what do i do when my daughter hits me and i have nowhere to turn

Sandy - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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i feel like im a bad parent..i dont know what to do anymore..my 14 yr old daughter hits and kicks and punches me when she is mad..we tried councling theropy meds everything..we have so mmany specialists in our life..i am so tired..they are here every night..she doesnt come home after school..stays at boyfriends..boyfriends dad doesnt care what they do..i found a lot of stuff on facebook..sexting naked pics drinking drugs..i thought the dad would like to know whats going on..i got yelled at by him for invading there privacy..he said his boy did nothing wrong and that i need to learn to control my daughter..he said it was all her fault..she snuck out to goto his house at 2 in the morning..that was my fault too..even though they let her in and hung out all night..i talked to a friend..she said i need to learn to control my kid..counclers said the same thing..i have taken everything from her..she has cloths bed and pillow and blanket..she still acts up..this on top of the lying and stealing..i just want to check myself in to a hospital and call it good..all oi want to do is cry..i also have a 10, and 12 year old girls..im worried about them too..how much are they picking up..and i spend so much time for one reason or another on the 14 yr old that i have no time for the other2...i just dont know what to do anymore..i dont know where to turn..any thoughts would help..but please, i cant handle much more of being called a worthless parent

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sometimes having them in the hospital is the help they need. My friend is bipolar. Ended up in the locked psych ward for almost 3 months. She has good control of herself now, got therapy in there. Basically got all the help she needed, and wouldn't get released until she worked with the help she was getting. There is something wrong with her and you need to get her the help she needs before she ends up getting herself in trouble, or possibly injured.

Dove - posted on 01/25/2013

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If my preteen/teenaged child hit me I would tell them ONCE that they were never to do that again. If it ever happened again I would call the police and press charges for assault.

She needs some serious help and firm discipline or she sounds like she's going to end up in jail anyway.

Just read your follow up.... send her to the group home or have her committed in the hospital until they can get her meds right and she is definitely taking them.

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Dove - posted on 01/26/2013

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If I am being assaulted by a child old enough to know better.... you'd better believe I'm involving the cops. My oldest is 11 and the same size as me. You think I'm going to just 'work it out' if she's got the balls to assault me when she's 12? Hell no. Of course, my youngest isn't even 5 and knows better than to hit mom.

Putting her in the group home or hospital is NOT giving up on her.... If she is bipolar, she needs more help than you are, obviously, capable of giving her. You want to know how many times my stepsister (also bipolar) was hospitalized as a teenager... to save her LIFE? It's not giving up on your child... it's getting her the help she needs while she is still young enough for you to have some control over what does or does not happen in her life.... once she's an adult she could end up in jail or dead for doing the things she is doing. Help her now or risk losing her forever.

By the way... my stepsister is in her mid 20's now, happily married, and visit with our parents willingly more now than she did in her teen's.

Sandy - posted on 01/26/2013

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i dont understand why no one wants to work anything out anymore...run to the cops..have they locked up..whatever..i love my kids and want to keep my family together..i want to figure it out and find the problem..not get rid of her and give up on her..thats crap..doesnt anyone love there family anymore

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are you sure she is even taking them? You should notice some change whether they are the right ones or not.

Sandy - posted on 01/25/2013

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she is biepolar, adhd and odd.we have tried all..they suggest a group home..another fight with the husband..maybe she isnt on the right meds..

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have you gone to like a parental class/support group? instead of a counselling have you tried a social worker? they might have ideas. Also has your daughter been evaluated for behaviour disorders? That could be her issue. This seems more than teenage rebellion.

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