Rebecca - posted on 11/15/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
Just looking for some tips and advice for our growing family. We have always had had her every weekend. However her mother has developed a growing drug problem that has spiraled out of control. It is no longer safe for to be in her mothers care unsupervised. So after today she will be coming to live with us permanently. This also involves her changing schools and I know how big of an adjustment this is for a 3rd grader. We also have a 22 month old son and a new baby on the way. I just want to make sure with everything going on and all the changes that we support her in every way she is going to need with everything she doesn't understand going on. I don't want her to feel lost in the mix coming from being the only child in her mothers life to full time big sister and shared attention especially with a new baby coming and all of the time that consumes. Our household rules are very different with her mother it was anything goes and do it yourself where as with us she has bedtime, chores, and has to ask permission before doing things (even if it's as small as helping herself to ice cream). I just expect her to be overwhelmed and I have been in her life since she was 3 so we have a pretty good relationship, she knows that I love her will always care for her and that she can come to me. But we still have our moments of her lashing out with the you aren't my Mother you can't tell me what to do kind of attitude. I don't know, I guess I am just searching for advice on making this big transition the best it can be on everyone involved. I can imagine losing my mother to a drug addiction at such a young age, my heart is just broken for her. I do not understand.