what do you do when your baby just doesnt stop crying..?
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Christi - posted on 11/03/2008
Babies have immature neuro systems and crying is sometimes how they can work stress out. First assess that they are ok - no fever, not hungry or wet, their clothes are comfortable and not cumbersome, they are having stools. Then I would try the "5 S's". Swaddle, put on side (like in the nursing position), suck on a pacifier or nurse, make a sushing sound (it sounds like the womb), and then sway (or move in some rhythmic motion). I do all this in a dark, semi - quiet room (lullabies or white noise machine might be helpful. Babies often have a harder time getting to sleep when they are over-tired or over-stimluated. There is a really great book to help with sleep problems called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." I recommend to all my friends! Good Luck.
Amie - posted on 11/03/2008
Depending on babies age it could mean a number of things. My two oldest were like this when they were teething. With both of them their teeth came in fairly early too. My daughter at 2 1/2 months and my son at 3 mons. Orajel works great to help with this and ice water to sleep with in the bottle. (at least with mine it did) If yours is colicky you might need to weather the storm and try to keep her calm. If you or daddy are getting to upset though and worn out the baby will pick up on this and it will make them more apt to be upset. It's best at these times to just lay them in their crib and let them cry as you calm yourself down. I know it's hard though. One of my friends had a gassy baby. He was the same way, he was always crying it seemed. They used the oval drops for that. I hope you find something that works though. It can be stressful and heart breaking when you don't know what's wrong, especially when there so small and can't tell you.
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Karen - posted on 11/07/2008
the 5 "s" are quite useful. Even if not all the "s"'s work for your child. Funny that someone said that it only last until they're 6 wks....I would have said the 6 - 12 week period is one of the trying-est of any child. I sort of feel like they're really overwhelmed because they're starting to grasp that they're out of the womb - and MAN have they got a head ache or something! LOL!
I really believe that baby wraps are an amazing Godsend. Much better that Bjorn and gives you more freedom than slings (of course the catch is that you've got to tie them - but it's worth it). Swaddling blankets (good ones that are cozy and have strong tabs) are really awesome too. You can always use a blanket to swaddle, but most kids are Houdini's at getting them undone so the swaddlers are awesome.
Worst case, you may just have a baby who needs to cry. For mothers who have never had a baby like this, it is hard for them to comprehend and they may hate hearing this, but after about 3 months you may start to notice time patterns to their crying and it may just be that they want some time to themselves to cry themselves a little bit to sleep. My son was like this for a whole year. At first I would hide in the basement because I hated to hear it, but it steadily got less and less. My daughter, thank god, was all about the swaddler and the wrap.
User - posted on 11/07/2008
I would bathe my boys with Parent's Choice Baby Bath with Chamomile and Lavender. It always seemed to work with my kids and it's under $2. Even if it was an expensive brand it would have been well worth the money. Sometimes I would bring a CD player in and play calming music or white noise while they bathed, that also helped.
Katie - posted on 11/05/2008
Nursing solves just about every problem IMO. Wearing your baby in a sling is excellent as well & is far less tiring than carrying a fussy baby for a long time.
A baby's cry is the only means of communication that s/he has to get your attention to their needs. I highly discourage you from attempting to let your baby "cry it out"... b/c how does getting more upset help? It will, however, teach the baby that you aren't going to respond, no matter how loud, hard or long they cry, but I don't think that's the message you're trying to send :)
Kathy - posted on 11/05/2008
WOW, I GUESS IT DOES GET EASIER, EVENTUALLY BUT I WOULDNT SAY AFTER 6 WEEKS CAUSE MY YOUNGEST IS 7 MONTHS AND WE STILL ARE HAVING SOME PROBLEMS WITH CRYING AND SLEEP. WHEN SHE GETS INTO THIS MOOD THOU IT IS HARD, I DO CHECK ALL THE BASICS AND WHEN ALL IS WELL I WOULD WRAP HER IN A BLANKIE AND WALK HER OR NURSE HER. SO EVENTUALLY IT GETS BETTER BUT NOT SURE WHEN I SOMETIMES HAVE TO HOLD HER WHEN SHE SLEEPS TO GET HER TO SLEEP MORE THAN 5MINUTES
GOOD LUCK THOU...
Yep- you need to check the basics (listed by other moms) to make sure the baby is ok, check with your doctor that the baby is ok, then maybe eventually give the baby time to cry it out. My daughter cried a lot in the beginning, too, and I rarely allowed it, but the truth is that some babies cry more than others. You need to know the baby is ok, but after that, you may want a video monitor- it is a different way to keep an eye on them- I hated leaving her crying but at some point you have to protect your own sanity and this made it much easier for me than listening and wondering... Just remember- this does pass- it really does, and it gets much easier!
Ashley - posted on 11/03/2008
I agree with Christi. My son is colicky and the only way we can calm him is to hold him tight on his side with his tummy against us, give him a pacifier and sway. He also likes to have a blanket or a burp rag semi-covering his face to block any light. Good luck! My son is finally getting better, but it was a long couple of months. Another good book is The Happiest Baby on the Block.
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