what can i do when my 5 yr old is kicking and hitting doors and making herself bleed?

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u don't know me u definitely don't know what i see her mother as so please don't judge me I am just trying to figure out how to help this little girl and myself at the same time while her father is working I am not trying to take her mothers place her mother hasn't been trying to contact or anything I have tried to have her mother visit her but she's more concerned with sex and her man. this little girl has told me many times that she doesn't want to talk to this woman she doesn't want to c her. I used to b friends with her mother until she left her children for a man and then called cps and had the twins taken away from their father luckily I was able to convince them to not take this one too

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2013

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A year isn't very long. Her mother has been gone a year and you are already trying to take her mother's place. Also, 5 years old is way too young for her to make a choice to not see her mother. It really is. Is her mother trying to stay in her life and being prevented? I am just saying that YOU may see mum as a loser, but that doesn't mean her daughter doesn't miss her or doesn't have issues revolving around the loss. She is clearly suffering some level of trauma.

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well its been a yr since her mom left she doesn't have contact with the mother because shes says she doesn't want to talk to her mother. her mother used to hit her and her twin siblings and I don't believe n forcing the child to talk to someone if she doesn't want to talk but last night she did very well and shes doing great so far so idk I must have done something right

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2013

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How long ago did her mum leave, and does she have any contact? She sounds like quite a traumatised child, and could very well be having some very real anxiety issues. It sounds like a complicated situation, and there are definitely circumstances here that could be triggering the issue. I think perhaps consulting a professional with her would be advisable.

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well u see I am not her biological mother her real mom left her for another man and child and I've taken over the role of mommy and she loves me but her daddy just got a job and she's with me 12 hrs a day. about a week ago she started crying when she has to go to bed at night because she's scared and her dad and I wake up at 2:30 am to get him off to work but if I leave her n the room by herself to go get something to eat drink or use the bathroom or if I go to sleep she screams and starts throwing temper tantrums and picking her fingers until she bleeds. I don't know what to do but I am afraid that its something more than her just being scared and idk what to do cuz she doesn't tell me anything other than im scared

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2013

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This certainly doesn't sound like normal behaviour - it is overly violent. Is there something in particular that is triggering the behaviour? Is your child angry about something in particular? We really need more information about the circumstances to be able to help (i.e. has there been violence in the home or somewhere that your child may have been exposed to, have there been any recent major life changes, etc).

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