what do i do?

Mary - posted on 03/14/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Hi Moms, I have an 8month and 3wks old and she likes to sleep late no matter what I do including taking a cold bath... Its really frustrating. What can I do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/17/2014

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Good grief. It would be SO nice if the OP didn't go back and delete her responses because she feels 'picked on' in the thread.

Why even ask a friggin question if you 1) don't want to hear anything negative 2) don't want to pay attention to or acknowledge the responses, and 3) you're going to delete every f*n thing you post when people start asking for clarification?

Why waste everyone's time that way???

Inconsiderate.

Mary, since it seems that you have not figured out where our confusion lies, here it is: you said the baby likes to SLEEP LATE. This means that she likes to sleep late in the morning. If you wanted to say "how do I get my baby to GO TO SLEEP", then that's what you should have asked.

And no, you don't give a COLD bath to a baby that you want to put to sleep.

Michelle - posted on 03/15/2014

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Well I had read your OP and your other posts and also thought you wanted her to wake earlier in the morning, not go to sleep earlier.
You should have said how do I get my daughter to go to bed earlier.

Jodi - posted on 03/15/2014

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Actually, Mary, I'm not the only one here who thought you meant you wanted her to wake earlier in the morning. I read perfectly fine, thank you. When you say your daughter likes to "sleep late", that generally means sleeping late in the morning. If, however, you want to try to get her to go to bed earlier, then just say that. That is not what you said. It doesn't help that you have now deleted some of your other posts where you tried to explain. You may speak English, but it wasn't actually 100% clear what you were after.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/15/2014

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Well, wake her up early, and do as many activities with her during the day as you can. Have her normal nap times during the day, but maybe shorten them. Then start putting her to bed at the time you would like. This may take a week or more for adjustment, but the more consistent you are, the better results you will see.

Jodi - posted on 03/15/2014

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Ok, it sounded like you were complaining about her waking late. It was just the language difference, that's the way it came across.

Lisa - posted on 03/15/2014

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Our babies are around the same age. They are very active aren't they!!

Sounds like there might be a few different things happening. If you look at them separately it might make it more manageable for you to tackle. These are just a few suggestions that worked for me with my 4 munchkins:

a) Discover her natural sleep pattern
Like some of the other mamas, I'm wondering whether you need to worry about what time baby wakes up? If you're able to, perhaps let her wake at her own time. After a few days of doing this, it'll be a bit clearer about what her natural pattern is. You may find that it's one that will suit you too. At the very least, it does take the pressure off your shoulders that comes with wanting a baby to be awake/asleep at specific times.

b) Tackle her daytime naps.
If baby is overtired you will be in for one difficult night! Overtired babies struggle to go to sleep in the evening and their sleep can be fretful.
A baby of this age will be getting around 14 hours sleep (although there's lots of flex in that number) which includes 2-3 naps during the day. Usually around 2-3 hrs at a time although my baby tends to sleep for around 1.5 hrs each time. They usually have a morning nap and an afternoon nap and that will get them through to their night time sleep. Try to have a couple of days where you can watch her like an eagle. At the first sign of sleepiness pop her into bed for a nap. An internet search for 'baby tired signs' brings up lists and videos if you're not sure about what these are. You might find that once she's getting her naps she'll sleep better at night.

3) Arrange baby's sleeping environment
If you have a crib for baby, she's at a good age to start using it. Just be a bit careful as she's also at the age when she could pull herself up to stand with the crib bars so make sure it's nice and deep so she doesn't topple out. Make sure the environment is nice for sleeping - during the day it's a little lighter and louder than at night but still lovely and cozy.

4) See if she'll sleep by herself
This will be a challenge if she's not used to it but getting her used to a new sleeping arrangement will take a total of 3 days (5 max). They'll be hard days but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So if you're up for it, plan for how you want to manage her dislike of the new arrangement! Having a plan will help you manage your own stress in the situation. Put her to bed tired but not asleep. This too might be the key to her (and you) having a good night's sleep.

5) Evening routine
Babies do get used to settling routines. Find one that suits your lifestyle. If you can regularly give her a bath, milk then bed that'd be great. She's a good age to start reading bedtime stories to as well. With 4 kiddos, I manage to do milk and bed and everything else often slips! But she's used to that and so goes to bed fine. I try to have her in bed by 7:00pm each night. It did take a few days for her to settle into that routine.

The other thing I'd say is, if the situation is getting stressful ask a friend or family member to keep you company while she's getting used to going to sleep by herself. Tell them what your plan is and get them to be ready with a cuppa while nothing works (which it probably won't for the first couple of days - but it will eventually)!

Best of luck mama!

Jodi - posted on 03/14/2014

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I'm still confused as to why it is a problem for her to wake late. A cold bath won't help a baby get to sleep either.....Why would you even give a baby a cold bath, ever? Why are you getting frustrated over something that doesn't matter? Sorry, there must be something I'm not quite understanding here.

Michelle - posted on 03/14/2014

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I'm not understanding why you have to wake her up as well. If you are really wanting her up early then you need to get her into a routine.
IMO, if she has problems sleeping without you maybe you need to think about getting her into her own bed, it will only lead to problems later.

Jodi - posted on 03/14/2014

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So why does she have to wake up in the morning if you are at home with her? Why can't you just leave her be? Honestly, a cold bath is a pretty cruel way to wake up an 8 month old when it isn't at all necessary.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/14/2014

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Wow. Perhaps a schedule would be a good thing. But, honestly, its not like she's got a job to be at in the morning...if she doesn't wake with you, and you have to be somewhere, change her, dress her, put her in her carrier, and away you go.

Jodi - posted on 03/14/2014

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She's 8 months old, how much of a handful can she be? How many naps is she having through the day? Maybe you need to cut her naps so she will sleep earlier in the evening.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/14/2014

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Most moms have the opposite problem...kid gets up too early.

What time do you put her down? Try putting her down earlier, then she'll wake earlier.

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