What do you do with a teacher that seems to not care?

Rebecca - posted on 02/06/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son that is in the 4th grade has this teacher that has NOTHING nice to say about him in parent/teacher meetings...when I ask how I can help out at home all he says is he knows how to do his work he's choosing not to...my child is very intelligent and when he comes home from school he can tell me about a book that he read in school earlier that day...since his teacher also says that his comprehension is really bad...I think he's doing well, yes, he struggles a little bit in math..most people do..his teacher also nailed him with a 54 in multiplication because he was using his fingers and couldn't finish 300 multiplication facts in 3 mins....most of the high school kids that I've talked to said they couldn't do it in 3 mins either and they still use their fingers..and all those students had this same teacher in the 4th grade...as a concerned mother what should I do???

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Sherri - posted on 02/06/2012

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Okay I get that he really needs probably some better skills with communicating with you and I may not like him either if he was my childs teacher.



However, unfortunately as I try and explain to my kids they will not always like every teacher. kid employer etc. However, they do need to learn how to work with them.



Also pull the teacher up short next time and directly that you need to hear something positive as well as the negative things. Let him know that you understand his time is short but you don't only want to hear the bad but the great things as well. Also make sure you are relaying your concerns that he is making your son feel badly about himself. Sometimes the teacher may not even realize he is doing it and may need to hear it to give him the opportunity to change.

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Rebecca - posted on 02/06/2012

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I do understand that as a parent you're suppose to help your children at home as well...his reading is fine...he reads well..it's his comprehension in school that is low..but when he's at home and reads to me and then I ask him what he just read he can tell me in detail what he just read...and he can also tell you about a book he read in detail at school earlier in the day...so I don't know..maybe it's a comfort thing..I understand that he's probably trying to get him ready for next year but he could at least try to point out some positive things about him in meetings and things so I don't feel like my child can not do anything right in school...I know he's capable of the work..but his teacher makes him feel bad in school and makes me feel bad in meetings...

Sherri - posted on 02/06/2012

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Our kids aren't allowed to use their fingers either. That is automatically points deducted. The reasoning is because they are supposed to practice at home and be able to do them virtually without thinking it should come automatically if they are practicing enough at home.



It is the same thing with site words when they are reading they aren't supposed to sound them out they should see them and automatically know what they are if they have practiced reading them enough.



It doesn't sound like the teacher doesn't care. It just seems that he has high expectations. The reasoning is probably because he knows what will be expected of them next year and is trying to get them prepared. Sometimes it comes across that they don't care, however, I would bet it is the exact opposite. He cares so much that he is coming across as a hard ass to try and make sure your son is prepared for next year.

Sarah - posted on 02/06/2012

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I think the teacher is being a bit unreasonable, really using his fingers, who cares?! 300 multiplication in 3 minutes is a lot. That's two facts every second (if I'm doing my math right)! I couldn't do that! I think that's an unreasonable expectation. I would maybe ask him the areas your son needs to focus on and work with your son at home on them (math, reading, etc.). Ask the teacher for exercises your son can do at home.

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