Kristine - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
My son has a great & well thought out IEP for his learning disabilities. This has been very helpful & his saving grace, since his diagnosis of ADD in the early years of elementary school. However, as the years have gone by, we have found that he is being unfairly & socially ostrasized by his peers, due his learning challenges and the smaller classroom environment he prefers to continue to opt to remain in so that he may get the one-on-one help that he requires for success. Early on, he LOVED school, but now my worst fear is coming true: he dreads it &hates it! He stresses out at the very thought & cries to me how petrified he is to go back each day. Somehow, thank God, he is, for now, still eager to learn and to do well in as far as grades. However, starting a few years ago, he started seriously asking to be home schooled instead. The public school system he is in is an excellent one and provides a bounty of resources. This school year, having just begun last week & we are on day 3 of this new year (of which he has already missed one day due to absolute anxiety & stress). Now, he is actually BEGGING to be schooled at home! If I could read the future to know what is the very best venue for my child's education, I would do whatever is the best thing. If home schooling would be the most beneficail for him, I would immediately do my research and get that plan in action. I have no experience at all and need help.
On a side note, to add to my confusion, my painfully shy, independant, stong-willed, 16 year old daughter (now 11th grader), honors student and polar opposite of her brother learning-style wise, is suddenly making the same request for differant reasons altogehter. Upon learning that homeschool was even an option that I was willing to entertain, she has apporoached me everyday on the subject. Although her reasons differ greatly, I am also concerned about her. She says she would much prefer learning at home than in shcool and has even quit (against my will) her huge commitment to the school's marching band over this past summer. Her explanation
was that it was too big of a time commitment and that she wanted more time to focus on her honors classes and to join other clubs and so forth. However, now that school has begun, she complains aobut giong and shows no interest wahtsoever in getting any more involved in the school than she has to?!?! She has always done excellent in school, even earning distinguished honor roll. She is telling me that if I would homeschool her brother bc of his learning disabilities and bc of how cruelly he is being treated as a result of the extra help he needs, that it would actually be only fair that I provide the same option for her as well. My hesitation with her is mainly that she has always thrived & flourished in school up to now.
I am confused, stressed out and scared to make the wrong decisions on any of this as I have no experience with home schooling or cyber schooling at all and want desperately to make the right choices for each of my two individual children and for their education so that they may have the options that they deserve laid out ion the future. Please offer any advise on this huge topic that you may have to offer. I would appreciate all feedback! Thank you for listening!