What do I do when my 4 and 2 yr old will not let my husband do anything for them when I am around? Everything is


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Tara - posted on 10/19/2011




I just tell them "Mama is busy right now, you will have to have Daddy help you". They sometimes fuss a bit, but they need to learn they can't always have what they want and that Daddy can help them just as well as Mama can.

Sherri - posted on 10/19/2011




You tell them straight out no daddy will do it, mommy is busy.

You need to plain and simple but your foot down. They do this because you guys have allowed it, if it isn't allowed the behavior will stop.

Yes you most likely will deal with some temper tantrums and meltdowns let it happen they will realize those still will not get what they want.

Amy - posted on 10/19/2011




I would simply tell the child mommy is doing x if you want y then have daddy get it/do it. Otherwise you will have to wait till I'm done with this in 20 minutes.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/19/2011




That is hard. Are you a stay at home mom? If you are, they are so used to you doing everything for them already. You can start simple, like if they ask you for something, tell them.."yes, but go see if daddy wants to help" and have him start playing with him more. Leave the house more often with him in charge. Just some simple ideas that may help.

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