What can I do about my 2yr old NOT listening to me, I think she is testing her boundaries? How can I positively get her to just do as I say? I am concerned she hurts herself by going against my guidance!!!??? HELP

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Amy - posted on 12/21/2011

6,467

33

2386

Give her two choices of things you want her to do that way she feels like she has a say.

[deleted account]

30 minutes sounds very good for a 2 year old.



What kind of problems are you having? My son (3.75 now) is very strong willed as well. One 'trick' that tends to work at times when he won't get his teeth brushed, get dressed, or whatever is to turn it into a game.. Ask her 'can you do ___ before Mommy does ____?' Since my son is competitive.... He LOVES to beat Mommy (or one of his big sisters). ;)

Clarissa - posted on 12/21/2011

15

2

0

I also find she can't focus on doing one thing for longer than 30min. Is this normal. I give her the freedom of choice and consequence but she has a very strong personality.

12 Comments

View replies by

[deleted account]

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipl...

Plenty of positive ways to discipline your 2 year old. This is normal behavior, its basically a power struggle. No child will EVER just do as you say. She will always test her boundaries, she will always want to make decisions for herself. Its a good thing. She is showing she wants control over her own life. When shes ready she will get just that.

Kyleigh - posted on 12/21/2011

54,671

39

278

I usually give my 22month old dd something to play with, then another one fromthe store just to keep her focused....especially me pushing her through the toy aisle, I will just hand her something she will be interested in, i have a hard time to after so long of her being in the cart, she will want to get out, which i really dont blame her, its just that age.

[deleted account]

My best friend has 3 little boys.. 4.5, almost 3, and almost 1, so she CAN'T have them all in the cart (the 2 little ones are)... I don't know how she survives shopping trips. I can barely make it through w/ my two 10 year olds 'helping' and the 3 year old in the cart....

Clarissa - posted on 12/21/2011

15

2

0

I always thought it was cruel to keep them strapped in but YES I am going to strap her in from now on! Thanks

Clarissa - posted on 12/21/2011

15

2

0

I always thought it was cruel to keep them strapped in but YES I am going to strap her in from now on! Thanks

[deleted account]

See... 99% of the time my son doesn't even have the option to be out of the cart. Just pick her up and strap her in. No way am I dealing w/ the stress of a wandering toddler while trying to pay attention to my shopping (which I hate doing anyway).

Clarissa - posted on 12/21/2011

15

2

0

If I give her choices she obliviantly refuses to make one and continues doing things her own way. For eg. In the shopping mall I was doing my last christmas present rounds when I bought her a toy phone and she walked around the mall "talking" on her "phone" falling over her own feet, not keeping nearby me. I told her: either you watch where you arewalking and stay nearby or you sit in the pram with your phone. She refused to do either. So for obvious reasons with it being christmas time and us living in africa where child mall kidnappings are increasing rapidly (I also have a six month old with me at the time) I took her phone away. I couldn't finish my shopping, she was screaming so loud I just went home.

[deleted account]

If you want someone to positively just do as you say... you don't want a kid, you want a robot. ;)



I agree w/ giving her choices whenever possible. The more power she has in her life... the less she will feel like she has to fight for when there really IS no choice to offer.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms