what do you do when your babysitter puts diapers on your kids?

Tasha - posted on 04/21/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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ok so my older kids who are 2 and 3 years old go to a babysitters house, my husband and i are potty training them right now. when there over at her house she likes to put diapers on them during nap time. i dont want to fire her and when i asked her not to put diapers on she does it anyhow. we only knew this was going on because owr son told us that he wears diapers at owr baby sitters, i called her and she admitted to me that she does put diapers on them. i dont know what to do owr think. like i said i dont want to fire her but what else can i do about it? any advice is great! thanks guys.

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Bonnie - posted on 04/21/2011

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It's true, when you think about it. If the babysitter is ignoring the fact that you said no diapers at nap time, what else could she be doing wrong?

My older son is 4.5. He doesn't nap, but he still wets at night so he wears a diaper to bed. If your kids stay dry during nap time, then I don't see why she would even think to put diapers on them, but if they do usually wet, I don't see why it is a big deal if they wear them.

Medic - posted on 04/21/2011

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Thats ok....I still have a mom crush on you.... I think this topic can just go a million different ways. Seeing as we are the only ones on this topic there are still a million questions to answer before we can actually give good valid advice. I will trade you pmsy and headachy for my son who is on kiddy crack thanks to an asthma attack.

Schyla - posted on 04/22/2011

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if they are staying dry then there is no need for a diaper if she dose not respect you enough start looking again

Kat - posted on 04/21/2011

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Maybe the sitter could do a pre-nap ritual of going to the bathroom before nap time and limit the liquids for 30 min prior to nap time. She is probally concerned about wet beds; the smell and sanitation issue. If it's just nap time, pull ups are wonderful big-boy/girl pants not "diapers". If you stress out your kids will pick up on it (children are good radar detectors) and may develop issues taking a nap at the sitters. So speak to her in private and see if you can work something out, if not, well no one is truly indespenciable.

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Brianna - posted on 07/24/2011

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ok so my mother has been running a day home for 20 years and if a kid wet the bed during nap time she will put a diaper on them over there underwear at nap time. like really if u kid is wetting the bed that a huge mess for her to clean up every day and shes got other kids to take care of at the same time and that sleep in the same area. i think there is nothin wrong if there is a diaper onthem while they sleep as long as its take off when they wake up. if u want them to think its underwear and not a diaper use a pull up diaper at nap time instead. im talking to my mom right now and shes NEVER in her 20 years of doing this had a parent that wasnt ok with her putting the diaper on a nap time

Kristen - posted on 07/24/2011

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Many kids are not potty trained especially when sleeping at 3. The baby sitter owns the bed I assume and has to do the laundry. You say she only puts them on during nap time and that sounds reasonable to me.

Jessica - posted on 04/22/2011

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I don't think she should be doing that! It's hard work potty training.....and that's not helping the situation! I would tell her ABSOLUTELY NO diapers and if it continues I would fire her!

Dana - posted on 04/22/2011

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No way, Tasha...You're still the parent, she is still under your employment. If they stay dry then she has no right to be putting diapers on them.
And it doesn't matter that it's her house, they're your kids, you're the parent.

Tasha - posted on 04/22/2011

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well i didnt expect so many responces lol. i apreciate all the comments. the fact is shes not respecting my wishes like i want her too.....they do stay dry during the day at home. my husband and i think she just dont want to deal with them making messes in there pants. when i posted the add for needing a babysitter i posted online and even when we had a face to face and phone interview i made it known that 2 out of my 3 kids were begginging potty trainers and i need someone who can deal with them when they do make messes in there pants. i guess thats why im making such a big deal about all this. mabe i need to get over my self and understand that shes gonna do what she wants with them in her house. thanks any ways gals!

Schyla - posted on 04/21/2011

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I'm with the other moms here if they aren't staying dry then why would this even be an issue and if they are staying dry then yes you need to find a sitter that will follow your wishes also my 5 and 3 year olds where cloth trainers to bed at night and during naps sometimes (more often then not) they still have accidents and these keep the sheets and furniture clean and jammies dry but let them still feel it so they wake up and finish in the toilet if anyone is interested in where I got them let me know they are so cost effective I don't know why I ever bought pull ups!!!

Sherri - posted on 04/21/2011

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Sorry if it isn't your house and they are not dry when they are waking up from nap. I would disobey your rules as well and they would be in diapers during nap time. Diapers at nap time only will not deter them from potty training during their awake hours, it only protects the furniture while they are sleeping.

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/21/2011

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if you truly dont want diapers being put on your kids you have to be firm on it,since you are paying her to look after your kids she has to follow your wishes.but personally, i know alot of people's kids that are wearing pullups at night and at naps.

JuLeah - posted on 04/21/2011

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She is not doing this thing you asked. What else is she not doing? fire her

Medic - posted on 04/21/2011

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Teresa- I wasn't arguing with you...When I started my post yours had not posted yet. I am sorry if it seemed like that.

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That's why I asked if they are dry through their naps. My son turned 3 just under a month ago and has been dry 24/7 for 4-5 months now. I would be quite upset if he had a babysitter that took it upon herself to just put a diaper on him.

As I said, IF they aren't normally dry through their naps.... I'm on the side of the babysitter, but I need clarification on that point. ;)

Medic - posted on 04/21/2011

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My son wore diapers at nap time and at night until he was 3.5 or 4. If it is just at nap time I don't see what the problem is. My son was toilet trained at 24 months during the day, at 3 during naps and 4 at night. Our daughter is only 15 months so I am not even thinking how we are going to train her. I think maybe ya'll need to take a step back and look at it from her point of view.

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Are they normally dry through nap? If not, I wouldn't make a big deal about it. If they ARE normally dry through their nap and she's just doing is as a 'just in case'..... you need to find a babysitter that will respect your wishes in regards to your children and it doesn't sound like she is that person.

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