What can I do to help my kid aged 10 years old being bullied in school?

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Barry - posted on 04/20/2015

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I am a worried grandfather my granddaughter has Autism and she gets bullied she does not want to go to school teachers say did not see it she schoo
ls be at a special school but they wont take her what can we do or who do we get in touch with

Karla - posted on 11/09/2009

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I had my son start taking taekwondo classes when he was ten. He was small for his age and a bit 'bookish.' He did have a problem with one boy who did the whole 'you think you're bad because you know martial arts' bit. He talked to his instructor and the instructor told him to go to the teacher, tell the teacher he was having a problem and if the teacher didnt deal with it, my son was to go to the principal and tell him that he was having a problem and the teacher had done nothing and if they didn't take care of the problem he would. Needless to say, the teacher took care of it. Like the instructor told my son, just because they are taught to not start fights, that doesn't mean they have to accept the bullying.

Rachael - posted on 11/09/2009

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If reporting it to the teacher do not help, have a quiet word in the ear of the bully?? If neither of these work, speak to the education department. If still to no avail think about changing schools or put your child in karate etc??? Keep boosting their confidence ALL the time about how good they are etc. Good luck.

Rebeca - posted on 11/08/2009

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Talk to the principal, let him know what is going on. Stopped right away the sooner the better...

Maya - posted on 11/07/2009

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Thanks a lot for all the generous advice you all gave me, this is all very helpful. I ask my kid if there's any changes on the behavior of the kid bullying him and he sound like he did not want me to be involve so I decided to give him a week or two to deal with it by himself.I just pray that it will work well. My kid also take Tae-Kwon-Do lesson so I'm not sure if it simply he doesn't me to be involve of the situation or hes confident that he can handle it himself. I also pray for my two kids with all their endeavor in school not just on this kind of situation but in everything. I also talk to some of the teacher on school and already inform them of the situation I just hope that they will do something about it. Again thank you so much.

Jamie - posted on 11/07/2009

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First, and most importantly, DO NOT just think the kids will work it out by themselves! YOU need to go to the school and make a complaint in person; get the names of the bullies from your child and report them. (This problem is covered by state laws, and federal if you're a minority.) Make notes of incidents, dates, times, places, and file a report with the police. You and your child do not have to tolerate this type of behavior from anyone. The school is almost certain to be required by law to investigate and discipline the bullies.

Cheryl - posted on 11/07/2009

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I am a grandmom, and my girls had same situation. If reporting it doesnt seem effective, I recommend home schooling. Its really not that expensive, and you set the hours.

Robin - posted on 11/07/2009

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Try working with your child and the school system first...If that does not help...show your child how to defend themselves. I had to go that route with mine. Once he stood up for himself, it all stopped!

Jess - posted on 11/07/2009

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I just was dealing with this yesterday. I gave My daughter a week to try to deal with it. I told her To ignore the girls to walk away. but that didnt work. So I went up there and had lunch with her and gave the girls a mean look myself just to let them know i meant business. I was tired of my daughter who loved school now scared. So I walked over to them and asked them both very nicely if they were done being mean and bullying my daughter. i told them it was not acceptable. They have stopped so we will see. If you have a boy thats hard but you need to tell him to stand up for him self. Tell the teacher. Tell the Principal. You have To make the school aware of whats going on .

Tonia - posted on 11/07/2009

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My little bro actually is 11 and he was in the same place. My mom tried letting it go and just telling him to ignore them. as it progressed though she took action. She brought the issue directly to the school she was very firm that she did not like hwat was happening and wanted it addressed. Well those kids ended up having their parents called. Then it stopped.

Misty - posted on 11/07/2009

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get as much info as you can who it is when and all that and go to the principal yourself. Calmly discuss it with the principal, and it should not happen again.

Lynell - posted on 11/07/2009

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Most schools have a psychologist on duty that works with children for a number of things and this is exactly what they are there for. Have your child talk to them and then they can work through different tasks that can help build confidence and also help the whole school realize it is not ok to bully their school mates.

Eve - posted on 11/07/2009

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Involve the teachers and the principal, vice principal of the school. This usually affords your child protection and extra monitoring that will keep him safe. That's what I did.

Kizzy - posted on 11/07/2009

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Quoting Suzanne:

Okay. I tried the school way and than the principle way and it did not help! I finally had to just tell my daughter to knock the tar out of the other kid (of course after they hit her first) and it worked. After the other kids realized that she would fight back it has gotten alot better! Good luck!!


Of course your child will then get in trouble if they follow that option.  Plus if you beat the tar, the other child's parents could press assult charges.  So do you really want to get your child in trouble.  Seriously bad advice.  Do not sink to the level of a bully

Yvonna - posted on 11/07/2009

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Have your evidence, attend P.T.A. give names, show evidence, speak up for your child, to adults! If these Bullies are bullying your child, then they are bullying other children also. These Bullies at this age will grow up to be grown up Bullies, Write down all of your child's likes and hobbies and how being a friend to him has more benefits than bullying does. Glamorize it, Go for it. I'm on your child's side, will pray for you as you enter this new step and journey with your Son, he is precious to all of us. God Bless.

Jayne - posted on 11/07/2009

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Most schools now have a parent support worker - my daughter was bullied all through KS2 and although the school was supportive and did speak to children and parents it continued - the parent suppot worker liases with the school on your behalf and can set up a "confidant" for your child to go to within school whenever they have a problem or just need a chat - i tried the "hurt them back" with my daughter but she is too timid to do it and with girls it tends to be more psychological than physical. Do keep a log of times and dates and what happened and by who because you will need this
if you are ever asked to provide evidence. Ask you school for details of their parent support worker and i hope it helps. Good Luck.

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I would just tell him to stay away from the kids who are bullying him/her and to notify the staff and teachers so that they can keep an eye on the bullying kids... also to just ignore them... now if they get physical I would definitely call for a conference with the offending children parents...

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2009

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Taking Tae-Kwon-Do classes helped my oldest son have more confidence in himself and to have the courage to stand up for himself.

Katie - posted on 11/06/2009

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There is a famous saying Kill em with kindness try that I got bullied in school myself and apparently never did the right thing by ignoring it or by fighting back. But as an adult I find if your nice they can't be mean.

Suzanne - posted on 11/06/2009

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Okay. I tried the school way and than the principle way and it did not help! I finally had to just tell my daughter to knock the tar out of the other kid (of course after they hit her first) and it worked. After the other kids realized that she would fight back it has gotten alot better! Good luck!!

Kizzy - posted on 11/06/2009

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First figure out what the specific bullying is and and where it is occuring. I know your child doesn't want you to be involved, but they will thank you later. Get involved now. Let the teachers who are present know. Create a paper trail on the bullies. Bullies avoid punishements becasue no one reports and insisted on a file created. These students can get help or punishment, but they need a paper trail to get noticed.

Bernie - posted on 11/06/2009

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Help your child report this to teacher and principle. Help him know how wonderful he or she is, to have the confidence to stand tall and stand up to whoever, to have the faith to asked for help from the Lord if you are christians.

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