What can I do?

Kat - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Not sure if this is the best group for this post but I need help... My oldest daughter is in kindergarden and there is a little boy in her class that has promblems with being good. This 5 year old little boy has called my daughter the B word, has taken siccors and cut two of her shirts, and he also picks on all the other kids in the class. According to my daughter he picks someone new everyday to pick on and on Thursday she told me this boy had flipped over a chair and had flipped over a table in the classroom cause he was abset. I'm very concered about what's going on with this child but I don't know what to do about it or if I can even do anything. So if any of you moms have any ideas or any advice please let me know.

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JuLeah - posted on 04/11/2011

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I'd speak with the teacher - today. I'd speak with the school officals. That boy needs help, and I feel bad for him, but he doesn't get to cause this much havoic in the classroom. Sometimes the hands of the teacher are tied until parents of other kids start to complain, then her/his concerns are listened to. Talk with the teacher and see what is being done. Be assertive.

Carolyn - posted on 04/11/2011

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I would speak to the teacher to find out if anything is being done in the first place and address your concerns to her. I would also inform her that due to issues concerning the destruction of your daughters personal property by an abusive scissor weilding child, you will be speaking to the principal regarding the child's behaviour as well. This way you are keeping the focus on the child's behaviour ( and not the teachers efforts or lack their of)



You have very legitimate concerns. But i would talk to the teacher first, even if only to gain more insight on the situation.



You could also speak to some of your daughters friend's parents, and each address this concern with the school. Its harder to ignore the concerns of many.

Bonnie - posted on 04/11/2011

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That behaviour is unacceptable IMO. If the teacher is obviously not doing anything to get him to stop, I would go to the principal. If that does not work, go higher up (perhaps the school board).

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Kat - posted on 04/11/2011

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thank you Carolyn and JuLeah, I'm thinking of speaking to another one of the moms who is a friend of mine and compare notes (so to say) and I plan on speaking to the teacher this week. I know for sure that if after school today I hear about this boy's behavior from my child again or if she has another cut up shirt I'm going to the Princpal. And JuLeah I feel for that child too... On Thursday when I went to sleep after hearing what he had done (with the chair and tables) I lost sleep... I feel that this little boy needs help and if going to the school and expressing my feelings on the subject is going to help that's what I will do.

Kat - posted on 04/11/2011

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I compeltely agree with you Bonnie I think the behavior that the boy has shown is compeltly unacceptable and the funny thing is he knows it too because come Friday he went to class and told my daughter he was grounded until he could be good. I'm on the fence about going to the Principal because it's already April and school is over in June but I don't know how much more I can take of this kid... I hear all the things he does in class and I just feel so hopeless... And being a fomer daycare teacher I know the teacher probley feels that way to but unforntally all she can do is report it....

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