What do I do to get my 1yr old to stop hitting me when she is mad at me?

Amanda - posted on 07/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I don't want to hit her back because I don't want her to learn that that is what you do when someone hits you. I feel like there isn't a whole lot though. I've tried telling her "We don't hit, be soft" and then I will scoot away from her. It seems to make her even more angry and she will come back by me and continue to scream and hit me. What's a mommy to do?

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Amanda - posted on 07/13/2012

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Thanks Krista for the advice. I have tried the "No hitting" and walking away, but she fallows me and continues to hit, and this will go on until she gets bored of it and finds something else to do. I will try the other two options you told me about. Pray for me that they work. :)

Krista - posted on 07/09/2012

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What I did with my son is if he hit me, I'd hold his arm gently and firmly by his side and say, "NO hitting" in a stern voice. I'd then walk away from him and go into another room for a minute or so. It took awhile, but he eventually learned that if he hits, he loses Mommy's attention.

I wonder -- have you SHOWN her what soft touch is? If she's being rough with something, just take her hand and say, "No, we touch softly", and help her touch things in a soft manner.

Another idea might be to help her find a way to express her anger in a more constructive way. So if you see someone on TV or in a book who is angry, you say, "They're MAD!" And you cross your arms and frown. Do this if you're angry as well. And when she starts freaking, you say "Is (kid's name) MAD?" and assume that pose. Eventually she'll start using that as a way to express that she's angry, because she'll know that you actually understand it, which is a lot less frustrating for her.

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