what do you do when you want a baby so much it hurts but your partner doesn't want anymore kids ever


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I'm assuming you already have kids, so in addition to what the other ladies have mentioned.... another thing to consider is whether the other kids you have would be better w/ another sibling or a part time parent.

Open, honest communication w/ your partner is a must and if you can't come to an agreement.... wait on it a bit and/or seek counseling. Good luck!


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Jen - posted on 01/01/2011




ive kind got the same problem but with marriage ive been with my bf for 3 years i thought we would get married one day but we talked about n he doesnt never want to get married but i thought about n he is right if we love each other marriage doesnt matter.

Dora - posted on 12/31/2010




Definitely communicate your feeling with your partner. If your partner is completely against it then don't have another baby with them as they may end up resenting you and especially the baby. I know it hurts like heck and I do feel for you, but just remember you have other children and just keep enjoying them.

Susan - posted on 12/31/2010




I agree that you need to have a good discussion and make sure everyone's true feelings are out there. Are you sure it's never and just not now? My husband and I went through a period where he was ready for another kid and I thought I never wanted to have any more. As time went on, I realized I did want another child, I just wasn't ready yet. If it's really never and you definitely want another child, then I have to agree with Nichole that you have to decide what's more important to you and what you can live with. Would you resent your partner if you didn't have more children or would you regret leaving?

Nichole - posted on 12/31/2010




Try explaining your feelings to them openly & honestly without fighting and then listen to thier reasons/feelings. Try to understand where they are coming from. If they still don't want more kids, and you still do....honestly all I can say if you will have to choose between being grateful for what you have and find a way to let go of your longing for kids OR leave your partner and find one who wants children. That's a decision that really depends on what you want more kids or your partner. I hope I was helpful, sorry I don't have better advice.

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