What do you do to keep close contact with your grown children?

Sarah Anne Pratt - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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One son is always close and the other one is busy being "out there" and comes by infrequently. He does call more frequently6.

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User - posted on 11/25/2009

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dont pester him let him live his life however its the little things in life that matter. let him know discretely that you are always there for him. maybe the odd card. are you sure he doesnt feel pushed out by the closeness of you and your over son just a thought!

Robyn - posted on 11/24/2009

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your chlidren are growning up it is o'k long is they don't get in trouble and they keep calling you

Victoria - posted on 11/24/2009

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I have three grown children, and two of them have children of their own. I stay close with them on facebook and through MSN chat. I find myself going through facebook's Photo of the Day and trying to post pics of them at different stages of their lives, which quite often brings on funny comments that they can connect with each other on too. My youngest daughter moved to Quebec from Ontario in July and it has been really quite interesting to see where she lives and to be able to connect with her online whenever we want to. When someone is feeling happy we share it through our photos and comments, and likewise when someone is feeling down or ill... we can rally the troops and surround them with love. I never feel disconnected from them because we have always had a pretty open relationship. Keep it real. The rest will come naturally.

Ries - posted on 11/24/2009

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this might sound funny... but my 6 kids are spread in ages from 19yrs to 4weeks old... but I am planning now, for the empty nesting days... by planning a pool in 5-10 years...theoretically, the eldest will bring his kids over, the middle ones their uni friends and the littlies will get to see their siblings... my first hubby and I used to go over for a swim and a bbq lunch every fortnight to his parents house... I got valuable time with MIL cooking and woman stuff, and hubby got to splash with kids...it was wonderful adn non threatening.

I think, what the premise is is make yourself attractive to visit... stay happy, go shopping together, treat each other, and build a culture before they leave that makes them want to come back... and forgive them the selfish years where they forget you when building their own lives at times. we all did it! I have also found communicatiing their ways...facebook and txting and email is invaluable... even for a quick 'pick them up' comment from mum....good luck.

Sharon - posted on 11/24/2009

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lol get on their facebook and nag them on their wall about taking care of dear old mom, don't neglect dear old mom, dear old mom misses her big independent grown children, gosh it would be nice if the grown man children - dear old mom raised would come home once in a while...... lol see if that helps. oooohhhh and be sure to poke them on FB too.

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Jodi - posted on 09/26/2011

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My daughter lives in another state..she tries to call me at least everyother day. My sons live 5 minutes away....I babysit my grandchildren, I just wish I could see them more as a "family" and not feel like a babysitter and see them only when they pick up my grandchildren. I miss all of them...

I know they are busy with their lives...guess I am a mom missing my family, :)

Sarah Anne Pratt - posted on 11/28/2009

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He knows I love him just as much as I do his brother. He's just a little more independent, I guess. I just miss him from being home, I guess. I am coping.

Shelagh - posted on 11/25/2009

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Thank God for Facebook and Skype. We have 5 children aged 18 - 25, all doing their own thing, none of them even in the same country as us. Once a year, sometimes in the summer, sometimes at Christmas, we rent a big cottage for a couple of weeks over in the UK (where most of them live, most of the time) and invite them all to come and stay with us (students can't resist free accommodation and food). We're doing it at Christmas/New Year this year. They turn up with boyfriends/girlfriends and in one case a daughter, they stay a few days, and we all have a good time. Our house couldn't accommodate them all (currently 4 of the 5 have long-term partners, and one also has a baby, that's potentially 10 folk!) so renting a big place makes perfect sense. And somehow, because it's not my own home, I don't feel the same pressure - no hurried cleaning before they arrive, no urge to fill the freezer, no laundry after they've gone (note - always choose self-catering that provides linen!!!). More time to spend with the kids, which is what it's all about.

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I'm 28 years old with a son of my own & I talk to my mom at very least once a day. We usually go shopping every Friday! She's one of my best friends!

Linda - posted on 11/25/2009

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My husband and I have 3 grown children. The 23 year old son lives @ home. The 21 year old duaghter lives out of town, but calls daily and comes home for vacations. Of course she is the center of attention when she is home. The 28 year old son, lives about an hour away. We talk a few times a week. He comes home for holidays and spedal ocassions. But with lots pf people here at those time, we have no time for just us. I try to schedule at least 1 day a quarter for just him and me. We trade off; his turf and his plans or my turf and my plans. We may go out to eat, to the zoo, a museum, the movies, bike ride. Whatever. But it keeps us close.

Anne - posted on 11/24/2009

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My husband and I have two daughters, one will be 26 two days after Christmas, the youngest is was 21 in May. Both live out of state. WE live in MI, Oldest daughter lives in NC, youngest daughter lives in CA. All three of us have cell phones with unlimited texting, our computers have a free program called Skype and we can talk face to face. We e-mail and talk on the phone. Most of the time we are in contact at least 3 times a week. The times that they do not call it is because they are both very busy. Our oldest just graduated in May and there were several times when she was so busy we only heard from her once a week. Our youngest also has had weeks when we have not heard from her fore than once a week.

One thing that has really helped my husband and I get use to not being in daily contact with our daughters is that we were never "raising children" We were Raising Future Adults. Knowing this we Prayed for them daily for God to guide and direct them and and for them to listen and walk in the ways of Our LOrd.

Aida - posted on 11/24/2009

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call them all the time! my son lives out of state with my granddaughter. i always ask what new is going on, and i keep up with their interests.

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