What do you say to a relative who you think is not taking care of there children? I know I'm far from the perfect mother, but ever time I see there children they have a wet diaper on to the point it leaks on your clothes and they never have cloths on or if they do they are dirty also they always look dirty I know kids get dirty but this is different I mean they actually smell and not in a good way!!

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Stifler's - posted on 09/06/2011

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Yeah if you say "your kid is dirty why don't you bath him" they will just think you're being petty. If you just do it it encourages them to do it more often because they know people notice.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/06/2011

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Good advice Emma, lead by example. Especially if you have had a falling out, if you do say something try to avoid it being accusatory. Some people really thing they are doing a great job, but don't even realize things until they are pointed out to them.

Stifler's - posted on 09/06/2011

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If someone's kid has a really wet nappy I'm like..." oh how wet are you... let's change your nappy" and change their nappy. If their face is dirty I just wipe it up.

Denica - posted on 09/06/2011

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I know they both are young. I my self was a young mother, but I still feel like the need to wake up and be responsible parents. their oldest child screams if you get him near water. I would hate for them to lose their children, but frankly I dont know what to do.I know they wont listen to me or anyone for that matter. Its just said to see the children being brought up that way.

Tara - posted on 09/06/2011

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If you've had a falling out, odds are anything you say won't be taken well. I had a similar situation with my sister right after my niece was born (she would drop her off with formula so soured we had to scrape it out of the bottle with a knife, filthy clothes, smelling bad, etc) - I just sat her down quietly one day and laid all my concerns out on the table - I also pointed out that people in our circle of friends were talking about it and considering calling CPS and that if she didn't make changes soon she ran the risk of losing her child for neglect/abuse. I let her know about a number of community services that provided help for new parents and left it at that.

I also kept an eye on her and my niece for a long time. She did wind up losing her daughter twice for neglect and only got her back after our family fought to get her back - my mom thought at the time that having her daughter taken away would be a wake-up call and unfortunately, that did not happen.

To put it in more perspective -- My niece is now almost 18 and is relatively healthy - she has iron-deficiency anemia and some of her teeth are rotten, but she's alive. She has picked up on some of her mom's more unsavory habits (lying, stealing, going through guys like there is no tomorrow) -- so you have to realize that even if the children make it through their childhood relatively unscathed, this kind of neglect/abuse can have far-reaching effects on the rest of their life.

JuLeah - posted on 09/06/2011

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Sounds like you don't have much respect for their opinion, so why are you listening to it?

Unless you have concern that what they say is true, let it go. It can't upset you unless you allow it to

Denica - posted on 09/06/2011

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they are my husbands step brother and wife also we are not that close. we've had a kind of falling out.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/06/2011

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Geesh. How are they related to you, and how close are you to them?

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