What do I say to a 7 year old thats wanting to learn about sex?

Brandy - posted on 04/02/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Shes looking up things that even I don't look up. I was that young and didn't get that talk, I talked to a switch. Now I'm needing to know what exactly should I say. I don't wanna be too straight forward, it might scare or even worse interest her into finding out more... Anyone got any suggestions on how the conversation should start?

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Kate CP - posted on 04/02/2012

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Answer her questions truthfully and honestly. I would sit down and say "I know you're interested in learning about sex. First, I want to know why you want to know about it? Are your friends talking about it or did you see something on TV or on the computer that made you curious? And second, I'll answer any question you have for me. What's your first question?" And let her ask. DON'T ACT LIKE THIS IS A BAD THING. She needs to understand that she can come and talk to you about this and not be judged or feel bad because she's curious. She should understand that this is an activity that only grown ups do with other grown ups.

Kate CP - posted on 04/02/2012

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Telling her nothing about sex when she is already looking into it is a surefire way to make it a taboo topic which will only feed her curiosity about it. If you want her going to her friends for information about sex then don't tell her anything. If you want her coming to YOU and being open and honest with YOU then you need to be open and honest with HER.

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Krista - posted on 04/02/2012

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Kate's right. She's already curious, so trying to tell her it doesn't concern her would be like trying to stuff toothpaste back into a tube. It is much better for her to know the correct, biological facts about reproduction, as well as honest, open information about things like love and dating and relationships. I would just answer her questions briefly, but honestly. Let her lead the conversation. She may be satisfied with just basic information at this point. But the earlier and more often you have this conversation, the (MUCH!) easier it will be when she's older and asking about really difficult subjects like abortion or sexual violence.



And by "looking up things", I would assume you mean on the internet? Time to get yourself some parental controls on your browser, methinks!!!



And Sherrine, I hope for your sake that your child does not find herself sexually attracted to a boy when she's 14, and doesn't know any better (thanks to you) when he tells her that she can't get pregnant the first time she has sex.

Sherrine - posted on 04/02/2012

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Tell her she is too young to even know the word sex and that it does not concern her for another 10 yrs. I hv a 7 yr old and I wld probably fall to floor if the word "sex" ever came out her mouth... I tell her all the time if she asks questions that are regarding "adult" things that she is simply too young and thats all u need to say to her. If she is 7 she should not be exploring things regarding that subject yet

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