What do I do when the father of my unborn baby messes with my head?

Amanda - posted on 11/14/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




When I was 10 weeks pregnant, my fiancée and I separated due to his destructive choices. Now as I'm 15 weeks, I want to work things out to avoid being alone and I have clinical depression which makes the controlling of my emotions even harder. After an argument we had, I take a few days to really think about why I want to work things out with him. I come to the conclusion that he is woth it and I make an attempt to change myself to work things out (he says I have some flaws that trigger him).
he tells me he loves me and wants to work things out, yet he doesn't hold back telling me he's found another female he has interest in and will not exclude the possibilities that might occur with her. I'm feeling my heart break and I can't help but to cry and become depressed. I try really hard to give myself something to do, jobs, video games, cooking, anything and I can't keep myself from returning to at dark place in my mind. Any advice?


Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013




"I want to work things out to avoid being alone"

That says it all. This is NOT a reason to go back to someone. This is a reason to go and talk to a counsellor about your issues. Given you have clinical depression, are you seeing a therapist?


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Amanda - posted on 11/14/2013




I do see a therapist once every week. My ex decided to lay things on me after i saw the doc.
And thats one of the many confusing parts. Once i found out i was pregnant it was like a sudden thing for him to make those choices. Then After we officially broke up, he stopped all his destructiveness. Like he wanted to break up just didnt know how to. Then suddenly wants to work things out and "be the man i deserve". He Really put in effort to prove that hes trying.

Amy - posted on 11/14/2013




Why would you want to be with someone who makes destructive choices? And not being alone isn't a reason to stay with someone, actually until you are capable of being happy alone then you will never be happy with someone else.

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