Rhonda - posted on 06/01/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have been in a relationship with a divorced man for almost 5 years. We met after I divorced, and six weeks before he became separated. While we did not start dating until after he became separated, the ex-wife and his children believe that I split up his marriage. HIs marriage had been long over for many clear reasons, but because I dated him so soon after he separated his children and ex-wife absolutely hate me. Last Christmas his son came to our house. We were so happy he came over and I was busy doing housework while my partner was in the garage talking to him. Things really "went south" when he started verbally abusing me, telling me that I was a whore, slut, gold digger and that he had no respect for me at all. Then he turned to his father and presented him with 100 reasons why he was a bad father and then he started hitting him and choking him. His dad just took it and did not fight back. We were both just in shock. Two weeks later he called his dad and said "I guess I should apologize". His dad said you should apologize if you are sorry. And he really didn't show any remorse. The next day he called and asked to borrow a few thousand dollars. His son is acting like nothing happened inviting us to his daughter's birthday party. I feel devastated by this event and I can't go to his home anymore -- even if our granddaughter is there. His ex-wife is in her glory. We are moving away because all of the hate in this small town has people gossiping. His son made up stories for why he hated me, including one that was pure fiction. We looked at him so surprised and said "we didn't do that". But his son wanted to hate so badly that he actually said that we did and we were busted, and he knows we did because HE was there. Someone deserves an oscar for their performance. Anyway I just feel sick about it. I would love some advice. Thanks!