What can I do to stop my boyfriend from drinking

Siziwe - posted on 12/05/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a problem, my boyfriend has a drinking problem. we stay together with our 1year 5months old little boy.He drinks every weekends and he comes home late. when he is drunk he loves attention and sometimes I'm not in the mood and he dont leasten then we start aguing and he has temper as well when he is drunk, but when he is sober he such a nice guy and good father to our son what can I do to stop him from drinking b'coz I dont want my son to grow in that kind of environment. plz help anyone

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Michelle - posted on 12/05/2012

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Take it from someone who has lived with an alcoholic. You can't stop him. He has to want to change. My ex husband still drinks so leaving still didn't get it through to him.



Let him know that he either gets sober or you are gone. Your son doesn't deserve to be brought up in a home like that.



My ex husband was the exact same as your boyfriend. We had the same argument every night for 2 years as he would forget by the next morning. His argument was that he wasn't getting enough sex and mine was that he should help out more and even come to bed at the same time instead of staying up drinking for another couple of hours. He even attempted to rape me.

My advice is to leave.

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Dove - posted on 12/05/2012

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You can't make him stop drinking, but you can take your son and get out unless/until he decides to quit.



Basically, I agree w/ everything Michelle said. I'm sorry! Good luck and I hope you get the strength to do what is right for you and your son. It's not easy, but it IS doable!

Michelle - posted on 12/05/2012

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You'll be surprised in what you can do on your own. Does your child deserve to be brought up in that toxic environment?



I do shared care with my ex and the saddest thing my 11yo said to me was: "I'm not going to drink beer when I'm older because I don't want to be an alcoholic like Dad."



It broke my heart to hear that from my own child. I wish I had left earlier and fought harder for limited visitation. Of course your son will want his daddy, but you have an obligation to look after your son. You are the parent.

Siziwe - posted on 12/05/2012

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Thanks Michelle, but I have tried to leave him but my son loves his daddy the first thing he ask when he wakes up in the morning is where is daddy. Then I felt bad for taking him away from his father we ended up going back to stay with him. another thing I am scared of raising this child alone what if I can't handle it on my own.

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