

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Hi Jessica, My thoughs on letting a child cry is this...before maybe 6 months is wrong. They do not have the thinking capabilities to manipulate us parents to get what then want. I just let my child cry for 10 mins. and if they do not settle then I go check them. When they are fine or were fine I would leave. Knowing they were just lonely. If they cry again I let them cry for 15 mins. etc. Of course mom's know the cry of when they are sick and so on. Some say letting them cry it out is hard on the child but I think it is ok as long as their needs have been met. The crying is harder on the mom and dad than the child in my opinion. Take care.

Angela - posted on 02/12/2009

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Yes, I have heard that you walk in place your hand on their back and tell them it's ok then walk out again. I saw on some show one time where they had the mom sit in a chair with her back to the child, but don't look at them or speak to them. Each night you move the chair further from the bed until it's out the door. They learn your not going anywhere that way.

All I know is that I need my 4 year old to start going to bed by himself when his older sisters go to bed, not when I go to bed. He has to be holding my bare arm to fall asleep. I think that's a left over from nursing...he likes the skin to skin contact for comfort.

Good luck to you!

Maggie - posted on 02/12/2009

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I am the youngest of 9 and the one thing that my brother told was that there should typically be only 2 reasons that your baby cries, if he/she is hungry or needs a diaper change.  He told me that if you do both then you should always have a happy baby.  My brother has 6 kids, so I trusted his experience.  He also told me that if you do this and your baby still cries then install the 15 minute rule.  What that means is that a baby responds based on learned behaviors.  If you always respond as soon as the baby cries then they count on that and never learn impulse control.  The baby never learns to comfort him/herself, or never learns how to deal with staying calm.  Of course, not all cries are the same.  You can tell when there is really something wrong if you adopt letting your baby cry for a little bit. 



I did this with my daughter and I can tell you that she was a very easy baby and didn't tend to have a lot of issues.  She didn't like to be hot.  That was her biggest problem.  As long as I knew that she wasn't hungry and didn't need a diaper change, then I would let her cry for a little bit and wait to see what would happen.  It was hard at first, but then I learned what her crying meant when it happened.  I could tell when something was wrong or if she just wanted me to over indulge her with constantly holding her.  My daughter is now older and I can still tell when something really is wrong and when she really does need my help.

Olivia - posted on 02/12/2009

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If you're referring to getting them to sleep through the night, I'm for it.  It's gut-wrenching to do, but if you just make yourself do it, you and your baby will be better off for it in the short term.  You listen to the monitor to make sure everything is okay, but do not go in the room or it will only prolong it.  It can take as long as a couple hours that first night if your child is stubborn like mine, but after that they know you're not coming back and they'll just go to sleep.

Jessica - posted on 02/12/2009

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I dont let my baby cry it out, but I was appalled by the amount of mommies on here who do. Which is why I wanted everyones opinion on this. My beliefs are: A baby needs his/her mother, and they dont know how to put themselves to sleep. I rock my children while they have a bottle, and they fall right to sleep, then I put them in bed. Works great for us, and now he is falling asleep on his own in his crib. My oldest was the same as well!

User - posted on 02/12/2009

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I let my kids cry it out starting at age 5m...they are very well adjusted happy and WELL RESTED kids..and I'm a better, happier, more well rested mom for it.



That being said you have to ask yourself why they are crying. If your kid a snotty nose all day and wakes up at night crying..chances are they are sick and need there mom.

Rita - posted on 02/12/2009

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I think they grow so fast I never let my son cry. They get big on their own. My son is 2 1/2 and he runs from me now. Every once in a while he still wants me to hold him and rock him and I love it.

Sharon - posted on 02/12/2009

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hi



a baby crys because they have wind hungry wet of bored how wud u feel huni if u wanted a bit of attention and u nwhere ignored i feel if a baby vries and u can do no more for it a little tap on the back like a beat of a heart beat works wounders they will soon settle u c babys are really clever they scream and know their going to be picked up so try not to try the patting first if baby get to upset after the feed winding and nappy change then pick baby up ...good lucj huni



sharon....mum of 3 granmother of 3



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Lisa - posted on 02/12/2009

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I don't like it !! We tried it with our first child and it was horrible. I did hear on television a while ago that if you go to a crying baby or child it builds their confidence, they know they are not alone and in turn will feel more settled. I prefer this theory !!

Angela - posted on 02/12/2009

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I was never very good at that...that may be why we chose the "family bed". I would lay down in bed at night with my little one until she/he fell asleep then my husband moved them to their bed when he came to bed. Unfortunately, my 4 year old is still in that pattern. We just got heart broken to hear them cry like that.



I do have several friends that used the cry it out method and you just have to do what your comfortable with. It does work and the longer you do it, eventually they will just fall asleep when you lay them down with out crying at all.

Sherilyn - posted on 02/12/2009

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But that is a good one not to many people have good thought on this whether it is a baby or child, in the end they think the parenting is bad.

Hayley - posted on 02/12/2009

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I think its fine to let them cry as long as you go in after 5 mins, then 10 , then up to 15 just to let them know that you are still there but dont pick them up. Its hard to hear them cry but it wont take long to settle them in the future.

Sherilyn - posted on 02/12/2009

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I find it a little cruel when a mother just lets a child cry out. It is different when the mother can't get the baby or child to stop crying (maybe it is just one of those days we all have them) but I see it all the time and as the baby gets older they will be a child that just whines and it is telling a child that if he does next time he or she can get what they want!!

The best thing is to do your best to calm your baby, and if you have a calm baby your going to have a calm child.

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