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Tyrae - posted on 03/22/2011
In one of her posts she said " My kids now 8, and 4 know who he is and that he is their brother." Which is showing that she has two at home and they know about the one boy that isn't there. She only gave the first one up for adoption.
Gloretha wasn't doing a personal attack, she was giving reassurance to Tina that she shouldn't hide her face in shame for giving up her babe for adoption... at least that's how I took it...
Doreen - posted on 03/28/2011
Brandy, I use to think along the lines of where you are mentally to have the balls to dis Tina... then on a community project met some girls who had to deal with a crisis pregancy. A situation that could have caught every single person I know and all of you on circle of mom's off guard. If you actually took the time to understand the unselfish act of giving your child up for adoption you'd be so shy of yourself. Selfish mothers don't grant their children even a chance in life so they abort. Mothers of adopted children hope those kids end up with the best parents - people who can offer her child a future... which she can't do. Think about that for a moment.
TINA - don't let your faith in life be shaken in love and don't allow people to speak into your life that don't deserve it. If I was an adopted child, I would want my biological mother to "own" me in her heart.
Keshia - posted on 03/24/2011
Brandy- its non of you business why she gave her son up for adoption. That was completely out of line and disrespectful. She probably just wanted a better life for him. Tina- you did what's best for him. I'm sure it had nothing at all to do with you. Dont let ignorance get to you. Always remember ignorance is bliss!!
Leah - posted on 03/24/2011
My 1st born Claire Lisa born 10/26/07
As for the little ummm back n forth we have going on....i don't agree with Brandy just coming out pretty much shaking fingers at Tina. 1st off...Brandy have you ever been in the position to where adoption for any of your children was an option...if not then how can you criticize Tina for thinking of her child 1st instead of thinking of herself. She did the best that she thought was for her child & that was to be with a loving family that maybe can't biologicaly have children themselves that can love the child like it was their very own. I criticize you for even opening this up for discussion. Did you think what your remarks might due to Tina?...no i don't think so. I think its quite rude of you Brandy to just blast Tina like that for doing what i think is a very noble thing for her child.
So next time maybe put yourself in the other persons shoes before you just saying anything negative especially when it comes to children. I'm just gonna ask....have you ever just thought of what a mother goes threw mentally, physically or emotionally when it comes to giving their child up for adoption. Its not like dropping a dog off at the pound...you just don't forget you know.
Tina...congrats to you & all of your pregnancies wishing you a Happy & Healthy remaining weeks or months in your pregnancy!
Katherine, how do u figure that we were being rude? we didnt curse or threaten each other... this is circle of moms right? where people suggest things, give others advice, help with problems, opinions? i was not offended by anything anybody said we all have our own opinions. i admit i didnt know the whole story, but i wasnt trying to pick a fight. the way i come across may seem offensive but i mean no harm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lise - posted on 03/22/2011
There is no reason to be so rude Brandy. You are free to have your own beliefs but you don't have to post it on here.
And Tina you have nothing to apoligize for.
That is not what this conversation is about though My girls were born on July 5 2006 and April 30 2010.
once again i was NOT judging! how do u think ur first born feels? mommy didnt want me and gave me up, but she kept the other 3... what was wrong with me? u can explain to ur child all day long but u never truly know what they r thinking.
Second all u talked about was 2 boys. 1 u gave up, the other u kept but u talked about being on ur 4th pregnancy i just gathered u gave up the 3rd 1 too u didnt speack of that 1 not that i seen. but i didnt not judge u about that until it showed 4th pregnancy but no mention of the 3rd
Tina, it is no one's business but your's what happened. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone on here! You did what you felt was best and all that REALLY matters is the kids.... and it sounds like ALL of your's are doing fine! :)
As for the OP.... 12/13/01. I'll have twin teenage girls on 12/13/14.....
Caroline - posted on 03/22/2011
i am so sorry that we still have ignorant people that judge others for their decisions and or mistakes. Tina, do not pay any mind to those who do not understand or want to understand your situation. it is your business why you did that. i applaud you for having your kids now and raising them. have as many as you and your husband desire. it is no ones business.
Tina - posted on 03/22/2011
Brandy, first off by letting me say it was the best thin for me and my child at the time for him to be released for adoption. You have no clue about my financial situation at the time or about me.
Second thank you Emma for standing up for me. You are right a lot did change for me in two years. I would never rip my son away from what he knows as his parents.
Third let me just say this. It was not for $$ reasons that I released my son. I could have and would have made it work. I have my two boys now and am expecting a 3rd baby on the way. if you want to get technical my fourth. A LOT has changed in the last ten years since my first son I am married have a home and am stable financially . I am sorry for anyone who can not understand that I did what was best at the time.
Brandy maybe you should find more out about a person before you judge them.There is a long story behind my choice. I am sorry you jumped right to money on why I would not keep him but some times it is not all about the Dollars. It is about what is right and the best situation or choice at the time. I chose that I have no regrets at all.I am sorry that you are so closed minded and judgmental about others situations. I am very open and would have answered questions if you would have asked.
ever thought about birth control Tina? I would never have more kids then what i can afford, i have 2 boys and im struggling now i would never dream on having another 1 just to have to give it u for adoption. im not saying u giving up ur child is wrong, but having baby after baby is kind of selfish! :)
Tina - posted on 03/22/2011
Gloretha Gray, I don't hide my face I have an open adoption with him and the family I chose for him. I talk with him once every few months to see how they are doing and we try to see each other about 4 to 5 times a year. We now live in different states. My kids now 8, and 4 know who he is and that he is their brother. He knows I am his birth mom and knows in child terms on why I did release him. But thank you. I do consider him my first born and my son still, It is just hard sometimes when I say I am on my fourth pregnancy but then I get asked what?? because most people only know of my 2 boys at home.
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