WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A SWEET 16 BIRTHDAY A CAR OR A PART?????

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Donna - posted on 01/27/2009

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Our Daughter got a Limo & Party and then Suprize a new car ! That she does appreciate very much . The agreement was it was her car as long as she stayed in school , made good grades. Our children are only young once , We believe that you should give what you can afford. We are not promised tomorrow so if you don;'t do it today you may never be able too. Good Luck !

Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2009

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My mom threw me a party and my friends and I still talk about it today (over 15 years later!) We went camping, though. We were allowed to have our own campsite and bonfire and "gourmet" meals of yummy steak and potatos were cooked at my moms site. If camping isn't up your alley then a spa day with some friends and a party later on at home or fancy dinner out with a few friends would be great, too. Everyone could dress up, presents can be opened there and you don't have to clean up!

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Lisa - posted on 04/12/2016

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Absolutely !! So perfectly said! Amen!!!
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Donna Hilley - posted on 01/27/2009

Our Daughter got a Limo & Party and then Suprize a new car ! That she does appreciate very much . The agreement was it was her car as long as she stayed in school , made good grades. Our children are only young once , We believe that you should give what you can afford. We are not promised tomorrow so if you don;'t do it today you may never be able too. Good Luck !

Wanda - posted on 01/27/2009

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Is the sixteen year old a boy or a girl? If a boy, then he might appreciate working on his own car, so buy a part. If a Girl, they really like styling for their friends. Although...I raised three girls and none of them really wanted a car for their sixteenth. That didn't come for a couple of years after that. My step son though really like working on his car.

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2009

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It's been 10 years ago for me that I had my sweet 16 and my parents did get me a car but the conditions were that I worked and paid my car insurance in full every month & also gave them $50 a week towards my car payment. Of course working a job after school I hardly made enough money to cover these expenses but it taught me the value of a dollar, how to budget & not to blow my money. And when I wrecked my car only 3 months after getting it & my license it was back on the bus for me until I could repay them my $500.00 deductible for getting it fixed.  



With all that aside and me being an adult now I disagree with them having givin me that car even through all the responsibilty I learned(& as much as I loved it back then). The wreck I mentioned above occured because I was checking my pager that had went off. And I remember a few times I almost ran off the road messing with my radio. Now there are so many more things that distract teenagers...cell phones, ipods, etc. I realize now that I just wasn't mature enough to handle being set free with my own vehichle even though I had taking driver's education courses & my parents spent countless hours riding with me on my learner's permit.



So I guess my opinion is that a party is more suited for the 16th birthday. Save the car for graduation-now that's a well deserved gift. :)

Barb - posted on 01/27/2009

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My son will be 16 this summer and he's been told that he'll have to earn the money to buy a car and help pay for the insurance. One because I'm a single mom and can't afford it and two because he needs to have that responsibility and I think he;ll take more pride in it if he has to do it himself. I gave him an alternate, to have a big party at Kalahari, a huge indoor waterpark, and he'd fine with that. He plans on getting a job and buying a car from a family member, I'm sure at a great deal!

Judith - posted on 01/27/2009

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I have to agree with everyone else. I believe if a kid doesn't have to pay for at least part of the insurance they don't appreciate the provledge of driving and will be really hard on the vehicle. You have to teach teenagers responsibility. Judy H

Rebecca - posted on 01/27/2009

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Quoting Elizabeth:



alright, all u people that give ur kids cars are crazy, if u can afford it go for it, but i would definately make them pay for it, u know help them out by co-signing but make them pay for it, and maybe pay their insurance, but i remember my sweet 16 and it was an awesome party!! you have to make sure to teach ur kid how to live responsibly and its a great feeling when ur only 16 and are paying for something urself, and never tell them oh im taking ur car away as punishment, bc they are the ones paying for it.  think about it if ur boss was like oh im taking ur car away cuz ur not meeting ur quota, doesnt make much sense cuz ur the one paying for it.  ....neways im a young mom and it wasnt that long ago that i was 16!! but i remember my parents really taught me how to have real responsiblities and look at me now i just bought my first house!!





I'm with you.... A Car? What? To be honest my 16th there wasn't even a party. There seems to be a lot of expectations here. Sorry, I come from a farming background. You needed a ride somewhere? Jump in the back of the truck.

Pati - posted on 01/27/2009

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I threw a BIG party for my daughters sweet 16, she got a car 6 months later when she could afford to make 1/2 the monthly payments. But the party was so much fun! it was a formal ball Cinderella style, different colors though and in our backyard. Instead of her finding her prince at midnight she transformed from a young girl to a young woman, her dress changed from a long gown to a short grown up dress her shoes from slippers to high heels, her hair from an up do to down and hip and her tiara changed too from a furry leopard one to a rhinestone one. It was amazing, and I’m still impressed with myself for pulling it all off for under a thousand dollars.

Annette - posted on 01/27/2009

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I gave my daughter, a sweet sixteen party and I really wanted to see my family and friends, too. Kind of like a reunion.

Joanne - posted on 01/27/2009

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hi, a party,you could wait a little longer. then buy a car .when u believe she more responsible. give it to her

User - posted on 01/27/2009

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My car was a college graduation gift - my parents' threw a party for my 16th birthday.

Shelia - posted on 01/27/2009

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Party! I have been through that argument twice already! Both my boys have had to work to get their car and insurance. Driving is a privilege and a great responsibility. Kids will better take better care of a car that they have to pay for themselves. They may whine, moan and complain that all their friends have one, but it won't kill them, not to have a car. They will learn a great lesson in life that will help them in the future.

Alma - posted on 01/27/2009

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Defenitly party, you can borrow a car to her but not give it to her. 16b years is too young and maybe this the car as a present will spoil her...

Bobbi - posted on 01/27/2009

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Ugh... I wish I would have gotten a car but it just wasn't in our parents budget at the time. I had 2 siblings and we each had our own used car but it wasn't until at least a year after our 16th when the older sibling went to college and we got there "hand me down" car lol.



I guess we're not that into the sweet 16th in the midwest (wisconsin).... parties happen all the time so it wouldn't be much different for someone to put one on for their 16th...unless they went all out...



Either way, not that I have my own children I will suggest the party. Make it big. I agree with driving being a privelage and it shouldn't be given for a birthday unless it has been already earned.



 

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alright, all u people that give ur kids cars are crazy, if u can afford it go for it, but i would definately make them pay for it, u know help them out by co-signing but make them pay for it, and maybe pay their insurance, but i remember my sweet 16 and it was an awesome party!! you have to make sure to teach ur kid how to live responsibly and its a great feeling when ur only 16 and are paying for something urself, and never tell them oh im taking ur car away as punishment, bc they are the ones paying for it.  think about it if ur boss was like oh im taking ur car away cuz ur not meeting ur quota, doesnt make much sense cuz ur the one paying for it.  ....neways im a young mom and it wasnt that long ago that i was 16!! but i remember my parents really taught me how to have real responsiblities and look at me now i just bought my first house!!

Nichole - posted on 01/27/2009

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I would have to agree with Sarah. Party, Driving is a privilage. Insurance is expensive on a car for kid drivers. We have looked into it, even with discounts.

Sarah - posted on 01/27/2009

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I have not been there yet but in our case my son has to earn the privilage to drive. He has to keep his grades up and prove he is responsible.....so i would have to say he is geting a party.

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