what do one expect from a first night after weddin? not sexually active and first esperience.

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Monique Tricia - posted on 06/18/2012

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hahahahah @ SARA K, dont get me wrong ok and i repeat my self once again sorry if i offended u. THANKS

well, i know the foundamental bases of building a very strong relationship is communication and dont 4 get de BIBLE even said ::: before 2 people can walk together, unles they are in agreement::::, havnt said that, it simply signify that without respect, commnication,trust,compromise,love,tolerance,endurance,and so on we can neva bond o satisfy any body on this hemsphere not to talk about those we willingly give our soul, body and spirit to. and the best way to stay in along term relationship/partnership is ((LEARNING TO LISTEN FAST AND SLOW TO SPEAK))) plz dnt get me wrong if i laugh........ bcoz am not what u think i'm ok

i didnt mean 2 sound mean to u ok, just that som times some very important issues in our lives are more o less funny but hey @ the end of the day we bagain in what we blive in and how we want to be TREATED.............thanks for your advice and seriously frogive me if i upset u. SHALOM. to my gudfrnd SARAH KLAUZER

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/18/2012

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hahahahah @ SARA K, dont get me wrong ok and i repeat my self once again sorry if i offended u. THANKS

well, i know the foundamental bases of building a very strong relationship is communication and dont 4 get de BIBLE even said ::: before 2 people can walk together, unles they are in agreement::::, havnt said that, it simply signify that without respect, commnication,trust,compromise,love,tolerance,endurance,and so on we can neva bond o satisfy any body on this hemsphere not to talk about those we willingly give our soul, body and spirit to. and the best way to stay in along term relationship/partnership is ((LEARNING TO LISTEN FAST AND SLOW TO SPEAK))) plz dnt get me wrong if i laugh........ bcoz am not what u think i'm ok

i didnt mean 2 sound mean to u ok, just that som times some very important issues in our lives are more o less funny but hey @ the end of the day we bagain in what we blive in and how we want to be TREATED.............thanks for your advice and seriously frogive me if i upset u. SHALOM. to my gudfrnd SARAH KLAUZER

Sarah - posted on 06/17/2012

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It doesn't mean you can't enjoy it if your partner asks. Communication is key to any relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. You don't "stop" and ask during the intercourse, but if your partner cares about you, he will check in with you to make sure that you aren't in pain and that you like what he's doing. Who wants a partner who doesn't care that you are there and treats you just like a hole he can stick his wiener in? I don't think its funny at all. It's a statement of what a considerate and loving partner SHOULD do so that he doesn't hurt you, because the possibility very really exists that he can.

It seems to me that you're very immature about your sexuality if things like this give you the giggles. I thought you said you were in your 20s, but you're acting like a 12 year old. It has me rather concerned for you that if you can't even imagine what should be expected in the bedroom with your partner without giggling like a schoolgirl that you won't have the maturity to communicate with your partner what you do and don't like. Not telling your partner what you do and don't like doesn't bode well for your relationship or your sex life.

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/17/2012

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hahhaahaha very strong word (POUND), hope they are not starve for ages . lol............infact u are helping me alot but it seems your aid is sending my whole being into a panic room .............trust me. you askin????? hmmmm, u must be a great haunter, forgive me if offended u.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/17/2012

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Men that care about their partner, DO ask. They can pound really hard and hurt you even if you ARE having sex regularly. I ALSO check to see if my husband likes what I am doing.

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/17/2012

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@ LITTLE MISS. ok, i have heard u and will write in full words as well as understandable thanks.SHALOM

i wrote it wont be very enjoyable having sex, if the man have to stop every seconds and mintues to check on not hurting her partner.. which make me laugh..............hope u get it now

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/17/2012

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No idea what you are saying Moniquetrica....if you want ANYONE to be able to understand you, try typing in full words.

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/17/2012

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hahahah vry funny!!! .................... i dnt tink is vry enjoyable, just imagin stopin n askin evry moment if ok o nt. i cant stop lafin bt hey 10x n may GOD blesses u 4 been der 2 anser al ma questions. plz let me kw if u find it dificot 2 read ma wrds coz am used of writin in teens way. 10x SARAH K..........

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2012

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I found it uncomfortable the first time, not necessarily "painful" just uncomfortable. My husband was very slow and careful though, always checking and asking how I was doing. I don't think it has to hurt at all, just make sure you're body is ready before (and this goes for ANY time, not just the first time) by making sure you're lubricated and turned on. If you're not adequately lubricated any time it will hurt. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/15/2012

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10x alot. bt does it hav 2 b always awkward n hurtful 4 de 1st tym? SHALOM !!

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2012

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Make sure you do lots of foreplay and make sure you're moist so as to decrease discomfort. Talk about your expectations ahead of time. Make sure he understands you clearly on how ready you are to move forward. Go slow. If it starts to hurt, wait, then go slower. You may want to use a towel underneath in case you bleed. It may or may not happen, don't be surprised by it. Then you work together to pleasure each other. Speed up as you are both comfortable with, slow down if you need it slower for comfort. It can be a bit painful the first time, but it does get better in time once you learn what you both like, your vagina isn't covered with your hymen, and your bond together grows. Good luck and congratulations!

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/14/2012

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thanks sister for your time and input...............well appreciated. SHALOM

Kaitlin - posted on 06/14/2012

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go slow, have lubrication on hand, and expect it to be a little awkward and a little painful. It gets better. Communication is key- tell him what feels good and what hurts, and before or after he orgasms, he should be sure to pleasure you also. Good luck. The more you are able to talk about it, the more you'll grow together.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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Well, then you should be very comfortable with one another. First time might be a little painful or just uncomfortable, but very uniting. Very quick also LOL. Lots of cuddling after I am sure. Don't try to be to nervous or it can make everything tense up and be a bit more painful. Expect some blood, but you never know if it will be a few drops or a lot.

Make sure to pee after to avoid a UTI. He needs to be slow and gentle at first, and take ques from you how fast or hard to go. I hope that helps. Also, get some ky just incase you need it, and if you are NOT planning on getting preggo right away, use a condom or other forms of birth control. You CAN get pregnant your first time.

Monique Tricia - posted on 06/14/2012

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will be 26yrs coming august, we have been together almost 8 to 9 yrs and yes we are planing to tie the knot. SHALOM

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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How old are you, and what do YOU expect? How long have you been with the man you are marrying?

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